Did you ever see a man in the grocery line who you wanted to talk to? Maybe he was in the line at the bank or even at a friend’s party. You struggle to come up with something to say. It feels like you can hear the clock ticking while you pray that your brain will finally kick in and come up with a clever question. Well, one thing I can tell you is that tit doesn’t need to be hard at all. In fact it can be amazingly simple and easy.
Here’s what happened to me this week. I was at the gas station standing by the pump waiting for it to register so I could fill my tank (well maybe put in $30.) On the other side of the pumps was a man in his 40’s probably, who sort of poked his head between the pumps from the other side, smiled and brightly said, "hello." Yeah, I was a little surprised by this. Not the usual way things go at the gas pump. But I said hello and smiled back.
Mr. Gas then moved to be in plain view but remained on his side of the pump. He smiled again and said, "Can you believe it’s October 1st already? I just heard on the radio how many it is until Christmas!"
As you can see, this is not rocket science, but it did work. I chatted with him briefly. It was a harmless, friendly exchange. Perhaps had I shown more interest, he might have pursued me further, but I’m not available.
The simplest comment or question about nothing much at all is the best way to break the ice. Don’t’ strain your brain rummaging around for a super funny, clever line. forget that. Too much pressure. And your inner critic will most likely shoot down anything you do manage to come up with any way.
I’ll give you a few starters so that you can get the idea:
What a beautiful day!
I love this time of year
Doesn’t the air smell good today?
The sky is really blue today.
Are you a Steelers fan? Did you see the game last night?
What a nice shirt
I’m so glad it’s Friday
You could come up with a few of these right? Keep a few in your mental back pocket so when you come in contact with men, you’ll have something to say without hanging back. You must strike while the iron is hot so to speak. hanging back and waiting will usually mean he got away before you uttered a syllable.
Most importantly, don’t pressure yourself into thinking this will turn into something. It’s just flirty conversation and great practice. The more you do it, the more comfortable you’ll get with the process. And it can actually be fun! What a novel idea, I know.
And you never know. I know a man who met his wife in the grocery store. She asked him to reach something on a top shelf for her. (One of my favorite tricks since I’m shy of 5 feet!)
Just start talking to people. Friendly people who are comfortable with themselves are very attractive and approachable. Make it easy for men and give it a whirl.
Single for too long, Ronnie wanted to find love. So, she made a few tweaks and then dated 30 men in 15 months to meet her adorable husband Paul. Discovering the keys to midlife dating, she founded It’s Never Too Late for Love to help other smart, successful women find love too! Her mission is to share her proven dating advice and keen insights about men with women everywhere who are serious about finding love with the right man. Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC is a Certified Coach who has helped 1,000’s of midlife women with her Love & Dating Coach services. She’s been featured on BBC’s 5 Live Radio, NBC, ABC, and Fox News, NPR, eHarmony, MSN.com, MORE.com, Connecticut Magazine among others around the world. An established author, you can find her 6 books on Amazon.