When Will He Ask Me Out on a Second Date? Understanding Men

Interested in a man and looking for answers on, “When will he ask me out on a second date?”, ” How long to wait for second date?” Read on to find out what you need to know about understanding midlife single men.

when will he ask me outWhen Will He Ask Me Out Again? That’s the Big Question

You met a guy online and your first date was great! You had a good time and you know he did too. He texted you after telling you so.

You’ve been texting for a few days which is fun. He’s witty and has a good sense of humor too.

But as the days tick by, you start to wonder when will he ask me out on a second date? It’s completely natural to be curious about this and even a bit anxious.

Especially when you had such a good time. You really can’t wait to see him again.

You wish there was a way to make the phone ring. But there isn’t. You think about texting him to see if he’s still interested.

Maybe that’s what you should do. But then you’re not sure and the last thing you want to do is ruin your chances.

Wondering when he will ask me out and waiting around stinks!

How Long to Wait for Second Date?

Not surprisingly, the length of time between a first and second date varies by the man and the situation. However, the amount of time it does take is telling.

The best-case scenario is when a man asks you for a second date while you are still on the first one. That’s always a good omen!

If he waits just a few days, like two to three, that’s also a positive sign. In fact, anytime within the first week is optimal. If he wants to see you again quickly, that means you are on his mind,

When the gap between first and second date is longer, like two or three weeks, that might indicate a number of things that aren’t so positive:

  • He’s too busy to date
  • He’s not really ready to date
  • He’s not serious about finding love
  • He’s dating a lot of women and you’re not high on the list
  • He’s not that into you

Yes, sometimes a man has to travel for work or has a lot on his plate. But these situations do not bode well for a blossoming relationship.

When a man takes weeks to ask for a second date, of course, you can go. But do not get attached or stop dating other men for him.

While it’s true anything is possible, I wouldn’t bet on a guy who is slow to request that second date.

How to Know When to Move On

When you’re objective about what is happening in your dating life, then you can face facts. Not being asked for a second date within a week indicates he might not be the right man.

The sooner you realize this and accept it, the less you’ll feel confused, hurt, disappointed or rejected by him.

The less time you’ll spend analyzing everything you said and did and feeling bad about yourself, the faster you can move on to find the right man!

There are plenty of men out there. Don’t set your hopes on a man you’ve just met. Stay objective as long as possible.

Date several men at once – just for the first few dates. Most will disappear anyway because they aren’t right for you and they know it.

Signs He’s Really Interested

See, the right man for you will WANT to get to know you. He’ll be EXCITED to spend time with you and will do what it takes to make that time.

You’d never even wonder how long to wait for second date as he will be the one to make the move.

He’ll stay in touch every couple of days. He’ll text AND call. He’ll ask in advance, even if he’s going out of town, so he knows he can see you when he gets back. His consistency is a true signal of his intent.

And that is exactly what you want. A man who knows what he wants and when he meets you, he knows you’re the one to pursue. Which is exactly what he does.

The right man for you doesn’t leave you feeling confused or wondering “when will he ask me out?”

Single for too long, Ronnie wanted to find love. She put her skills from personal development and her spiritual path to work, dating 30 men in 15 months to meet her adorable husband Paul. Discovering the keys to manifesting and midlife dating, she founded It’s Never Too Late to help smart, successful women find love or live an empowered and magical life. Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC, is a Certified Coach who has helped 1,000s of midlife women with her Love & Magical Life Coach services. She’s the host of the Breathe Love & Magic podcast and has been featured on NBC, ABC, & Fox News, NPR, BBC, eHarmony, MSN.com, and Connecticut Magazine among others. Also, Ronnie is the author of 6 books which are available on Amazon.

10 thoughts on “When Will He Ask Me Out on a Second Date? Understanding Men”

  1. I went on a date with a guy and it was amazing. He even said he couldn’t wait for more. He texted me afterwards that he really enjoyed his time.
    It’s been several days and still no ask for a second date? He’s texted me good morning but than after a few texts it dies away. I’m already open to dating other people but it’s also sucky because I’m picky so to finally have a good date and not think it’ll pull through to a second makes me feel it’s me

    • Hi Maggie, How can you blame yourself for a guy not following through? Men say they want a second date but don’t ask all the time. Maybe he wanted to be liked or needed attention. Whatever his reason, don’t give your power away by taking any blame! This is a time to love yourself and know that he wasn’t the right guy, even if he had some qualities you liked. The right guy would never behave this way!

      Build your confidence and ask yourself, “Who’s next?” Then get out there and start dating again. Don’t stop meeting new men after just one date with some guy you like. You need to learn a lot more about a man before you focus on just one. That’s how you get hurt and need to recover over and over. Don’t limit yourself or become exclusive until a man ASKS you to be exclusive. If they don’t ask, or at least are open to discussing this, then they don’t want a monogamous relationship.

  2. Went on a date Tuesday night, he asked me during the date twice if I would want to do something over the weekend if he was free, I said absolutely. It’s Friday morning and I haven’t heard from him ?

    • Hi Isabeau, It seems like he was curious if you’d say yes, but not serious about getting together. Don’t wait around for him – go meet some new men. My guess is you want a man who has integrity and keeps his promises, that’s not this guy.

  3. I agree with the response here to Naomi. If the man isn’t proactive and doesn’t ask you out for a longer period of time (short period could mean just some personal problems or work), he’s not that interested and he’s not worth your time and feelings. I’ve been through that last year – he texted me all day every day BUT he constantly wasn’t sure, changed his mind about our relationship status a multiple times, didn’t ask me on a proper date and was unwilling to discuss anything serious. One day it was just too much. People like that aren’t worth the stress and the time. I think this is simply a sign of being a coward and being too scared to say the truth to our faces.

    • Good for you Natalie! Honor yourself with strong boundaries so you don’t waste your time on a man who is not serious. Excellent!

  4. It’s so weird. I went out on a date last Monday (currently Saturday), and he text me everyday? What’s the deal? Men are so confusing, I’m about to give up.

    • Hi Naomi, Don’t give up – just move on! Why hold out hope for someone you had one date with? A lot of men just want to connect with someone and text or talk, but not do the whole relationship thing. So you found out quickly who this man is. Let him go and meet others. You will find the right one if you keep dating and meeting men.

    • Hi Lisa, Did you read the post? The point is to not continuing waiting and hoping but to MOVE ON. You are putting your energy into a guy who is not showing you enough interest and maybe showing you none at this point. He may have seemed like a great guy – but he’s not the right one if he hasn’t asked you out again. Let it go and find some other guys to date.

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