Dating Over 40: When I Use the Law of Attraction, Can I Visualize Colin Firth?

Dear Ronnie,

There’s something that has always stumped me about trying to do visualization and work with the Law of Attraction. I’m supposed to visualize what I want and make lists of the characteristics: i.e. a guy who is happy, self-sufficient, fun to be with, smart, attractive (at least to me), healthy, etc. 

But to do this, do I have to physically picture someone?  I don’t want to picture any of my ex-boyfriends because then I’ll be asking for more of the same.  Nor do I want to picture a movie star (although if we’re putting in an order to God, can I have Colin Firth, please?). 

What do you tell women to do?  Should I see myself with a partner without seeing the actual partner?  How do I handle this?

Looking for love,
Carmen in Michigan


Dear Carmen ,

Hey, I’m into Colin too, but chosing a male image isn’t necessary. You don’t need to visualize – you need to FEEL. That’s the new formula for woking with the Law of Attraction. So, imagine what it feels like to be with the right man – and keep your eyes closed if it helps you pretend.

It’s the emotion that’s supposed to raise your energy to vibrate at the level that will attract what you want.

Turns out you don’t need an image at all. And you don’t even need to go through your list of qualities.

Just determine how you’d feel with the right man. Would you feel cherished, loved, sexy, lucky, complete, blissful, smiling from ear to ear, desired, wanted, satisfied, happy, jumping for joy, ecstatic, etc. You get the idea.  Pick three descriptions of how you feel with the right man for you.

Once that’s done, say the following sentence to yourself and FEEL it!

With the right man, I feel ___________,  ____________, and _____________

Most people who have done this exercise report excellent results. It will take some time. And the amount of time required varies for each person.

Be patient. And have faith that this is working. Of course it’s working, because it’s your destiny to find the right man for you and the love you desire. Why should’nt you have it? Why shouldn’t you find him? There’s no reason on earth that you shouldn’t have what you want.

So work on building your faith and BELIEVE the right man for you is out there AND you will meet him. If you need help believing, check out my New Affirmation CD –  I BELIEVE which can really make a tremendous difference in your MANifesting abilities.

Have fun!

Single for too long, Ronnie wanted to find love. She put her skills from personal development and her spiritual path to work, dating 30 men in 15 months to meet her adorable husband Paul. Discovering the keys to manifesting and midlife dating, she founded It’s Never Too Late to help smart, successful women find love or live an empowered and magical life. Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC, is a Certified Coach who has helped 1,000s of midlife women with her Love & Magical Life Coach services. She’s the host of the Breathe Love & Magic podcast and has been featured on NBC, ABC, & Fox News, NPR, BBC, eHarmony,, and Connecticut Magazine among others. Also, Ronnie is the author of 6 books which are available on Amazon.

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