Dating Over 40: User Names Make Your First Impression for Online Dating

You’ve decided to take the plunge and try online dating- good for you!

Now what?  First, you get to pick your user name and it’s more important than you think.  It’s often the first thing people will see online besides your photo.  That means it is a vital part of the first impression you’ll make. So, you’ll want to choose a user name that’s catchy, clever, or different.

Many people choose their first name combined with a number – well that’s functional, but not very exciting.  Sort of like buying a wrench at Home Depot. You may need it to get your project done, but it’s not going to blow your dress up so to speak.

Some people pick a trite phrase that they think is descriptive – but more often than not, lots of other people have thought of something similar.  Names like Sweet & ActiveWoman or VTGirl.  OK – its gets a point across, but it’s not that captivating is it?

Fine, so what will work?  Well what if you show your sense of humor? Take part of song lyrics, a movie title or line something from a popular TV show?  30-Something,  Charmed,  or PennyLane.  Better right? 

Here’s what you don’t want to do – worse than a dull impression is the wrong impression!  I went online and not to pick on anyone but – not sure what these ladies are thinking…

RedHotMama, MotheringLady, PassionateWoman, PlayfulGirl, Hot4U – Yikes!

Remember that if you are looking for a long-term relationship, you want to stay away from sexy titles.  And the flip side is to avoid mothering – that is the opposite of sexy!  Stay away from anything that starts to sound like the Madonna or Whore dichotomy.

You also want to avoid negativity, challenges or promises n your name – FaithfullyYours, NoLiarsApply, BitchinBabe, SmarterThanU

What is a good user name?  Well, that’s a tough one because beauty or in this case "Good" is in the eye of the beholder.  But what about something offbeat, funny, clever.  IrishEyes, TriviaQueen, KayakandYak,  LOLwithME, Surfing4U.

Get creative, have fun and remember – you only get one chance for a first impression – please make it count.



Single for too long, Ronnie wanted to find love. So, she made a few tweaks and then dated 30 men in 15 months to meet her adorable husband Paul. Discovering the keys to midlife dating, she founded It’s Never Too Late for Love to help other smart, successful women find love too! Her mission is to share her proven dating advice  and keen insights about men with women everywhere who are serious about finding love with the right man. Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC is a Certified Coach who has helped 1,000’s of midlife women with her Love & Dating Coach services. She’s been featured on BBC’s 5 Live Radio, NBC, ABC, and Fox News, NPR, eHarmony,,, Connecticut Magazine among others around the world. An established author, you can find her 6 books on Amazon.

3 thoughts on “Dating Over 40: User Names Make Your First Impression for Online Dating”

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  2. What I love about this blog, Ronnie, is your sense of humor.

    Thank you for pointing out that mothering is the opposite of sexy. I have two children, but God forbid that’s the first thing a person learns about me (for this reason, I do not wear necklaces containing little people charms. I also stay away from MILF t-shirts).

    Lots of women love to refer to themselves as “Mom,” as in, “What do you do?” “Oh, I’m a mom!” Or a “soccer mom” or a “piano mom” or a “Lacrosse mom.”

    I like to refer to myself as a person who just happens to have children. Actually, I wrote a post about this subject on my own blog several months ago and got a little hate mail.

    However, my husband referred to me as “Mom” once. I told him if he did it again, I would have to find a boyfriend. He has been careful to call me ‘Terry’ or ‘The Reason I Continue to Inhale’ from then on.

    I’ll go away now.

  3. Please please.. about first impressions.
    If you write typos.. “somethng, negatvity, pormises n, becuase, hte” it makes you look like you are uneducated, or slobby.
    Those typos are from this post of yours, and I have seen a lot of other typos too elsewhere on your site.

    Why promote that kind of negative impression, when there is a way to find them, run text through a program and it shows them by underlining them in red.

    That is an advice I give out to you, as well as to everybody making an internet profile.


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