Last week I was watching CNN early in the AM when I saw a brief interview with comedian and radio talk show host Steve Harvey. Honestly, I had never crossed paths with him before, but you are sure to hear bout him now as his new book is already a best seller on the New York Times bestseller list!
What’s he writing about? Stuff women really need to hear about men, dating, relationships. The inside scoop from a man’s perspective. We already know how we women covet this info – just look at the sensation created by the book (and now a movie) He’s Just Not That Into You!
Steve’s book, Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man sounds really good and I plan to get a copy very soon. Here’s what he said that grabbed me immediately and made me want to hear more…
Steve says, the biggest mistake women make today is to expect a man will return love the same way we women give it. Problem is, that kind of nurturing, affectionate and caring love is just not in a man’s DNA. Yup, that’s what Steve had to say. He went on to explain that a man’s idea of nurturing you when you aren’t feeling well, is to open and heat up a can of soup, put a blanket over you on the couch and let you know he’ll be in the other room watching ESPN in case you need anything.
Isn’t that the truth!
According to Harvey, men think of love as the “Three P’s,” a phrase he coined: Profess, Provide and Protect. There are no “N’s” for nurturing – get it?
Steve’s book made it to the New York Times and Wall Street Journal’s non-fiction Best Sellers list in the first week on the market. Personally, I’m looking forward to hear what Mr. Harvey has to say in greater detail. When it comes to relationships and dating, if there is something new to learn – that’s where you’ll find me.
Keep this in mind however, there is more than likely plenty that will be either annoying or down right irritating. I say – so what! There is definitely something valid about what Harvey has to say – just toss the parts you don’t like and learn from the parts you do.
If you want to read more yourself about the new book, check this article and the publisher’s website.
Single for too long, Ronnie wanted to find love. She put her skills from personal development and her spiritual path to work, dating 30 men in 15 months to meet her adorable husband Paul. Discovering the keys to manifesting and midlife dating, she founded It’s Never Too Late to help smart, successful women find love or live an empowered and magical life. Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC, is a Certified Coach who has helped 1,000s of midlife women with her Love & Magical Life Coach services. She’s the host of the Breathe Love & Magic podcast and has been featured on NBC, ABC, & Fox News, NPR, BBC, eHarmony, MSN.com, and Connecticut Magazine among others. Also, Ronnie is the author of 6 books which are available on Amazon.
Thank you for all the great information
Although I have seen examples of men who are wonderful nurturers, I have to agree that the trait is rare in men. I think men are capable of one-shot, or short-term, nurturing (if such a thing isn’t a contradiction in terms), but not the long-term variety.
Men are usually willing—even eager—to drop everything and do something to help you, but only if it’s going to fix the problem once and for all. They don’t like it when the problem just lingers on, which of course is the case with many problems. This is why men often get annoyed when their wife or girlfriend keeps complaining about the same situations at work. “I’ve told you before what you need to do! You’ve got to tell your supervisor you’re not going to put up with that anymore. Why don’t you just do it?”
Ultimately, both women and men need to understand that the other person’s kind of love is not our kind of love. But it doesn’t mean it’s not love; it’s just a different way of expressing it.
Hi Ronnie,
I’ll be interested in hearing what you think of the book once you read it. You can be the reviewer. We’re starting a “Dating Salon” this Sunday night – so far 4 people – 2 men and 2 women have responded… PotLuck and sharing stories from male and female perspectives…
Lori – Dating Salon – that sounds amazing! Thanks for sharing that idea – it’s wonderful.
Good for your for being so entreprenurial about your dating life.