Dating Over 40: “There’s No Love for Me” Syndrome – Limiting Beliefs about Love

Yesterday I talked about Hugh Jackman Syndrome, and today I’ve decided to come up with my own syndrome – "There’s No Love for Me" Syndrome. This woe-is-me outlook on love includes the following eight limiting beliefs about love:

1. All the good men (women) are taken.
2. Love doesn’t really exist or last.
3. Who would want me? I’m too old, fat, unattractive, problematic, dull, etc.
4. Men (women) can’t be trusted – they’re all scoundrels.
5. I’ll never find the right one for me.
6. I’m too busy to date.
7. I can’t remember how to flirt or connect with men (women).
8. Love is pain, so I want neither.

We’ve all heard these beliefs or said them ourselves because they are so prevalent today. Personally I think that’s a sad statement. For whatever reason, as a society, a lot of Americans have become more and more isolated. So many of us work very hard, live at light speed cramming in too many responsibilities and taking little time out for ourselves.

But, self care and time out are crucial for a healthy, balanced life. And personal playtime or socializing is just as crucial. While you can live a full and joyous life solo, if you long for love, you’ll need to do something about it to make it happen.

If you suffer from "There’s No Love for Me" Syndrome, here is one surefire way to turn things around. Start noticing happy couples. Yes they do exist! You might encounter them at the movies, at the grocery store, out to dinner, or walking down the street. Setting your internal radar on finding happy couples is one of the most powerful ways to re-wire your subconscious mind AND turn your dating karma around.

Countless people hold these limiting beliefs, so if these sound all too familiar, you are in no way alone! And sometimes just acknowledging this by itself can help to dissapate this negative outlook on love. In addition, when you start seeing happy couples, it refutes these negative thoughts, so you’ll automatically  have a much harder time hanging on to them and they can start to melt away.

I wouldn’t do this dating coaching work if I didn’t believe down to the core of my soul that finding love IS POSSIBLE! I turned these thoughts around for myself and found my husband. Every day another one of my clients makes this dramatic shift and their love life starts to blossom. Why not join the fun? See for yourself that love is out there for you!

Single for too long, Ronnie wanted to find love. So, she made a few tweaks and then dated 30 men in 15 months to meet her adorable husband Paul. Discovering the keys to midlife dating, she founded It’s Never Too Late for Love to help other smart, successful women find love too! Her mission is to share her proven dating advice  and keen insights about men with women everywhere who are serious about finding love with the right man. Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC is a Certified Coach who has helped 1,000’s of midlife women with her Love & Dating Coach services. She’s been featured on BBC’s 5 Live Radio, NBC, ABC, and Fox News, NPR, eHarmony,,, Connecticut Magazine among others around the world. An established author, you can find her 6 books on Amazon.

1 thought on “Dating Over 40: “There’s No Love for Me” Syndrome – Limiting Beliefs about Love”

  1. Actually, it’s “woe-is-me”, not “whoa-is-me”. The former is sadness. The latter is horses, and Neo from the Matrix.


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