The Truth about “Quality Men” Who Are Single in Midlife

What's Your Criteria for a Quality Man?

As you can imagine, I talk to a lot of single women. The number one question they ask is, “Where can I meet a quality man?”

I know exactly what they are talking about. Most women want a man of substance. He has a good look, a good heart and a good income. I hear how they want a man who is their equal regarding the success and accomplishments they have achieved. I get it.

When I was in my 30’s and single, this is just what I wanted too. I wanted a:

  • Business man (like me)
  • Who maybe has an MBA (like me) 
  • Who is ambitious and works hard
  • Who makes a 6 figure income (like I was working towards)
  • Who has traveled some (like me) 
  • Who is planning for his future (like me)
  • Who is social (like me)
  • Who has good values (like me)
  • Who is strong emotionally (like me)
  • Who likes to try new things (like me)
  • Who is very smart (like me)
  • Who is quick to figure things out (like me)

You get the picture. I wanted the male version of myself. To me, that would be the ideal match. Do these characteristics describe the “Quality Man” you seek?

Let’s look at that a little deeper…Would these qualities have been a good for me or you? And, are there other qualities that might work as well or even better? Now there’s a really good question for every single woman who has made up her mind about exactly what she wants in a man.

How do you know what you want in a partner is the right thing for you ?

Does the man I described have any drawbacks? Uh – yeah. An ambitious business man making six figures puts in a lot of hours. He has business on his mind a lot. He takes calls any time and responds to emails immediately. He might travel and have things pop up that ruin your plans. His #1 priority is his job – and most likely not you.

Not only that but busy business men who make a lot of money have their own criteria don’t they? What do they want in a partner and does that describe you? Think about age, height, weight, looks, ability to fit into his schedule, etc.

So, what are some other characteristics that would make a good partner for you? Think about these traits:

  • Loving
  • Emotionally available
  • Supportive
  • Caring
  • Thoughtful
  • Romantic
  • Responsive
  • Loyal
  • Healthy
  • Financially responsible
  • Relationship ready

Yeah – those are some pretty important traits if you want to enjoy a lasting, loving relationship.

Now I don’t have anything against successful men who earn a good income. That would be silly. All I want to point out as your dating coach is that there are many other personality elements that go into a quality man. And that’s the truth about “Quality Men”.

When you get past the superficial, you can see that its not only what a man does for a living or how tall he is or if he has all his hair, or even if he has a college education that matters most for your happiness. None of these things guarantee that he’ll treat you right or respect you.

-Have you ever known someone with an advanced degree who was an idiot and had no common sense?
-Have you ever known a good looking man who was a playboy type or worse, a cheater?
-Have you ever known a wealthy man who was stingy and cheap?
-Have you ever met a successful guy who seems like a great catch but wasn’t emotionally available?
-Have you ever dated a guy who seemed like a quality man on paper but was a real jerk?

See, the truth about “Quality Men” is that beyond success and looks, they need to be quality human beings. Men with scruples, the capacity to love, remain loyal and think about someone other than themselves.

I hope I’ve got you thinking now.

Trust me as your dating coach – when you expand your criteria of what constitutes a “Quality Man”, you’ll have a much better chance of finding one.


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Single for too long, Ronnie wanted to find love. She put her skills from personal development and her spiritual path to work, dating 30 men in 15 months to meet her adorable husband Paul. Discovering the keys to manifesting and midlife dating, she founded It’s Never Too Late to help smart, successful women find love or live an empowered and magical life. Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC, is a Certified Coach who has helped 1,000s of midlife women with her Love & Magical Life Coach services. She’s the host of the Breathe Love & Magic podcast and has been featured on NBC, ABC, & Fox News, NPR, BBC, eHarmony,, and Connecticut Magazine among others. Also, Ronnie is the author of 6 books which are available on Amazon.

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