Last week’s episode #13, features Patti Stanger with a bevy of experts to help her find “The One”.
Dr. Pat Allen seemed to be working as the facilitator, asking Patti what she was looking for – marriage, relationship or just dating. Patti didn’t hesitate a moment – she wants to get married and says it’s time!
The first thing that cracked me up was when her friend Matt Bennett, the life coach said that “…helping Patti Stanger find love is like riding a bucking bronco through a mine field!” Thanks Matt for that highly descriptive visual. He also told Patti to set her bar higher to weed out the men who are out of integrity.
Dr. Lillian Glass, body language expert, suggested she let others see her femininity and loving nature. It’s time to let this side of her show. She also encouraged her to spend time focusing on the face and listening to what is being said.
Dr. Nicki told Patti she’s a bulldozer and she needs to be able to sit still and shut up to let a man in. Sounds like great advice for any Type A, driven woman.
Patti was worried that Dustin and Rachel, along with two colleagues from her Great Expectations days – Rose and Jeff, wouldn’t know her type. Who is her type? Patti goes for tall, rugged, muscular, blond men. She’s not into Mr. Suit, more into Mr. Beach.
At the mixer, Patti selected John – a tall blond man as her primary date. But, before going into that date, let’s talk about the other guy Dustin offered her a second date too – with a guy that isn’t mentioned on the Bravo site anywhere! Let’s say his name is Jim – I can’t remember. He was an ex cop and very intense. While he was tall and muscular, he was too intense for Patti. I don’t blame her at all – he was over the top.
While the date started out lighter and more fun with some horseback riding, Jim was like a lion, waiting to go in for the kill. He told Patti how she had made the wrong choice and he was going to prove it to her. Instead, he proved her selection to be right – he was not the one. Maybe if he had just been light and fun, he could have had a shot. But, no way with that intensity. Yuck! I can’t help but think this is what the producers requested of him…
In amazing contrast, Patti’s date with John was heavenly to her. He did research (or was told) about all her favorite things. He took her on a private plane to Tuscon, AZ to her favorite resort – Mirabel. They started with a foot massage by the pool and he served her Petrone Silver – her favorite drink.
The next day – they rode the zip line with a 30 foot climb to get to the top starting point. Patti was visibly nervous about this climb, but she loved the zip line – she didn’t want to get down. Later, they had a fabulous dinner – at a villa with all her favorite food. They hugged and kissed at the end.
And a second date was planned. OK Patti, let’s see if you can follow your own advice about letting the man be in charge and no sex until monogamy!
Single for too long, Ronnie wanted to find love. She put her skills from personal development and her spiritual path to work, dating 30 men in 15 months to meet her adorable husband Paul. Discovering the keys to manifesting and midlife dating, she founded It’s Never Too Late to help smart, successful women find love or live an empowered and magical life. Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC, is a Certified Coach who has helped 1,000s of midlife women with her Love & Magical Life Coach services. She’s the host of the Breathe Love & Magic podcast and has been featured on NBC, ABC, & Fox News, NPR, BBC, eHarmony, MSN.com, and Connecticut Magazine among others. Also, Ronnie is the author of 6 books which are available on Amazon.
