Dating Over 40: The Astonishing Power of Intention

This is truly the most impactful experience I’ve had lately with the power of intention. While this example doesn’t apply to dating, the principles still hold true.  This is all related to the Law of Attraction  When your intention is clear about what you want to attract, everything happens more quickly. Regardless of why you employ the power of intention, start to recognize the velocity and vast possibilities that holding true to your intention can create for you.

Here’s the story:

Rebecca was very excited and so we were off on her quest. As we got to the supposed location, there was no outdoor market to be seen any where in the vicinity. We had already used up 15 minutes of the 3 hours, so I suggested moving on to the next agenda item.


Rebecca wouldn’t hear of it. She had brought the big cooler and was salivating for fresh produce. She said, "Let’s just look around a bit" and before you know it, she did find the market. OK, it was really good, the produce was beautiful and they had a jazz band playing. We put our purchases into the cooler, hopped back into the car and were on to the Yale Museum of Art to see the Van Gogh paintings on the last day of the exhibit.


Meanwhile I’m thinking – "This is silly. How will we ever park, walk to the museum and wait in the line to see the exhibit, AND still make it to the third stop which was shopping at Urban Outfitters down the street?" So I voiced this rather negative thought.  I’m just practical. How could all of this work? I figured, let’s just go shopping where her daughter wanted to go and skip the big time waster of the museum.


Again Rebecca said, "Let’s just try." As we continued discussing how we could possibly find a parking space in downtown New Haven, someone pulled out, she pulled in and we were walking to the museum.


We arrived and discovered that there was a short wait to see the Van Gogh’s – THREE MINUTES!  Who ever heard of such a thing? That’s not a wait, it’s a deep breath. So we got in line, walked into the room with the two paintings: Starry Starry Night and Cypress which were amazing to behold.  I marveled over the paintings, over how quick and easy it was to see them, and over how my cousin pulled this off.


Onto agenda item number three. Here’s where Gina got negative and told her mom that she rather just skip it. Why bother if she doesn’t really have more than 10 minutes to shop? Rebecca responded with her usual, "Let’s just try." She dropped Gina off in front of the strip of stores then we went on to find parking. Rebecca and I got out of the car and walked over to the stores. Not sure which one Gina had entered we went into the first one and yes, saw Gina on the stairs going up. She had picked out several items which she proceeded to try on, picked two and stood in line to pay.


We exited the building, back to parking lot where we paid and drove off to drive me back home. From there Rebecca and Gina went go on to their final destination, attending a meeting at a town 20 minutes away.


Clockwork. It was like clockwork. All the pieces simply fell into place  Even though Gina and I both made negative comments about the reality of what was possible in such a short amount of time. Rebecca never veered from her intention. She had a mission, she didn’t let herself get influenced by anyone’s negativity. She just moved on to the next thing and made it all happen!  I praised her for this truly amazing accomplishment.


Now, apply this to your dating journey.

How strong is your intent? How strong is your vision and belief that you will find love? That love is out there and so is the right man for you?


If you held your intention to find love the way Rebecca held to her vision for the afternoon, what would that be like? How would you feel when things didn’t go your way? If you were like my cousin, you would say, "Let’s just keep trying, stay motivated, imagine that it’s happening right now."  


Will you adopt this approach and philosophy? Just try to believe, keep moving and strengthen your belief that the right man for you is out there and you will find each other soon. I’ve seen the power of intention. It’s a force that cannot be denied.

Single for too long, Ronnie wanted to find love. So, she made a few tweaks and then dated 30 men in 15 months to meet her adorable husband Paul. Discovering the keys to midlife dating, she founded It’s Never Too Late for Love to help other smart, successful women find love too! Her mission is to share her proven dating advice  and keen insights about men with women everywhere who are serious about finding love with the right man. Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC is a Certified Coach who has helped 1,000’s of midlife women with her Love & Dating Coach services. She’s been featured on BBC’s 5 Live Radio, NBC, ABC, and Fox News, NPR, eHarmony,,, Connecticut Magazine among others around the world. An established author, you can find her 6 books on Amazon.

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