Dating Over 40: Attraction and Human Nature – Too Easy vs. Unavailable

Have you ever been highly attracted to someone who barely noticed you? Or maybe they were more on the friend level, even though you wanted more. The unattainable man is highly attractive. The Secret to Mr. Twinkle Eye That is part of the secret of George Clooney’s charm – his  elusiveness. The “Ungettable Man”  is aloof, … Read more

Dating After Divorce: I Don’t Have Time to Date with 2 Teenagers

Are you a divorced woman with children? Naturally your children are your first priority – as they should be. That’s just good parenting. But a happy Mom, makes for a happy family – isn’t that true as well? When I work with my dating coaching clients who are dating after divorce, we talk about hopes … Read more

Dating Over 40: Sometimes You Just Get Bad Advice

Did you ever have a man start saying things like “When we go to the …”?, did you think it had real meaning or significance? Did you find out you were taken in by a load of hooey? As a professional dating coach for people over 40 (and under too), it’s part of my job … Read more

Dating After Divorce: Are You Stuck in the Fear of “What-if Land” ?

Carla, a 53 year old single mother from Chicago, called me because she is finally serious about finding love. She struggles with a series of counter-productive beliefs that definitely hamper her search. As a coach for dating over 40 and dating after divorce, it’s my job to help clients achieve their goal of finding love. … Read more

Dating Over 40: They Weren’t the Caliber I’m Looking for

Liz is a client from NJ who is a widow over 60. She’s just starting to get back out there and dip her toes in the dating waters. We had an interesting over 40 dating coaching session yesterday. First I congratulated Liz on getting out there. She attended a dance, went to a few lectures, … Read more

Dating Over 40: What if I Don’t Love Myself?

Dear Dating Coach, I am trying to battle the gremlin you spoke about – the nasty voice in my head that tells me I’m too overweight to be attractive to men and starting to look old.  When I was younger and having relationship issues, it never felt this severe.  It’s  only about 20 lbs. of … Read more

Dating Over 40: How I Met My Man

Let me tell you about my client Annie. Recently, I presented a workshop at her farm-learning/meditation center. Annie was in one of the very first dating coaching groups I ran seven years ago. She was 40, a divorced mother of two teenagers who worked crazy hours, but she still managed to attend the group every … Read more

Dating Over 40: I Want Him Back!

Dear Dating Coach, Please tell me what to do. I am in a fix.  My boyfriend broke up with me because I wouldn’t sleep with him but wants us to still be friends. I still love him and this makes very sad. We work at the same place so I see him all the time. … Read more

Dating After Divorce: He Won’t Talk to Me and I’m Starting Not to Trust Him

Dear Dating Coach, I am dating a man whom has been separated, but not yet legally divorced for a year now. Bob says it is all over and there is no chance of  getting back together with his wife and they have no kids. He claims that  he wants them. I will soon turn 37 … Read more

Dating Over 40: Review of New Book – Prince Harming Syndrome

Karen Salmansohn’s new book, Prince Harming Syndrome is a must read for women who tend to choose men with similar flaws.  Some of my over 40 dating coaching clients refer to this problem as “having a broken picker”.  Whatever you call it, if you are a woman who goes for the bad boys who treat … Read more

Dating Over 40: My Dating Coaching Client has a Breakthrough!

Dating coaching is such rewarding work. I  support clients through their ups and downs in the dating world. When an over 40 dating coaching client meets a new man and they click, I’m am thrilled. And when things are tough and attitudes need to be adjusted, I’m there to help the shift happen and the … Read more

Dating Over 40: Letting Go

Letting go can be one of the hardest things we have to do. Whether it’s a love relationship that broke up, a divorce or a friendship that ended. Loss of any kind is very hard. Even though I’m not religious or big on the Bible (although I studied plenty in my youth) I found this … Read more

Dating After Divorce: – Testimonial from Saturday’s Workshop – Create Your Love Vision Board

This is the latest testimonial I received about my workshop this past Saturday. Participants created their own Love Vision Board based on the idea of the Law of Attraction spelled out in “The Secret”. After going over a variety of other MANifesting techniques discussed in my book, MANifesting Mr. Right, I answered a wide range … Read more

Dating Over 40: Try Multiple Ways to Meet Prospects

Talking to Sharon about her search for love, she stated boldly that her dating action plan solely focused on web dating. As a new over 40 dating coaching client, Sharon is in the beginning stages of meeting men. While I think it’s great to have a plan and feel committed to it, I am also … Read more

Dating After Divorce: The Unavailable Man Otherwise Called the “UM Syndrome”

Have you met a great guy who is  not yet divorced, but seems like he’s perfect for you? This happens  with surprising frequency among my over 40 dating coaching clients. Truth is anyone can fall victim to the “UM Syndrome – Unavailable Man. I too have been down this path in my younger days. Thinking … Read more

Dating after 40: Your Rejections Don’t Predict Your Future

When I was finishing my MBA and looking for a job, many students saved up there rejection letters.  I also did this when I was looking for a literary agent. I thought it made sense since it helped me see how much work I had done. But it also reminded me of all the rejection. … Read more

Over 40 Dating: Bored? Try Something New for a Rich, Full Life!

Just when I thought I’d seen everything – I saw something new! Do you feel like your life is ho hum – hum drum? Every day is pretty much the same. Once in a while there are variations. Sometimes I feel this way…sort of bored. Late afternoon yesterday, I drove to the beach. I love it this time … Read more

Dating Over 40: The Joy of Randye’s Wedding

Been to any weddings lately? Saturday night I went to my friend Randye’s wedding and it was a true delight. Getting married over 40 and after divorce  gives you a lot of freedom regarding wedding traditions if you choose to take it. Randye fully accessed hers, having her wedding in a local theatre! Yes, she … Read more

Dating Over 40: Do You Need Take Time Off from Dating?

Are you sick of dating? Feeling frustrgated with the singles scene? Feel like you will just keel over if you have to attend one more event? I get it believe me. I understand. And what do I recommend to my over 40 dating coaching clients when they start feeling like this? Time Off! This goal … Read more

Dating Over 40: The 1st Goddess for Bella Zadore

It’s official – I’ve been selecoaching, Bella Zadore, Goddess, maa Genacted as the premiere featured Goddess for the Bella Zadore business launch! Check it out here.  Bella Zadore is actually a lifestyle brand for women with a collection of 12 animated characters who make you think, laugh, appreciate being a woman and become more Goddess-like. … Read more