Hot Chemistry Does Not Imply a “Meant to Be” Relationship

As a dating coach for women who are dating over 40 or dating after divorce, I hear a lot about the need for chemistry. My clients talk about instant chemistry, hot chemistry, sparks flying, etc. You get the picture and you probably have your own description of this as well. While I agree, there has to … Read more

Dating Over 40: Carolyn’s Dating Coaching Session #3

Carolyn had her third dating coaching session last night and things are starting to click! After a few weeks of dating practice, flirting with men, striking up conversations in line getting coffee and at the grocery store,  and generally becoming more aware of men in her environment, men are asking her out! This is a … Read more

Dating After Divorce: Where Are the Men Who Want to Get Serious?

Sunday night, Maddy called to inquire about coaching. We started talking about how her dating life is going and what prompted her to make the call. Maddy is very frustrated with men. She feels that they don’t want to commit or aren’t interested in finding a serious relationship. You know how that can feel. If you’ve been … Read more

Dating Over 40: What about Men Who are Spontaneous?

Heather, an over 40 dating coaching client of mine, asked me about a man she had been emailing online. They had several fun exchanges over three days. He told her how his work is bi-coastal and he spends a lot of time in California. Dave wasn’t sure when he’d have time to get together. Then yesterday at about … Read more

Dating Over 40: Soul Mate – That’s Two 4-Letter Words

How many times have you heard a woman say, “I’m waiting for my soul mate”? I cringe every time I hear those two words. Why? Because these two words can create a tremendous obstacle in a woman’s search for a mate. Many of my over 40 dating coaching clients meet men who are in the “ball park” of whom … Read more

Dating as a Widow: Man Pulls Away to “Slow Things Down”

Dear Ronnie, I’m 62 and have been a widow for five years. Finally I felt ready to try my luck at dating, and at the beginning of December, I met a new guy at a dance. I took an instant liking to Fred and he felt the same way about me. Our relationship escalated quickly after that … Read more

Dating Over 40: How Single Women Can Make the Most of Valentine’s Day

Well, we made it – the final day of the Valentine’s Week Blog-a-thon. It’s been incredibly fun and very exciting connecting with all these fabulous dating experts across the country. I hope you have enjoyed it as much as we have AND, we hope this helps you have a fun and memorable Valentine’s Day. The post below … Read more

Dating Over 40: Ideas for Women Who Are Sweetie-less for Valentine’s Day

Welcome to the first day of the Valentine”s Week Blog-a-thon,  featuring a variety of dating experts and guest bloggers from around the US. Every day this week, I’ll post a new article from another expert who will share their dating wisdom and tips with you. Don’t miss a single “episode”! Subscribe to my blog and … Read more

Millionaire Matchmaker – TMI Keeps Chef from Second Date

Rather than picking apart the two millionaires Patti had on the show last night, I want to talk about the dark-haired chef that both men chose initially for their mini-dates. I wish I could remember her name but it escapes me, so for now I’ll call her Chefgirl. Let me share important dating tips from … Read more

Dating Over 40: I Let a Good One Get Away

My over 40 dating coaching client Natalie, called my yesterday to share an experience that really shook her up. We haven’t been coaching for a while since she is currently in a happy long-term relationship with David. But, her story still impacts her life and she asked me to share it with you. Natalie Dismisses Ed … Read more

Dating Over 40: A Word On Chemistry

Chemistry. Women just have to have it. They talk about it, insist on it, dream about it. Chemistry is one of those things that my dating coaching clients bring up all the time. It’s very difficult to talk a woman out of the idea that she NEEDS instant chemistry. And if they don’t feel this … Read more

Dating After Divorce: MANifesting Mr. Right – The Book Works!

One of my over 40 dating coaching clients, Daphne is having the best time with her dating journey. Daphne, who is in her mid-50’s and dating again after 27 years of marriage, has shared with me that “Your book is WORKING” – her words.   While she’s been divorced for 4 years and dated before we … Read more

Dating Over 40: What Happens When You Still Want More?

OK, I’ll admit it – I want more. Today’s desire is rooted in envy. A friend of mine just discovered there’s a blogger on a local newspaper website who writes about her dating adventures and those of her friends as well as her life – like a personal journal – but on the paper’s web … Read more

Dating Over 40: Swims at the Shallow End of the Pool

OMG! I just heard about this unbelievable move by a now infamous dating website. Have any of you over 40 daters heard about this? At – members vote if you fit their beauty standards for this elite site. If that isn’t scary enough, they took this to the next level.  After the holidays, management … Read more

Dating Over 40: Top 10 Romantic Movies with Happy Endings

I’m a sucker for a movie with a happy ending. And I’ll avoid almost any movie without one. There’s already too much hard ache in the world – why would I pay to see  more? So, as my New Year’s gift to you, I wanted to share my Top 10 Favorite Romantic Movies. It’s a great way … Read more

Dating Over 40: 3 Strategies to Manage Expectations & Avoid Devastating Disappointment

– Do you get disappointed after a few emails? – Do you get sucked in by a man’s voice, then feel empty when you meet in person? – Do you start planning your future after a first date? These expectations are natural for women who are dating. But not very pleasant. And sometimes they can … Read more

Dating Over 40: Worried You Won’t Find Love? A Butt-Kickin’ Message from the Dating Coach

Do you waffle in your belief that love is possible for you? I just got an email from one of my clients who is struggling with her chances to find a good man. Please read on if you have this issue in your dating life because this could dramatically turn things around for you! It’s all … Read more

Dating Over 40: Banish the Bah-Humbug Dating Attitude

Carla Dickens here – this month’s inspiration is my version of A Christmas Carol – the story by Charles Dickens about Ebenezer Scrooge. Ebbie Scrooge, a good looking woman in mid life, was wasting her dating years grumbling about men. On the night before Christmas, she was commiserating with her single girlfriends, complaining bitterly about … Read more

Dating Over 40: 5 Tips to Make Online Dating Sizzle

Frequently, clients come to me for dating coaching when they are frustrated with online dating. They don’t like the men who wink or email. They don’t understand why men email, then disappear. They are tired of pen pals or guys who never get around to meeting. There are so many things that are annoying about … Read more

Dating Over 40: You Can Find Love Over 60!

I’m just thrilled to report that my client Filamina met someone recently! Filamina has been a dating coaching client for a short time, having had maybe only four sessions. She’s 62, widowed and has been single for 5 years . She wanted to get back out there to see if she might find love again. … Read more