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Manifesting Love – 3 Ways to Apply the Law of Attraction

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Have you tried using the Law of Attraction Love for manifesting love? The Law of Attraction is a Universal Principle that states “Like attracts like.” This works on an energetically – the non-verbal messages you send out into the Universe and how your own energy resonates. You want to be a match to the energy of the man you dream of.

Too woowoo for you? Surprisingly, this is no longer some “out there” concept, but has been scientifically proven by physicists! That’s what quantum physics is all about. They have recently proved that your feelings create energy or vibration and that attracts people and situations into your life.

Manifesting Love Through Your Inner Self

As your love and dating coach, I share these easy methods for manifesting love so you can find the right man as quickly as possible. It’s not enough to just swipe right or send messages online. You need to work on your inner self as well, not just the external dating activities.

For the Law of Attraction Love to work,  you need to focus on raising your vibration to the level of your desire. In other words, if you want a lasting, loving relationship, you must believe you can have it and demonstrate loving behavior on your own.

Become an Energetic Match for Love


This is how you embody the energy of love and raise your vibration to become an energetic match for the man you dream of and the love you deserve.

Below you’ll find three powerful methods for manifesting love and raising your vibration. I recommend using them all to ensure you raise your love vibe.

The key is to do them consistently. Frequent application will definitely elevate your vibration which is what makes the Law of Attraction Love work. That’s how you’ll be more attractive and magnetic to the love you want.

1. Write Your Affirmations

Anyone who talks about the Law of Attraction Love will encourage you to write your affirmations in a journal or notebook. You can also type them, but writing by hand works better. Listening to love songs or happy music while doing this will help you feel positive. That’s another way to raise your love vibration. to be even more magnetic.

Fill a page or write for 15 minutes, which ever feels best and do this every day. First thing in the morning is best for manifesting love (or anything) because it sets the tone for the day. If you miss a day, don’t worry, just start again and continue from there.

2. Develop a Song or Chant

manifesting loveI not only created affirmations, but I put them to music to manifest my husband.  You can write your own music if you’re creative or rewrite lyrics to a popular song.  I sang my affirmations all the time – in the shower, washing dishes, on my walk in the early morning (OK I stopped when people passed me by so I wouldn’t be embarrassed).

This is like having a personal song from the Ally McBeal TV show years ago. Ever see it? Its a very personal method for manifesting love which is why it really produces results.

My experience has been this works even better when moving your body. That’s why I sang while exercising to add another vibrational lift. With or without exercise,  sing until your heart fills and your smile feels contagious. This works!

3. Create a Vision Board


Create a vision board as a visual representation of your affirmation. It should illustrate how you’ll feel with the right man and what you’ll do together. Include words that describe him, how you’ll feel as well as photos. You can cut things out from magazines and also create them on your computer and print them out. A combination is good.

Avoid showing a man’s face because we don’t know who he’ll be. We don’t know what he looks like . Instead, use a silhouette of a man or lovers and also use the back of a man if you like.

Place your completed vision board somewhere you can see it often. The point is to visually stimulate the feelings to once again elevate your vibration.  If you are a visual person, this works really well for manifesting love.

Of course there are many other ways to apply the Law of Attraction Love, but these are three powerful ones to get you started.

To learn more about powerful manifesting love techniques, chapter seven in my book MANifesting Mr. Right has 4 more methods for you. Get your own copy now. Become a member of audible.com and you can download this audio book free!


Dating After Divorce: Love Complaints Trending on Twitter

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Dating after divorce? Love complaints are trending on Twitter

Dating after divorce? Are you still bitter or angry?

Singles today seem to be more bitter and angry than ever. And the Internet allows them to say anything and speak their minds. Is this a good thing? I’m not so sure. In my opinion, bitter begets bitter and anger attracts more anger.  It appears to be building on itself rather than working itself out.

You might think voicing your complaints to friends, on twitter, on blog posts, etc. is a way to let it go. Is it working for you? Or do you still have all the same feelings? Getting things off your chest is a good practice. But when it becomes fun to complain, you have surpassed the benefits and moved on to a new hobby. There is a big downside to man bashing (or woman bashing of course)

In this blog on HuffPost Divorce, they created a slide show with 27 different twitter postings using the hashtag #Idontwantyouif . The comments fell into several categories that won’t surprise you too much:

  • You are a cheater
  • You have too much baggage
  • You flirt with others or my friends
  • You don’t plan on staying
  • I won’t be your rebound
  • You don’t put God first
  • You don’t put me first

Get Clear on What Doesn’t Work for You

Hey, I am all for being clear on what you don’t want and what doesn’t work for you. This is especially important if you have a habit of attracting men with similar flaws. The best way to put an end to that pattern is to be fully conscious of the behaviors that don’t work for you. In fact, I have my dating coaching clients make a list of the experiences they never want to relive and the red flags tipping them off to what is coming with their type of guy.

When Complaining and Negativity Become Your New Hobby

My point in this blog is to heighten your awareness that negativity serves a purpose. You do need to know about yourself in relationship. After all, dating is a journey for self discovery. No question about that. However, when you make complaining about men and talking about what you don’t want is your priority – the thing you spend most of your time on, that starts to get in your way.

Complaining about what is and negativity never made anyone happier. So the next time you think about what’s trending and want to jump on the band wagon, please think again.

Dating After Divorce and The Law of Attraction

According to the Law of Attraction “like attracts like”. What that means is over-focus on what you don’t want can actually attract MORE OF WHAT YOU DON’T WANT! Go ahead, say your piece. Then please let it go and move on. Rather than clinging to your past hurt and disappointments, open yourself up to new possibilities.

Dating After Divorce – You Can Find Love Again

When you can let go, you know your healing process has moved on to the next level. And that level is where you can once again find love. Underneath all that anger, you know that’s exactly what you want right? As your dating coach, that is what I want for you too. I dream of you finding a new and better love. A man who is supportive, fun, loyal, healthy, successful, confident, with a great sense of humor and a really cute smile. A man who has time for you, respects you, and accepts you as you accept him.

When you are ready to move on from anger and be the love you want – you become a magnetic force for that love that cannot be denied. And love will be attracted into your life. I’ve seen it over and over with my clients. The love you want and deserve is not only out there for you, but completely possible. Focus on allowing it to come into your life now.

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Online Dating:  Stay Positive While Dating

More about online dating – this post is a continuation from yesterday. If you struggle with how to stay positive while dating, read on.


“Hi Ronnie – The Dating Coach for Women

Thank you for the helpful ways to handle online dating disappointment and smart conversation tips you posted yesterday. I feel lucky because I haven’t spoken of those taboo topics most of the time unless someone else brought them up first.

However, I have come to recognize that having more than one glass of wine with a first date is not such a good idea.

Right now I’m having trouble feeling lovable due to all of this fickleness from online dating. But, I do know that I need to keep moving if I want to find love.  I’d like to have a good relationship and to tell you the truth, there aren’t many cheerleaders like you out there.

Is it really possible for woman of 52 to find love – the love of her life? I hope so. It didn’t happen with my first marriage  which was a long one. Can you help me to find more hope so I can keep going?

Thanks for your support

Kim from Michigan”


To Attract and Find Love, Validate Your Own Lovability

Hi Kim,

Yes! You can find love! Finding love is completely possible, even over 50, 60, or 70+. One of my clients just wrote this note to me over the summer sharing her excitement and success:


“Dear Ronnie:

My fiancé and I are marrying in three weeks. I met him online about 1 year and four months ago. Although I dated others and him for the first month or so, he soon asked me to be exclusive and the rest is history. Thanks for all of the work you do with all of us who want to find lasting love! I am 55, with two special needs son, so I am proof that your tips work!

With love, Brenda from CA”


My advice to you is to be the love you want to attract. Know that you are lovable as you are. Do not look outside yourself for this validation even though you may feel tempted. You do not need this proof from the men you are meeting. They do not validate your lovability – you do.

To find love, embody the love you want to attract. Love yourself more every day. Spend time believing and knowing down to the core of your heart and soul that love is your destiny.

I’m wondering if you have my audio program  I Believe which is part of The Man Attraction Secret.  It has three tracks of affirmations in different lengths all about believing in love, in yourself, and in men. Just a suggestion.

Without question, love is your destiny. You can find love. You are lovable! But, when in doubt – love yourself a little bit more. Find things you love about life. People you love, flowers, clothes, sunshine, snowflakes, the Christmas season even. Whatever allows you to focus on and feel more love in your life. This is how you embody love and attract love into your life.

From the Law of Attraction,” like attracts like”. So when you love yourself and your life, you bring your energy or vibration up to the level of what you desire – LOVE! That’s how it works, the more love you feel, the more love you attract magnetically. There is no other outcome.

You WILL find love. You will attract HIM. I have complete faith in you and in love 🙂

Lots of love to you,


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The Law of Attraction: Imagining Creates a Magnetic Pull

The Law of Attraction – Find Love on a Snowy Day

Last week I was looking out my window, as a surprising winter wonderland emerged. Huge fluffy white snowflakes were blowing around, sticking to every pine needle on the tree just outside the second story window of my office.

It was picturesque. So white and clean. So very romantic.

How does this sound to you? I realize that you may not live in a snowy area where the season change. So the question really is, do you permit yourself to have romantic thoughts? Do you allow yourself to day dream and imagine yourself hunkering down under the bed covers on a stormy night with the right man for you?

Sometimes women shy away from such thoughts because it reminds you of what you don’t have. But what if in that imagining, you were actually using a powerful tool to MANifest your dream?

Applying the Law of Attraction

A big part of the Law of Attraction requires you to spend time imagining and feeling what it is like to be with that right man. How does it feel to imagine spending time with your amazing man? What are you doing together? Are you having fun? Are you sharing simple pleasures like watching the snow fall, building a fire or snuggling up in bed to get warm? How does he smell? Why are men so warm?

Is this starting to feel real? If you said yes – yeahhhhhh! The more real your imagination makes things, the more you are using the Law of Attraction to your best advantage. Your brain cannot tell the difference between your imagined thoughts that become memories and real memories. That’s why creating imagined memories gives you cellular memory of feeling what you want – RIGHT NOW! That’s how the magic of MANifesting begins.

Why does this matter? When you have good thoughts and create positive feelings, when you can capture how you want to feel NOW with the right man, this sends out signals to the Universe. It also creates the magnetic pull, drawing that amazing man you long for into your world. Understanding the mechanics of how the Law of Attraction works can help you use this method more successfully.

So go ahead, dream a little and enjoy, knowing you are magnetizing the man of your heart’s desire.


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Dating Over 40: Brain Science Shows that Complaining is Bad for You

Complaining about men (or listening to man bashing) is destructive to your love life when you are dating over 40 or any time!

Your brain is affected by negativity and complaining

I often write about how man bashing is for your love life if you are dating over 40. Talking poorly about men as a group brings down your energy and doesn’t help you remain open and positive about meeting men or finding the right one for you. You can’t seriously look for love and hate men at the same time. Those two very different types of thoughts cannot occupy the same space in your brain. And now there is scientific proof that this is, in fact, true!

In an article from Inc.com titled, “Listening to Complainers Is Bad for Your Brain” the writer, Minda Zetlin, states how exposure to nonstop negativity actually inhibits brain function. So, talking trash about men is not only bad to do, but bad to listen to as well. The article is about a new book by Trevor Blake who is a serial entrepreneur and author of Three Simple Steps: A Map to Success in Business and Life. According to Trevor, neuroscientists can measure brain activity resulting from various stimuli, including a lengthy complaining conversation.

Here’s a couple of quotes from Blake that Minda included in her article:

“The brain works more like a muscle than we thought,” Blake says. “So if you’re pinned in a corner for too long listening to someone being negative, you’re more likely to behave that way as well.”

Not only that, but being exposed to too much negativity can actually decrease your brain power. Exposure to 30-minutes or more of negativity, from a friend or the TV, will “peel away neurons in the brain’s hippocampus which is … the part of your brain you need for problem solving,” Blake says. “Basically, [complaining and negativity] turns your brain to mush.”

Now,  Blake points out that you CAN share when travesties occur, but points out the difference between talking about something that’s going wrong and complaining. Most complainers, he says, don’t actually want to do anything about a situation. They simply want to complain. So if you are sharing what happened to find a solution – completely different story.

Thankfully Minda explains Trevor’s suggestions for defending yourself. And I’ll add a couple of my own as well.

1.Remove yourself from the presence of the complainer.  In other words, excuse yourself as soon as you can and walk away or get off the phone. Find a way to limit the amount of time you listen to complaining.

2. Suggest or request  a solution. Since most complainers don’t want to fix anything, just complain, Blake suggests asking them what they plan to do about the situation. That might end the conversation right there.

3. Put up an imaginary shield. Blake sited several case-studies of people who imagine putting up an invisible shield to deal with negativity. For example, athletes have to perform while hearing heckling. Some say “shields up” to themselves while others visualize a glass dome lowering down over themselves for protection. This really works!

4. Zip up. I have a friend who is an energetic healer who suggests you imagine you pull up an imaginary zipper starting at your feet and going up over your head, locking out unwanted energy, especially negativity and complaining! I’ve used this trick countless times and it helps me feel so much better.

5. Don’t spend too much time complaining and retelling your story. You have to vent – yes, I agree. But how many times to you need to tell the story an do you need to repeat it to everyone you know? I think not. Limit your own complaining about things that make you mad, the wrongs done to you and your down trodden experiences about men and dating. (And everything else as much as possible).

All of this should free up a lot of time don’t you think?

If you’re dating over 40 and no longer listening to complaints or complaining yourself – now what? Well, the Law of Attraction states that “Like attracts like”. So, start thinking about what you do want to have happen. Think about fun things to come, make plans or recall pleasant memories. doing so is a great way to attract even more of what you do want since your energy will be vibrating at that frequency. And that is one of the biggest keys to manifesting.

Whether you are dating over 40 and want to MANifest Mr. Right or money or good health or more friends, thinking good thoughts and limiting exposure to negativity is a surefire method to create it.


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She Found the “One Thing” that Made Finding Love Her Reality

Are you tired of being single? 

Breakthrough to Finding Love

What if you could find that one thing that would shift your love life for good and help you find “The One”?

A Remarkable Case Study – Honey
I want to share this amazing case study with you about one of my dating coaching clients. I worked with a woman named Honey from Massachusetts. She was an attractive woman who thought there were absolutely no good men left. Every time she got online, she’d get depressed looking at profiles of all the crummy men. They weren’t smart enough, good looking enough, successful enough or interesting enough for her.

Honey had dated and met men, but no one seemed to work for her. The men didn’t follow through. They didn’t keep their word. They didn’t fit her idea of what she wanted in a partner.

Honey was attractive on the outside, but not on the inside
Hopeless, Honey felt she had no options and became angry and dangerously disappointed. Even though she was quite attractive, she was not attracting the men you would imagine because on the inside, her energy was heavy, muddy, and contracted. When she called me and told me her story, I knew I could help her turn things around.

She focused on lightening up
After working with me for several weeks and putting my exercises and strategies to work, she was feeling so much better about her life and her possibilities. She lightened up considerably which was very good news. But that wasn’t enough. She wanted to attract quality men so she could find the right one.

The Breakthrough Moment
One particular morning, Honey was standing in the shower and an idea pop into her mind. She suddenly felt ready to let go of her baggage and negativity. She was tired of holding herself back and wanted a total break through. Honey focused on washing away all her obstacles and something within her shook free. Honey was elated.

The minute she got out of the shower, she went to check her profile. Turns out two new men had contacted her who had real potential! Her shift in energy created instant results.

Now she had to choose between the guys
From that point on, everything was sweet for Honey. She attracted so many more men and we’d spend our coaching calls talking about all her choices. There were several men and suddenly she was faced with having to chose between them!

This was an amazing turn around. Honey found a fabulous guy and started what turned into a lasting, loving relationship. Needless to say, she was thrilled with her results.

Honey only changed one thing
Now, keep this essential fact in mind…The only thing that Honey changed about her dating was…her mindset. She still looked exactly the same and hadn’t even touched her profile. She shifted her thoughts and that alone dramatically shifted her her energy to open up and be receptive. Once that was unblocked, the quality men emerged from no where.

Yes, your dating karma can shift too
I wanted to share one remarkable success story just so you know, if it seems right, that your love life and dating karma definitely can change too. Once you decide that finding love is worth it and you are ready to take a “no more excuses” approach, that is when the kind of magic that Honey experienced can happen for you too.

If this resonates with you and feels like your next step, then my newest program The Love Mastermind will help you shift your mindset and energy to attract the love you want. The program starts Sunday September 16th. Click here to find out if this is right for you.

Only eight special women will be a part of this ground-breaking group. Will you be one of them?


Midlife Dating: Today is the 1st Day of the Rest of Your Life

See Love, Speak Love, Be Love

I awoke to the church bells ringing as I do every Sunday morning. The neighborhood church plays a beautiful bell-song at 8am. so what’s the news here? We’re still here, still alive, still going.

According a particular Christian group, not sure who it is, they found a prediction in the New Testament that the final Judgment Day was yesterday, and the world would end at 6pm. I’m still here – aren’t you?

The main guy from this group spent over $140,000 on billboards around the country to make sure everyone was aware. He wanted to save our souls for Judgement day by spreading the word. Now that’s dedication to a cause. Yet, here we are.

Maybe I have been judged, or not. But, given all the media hype this situation received, I have to admit, this seems like an opportunity for renewal. A new lease on life. The dawn of a new day. A chance to change your destiny.

Given that today is the first day of the rest of your life, think about doing things differently. Why not start with love?

I’ve done a lot of spiritual study in my years, not religious mind you, but spiritual. One of my favorite writers is Eileen Caddy from the Findhorn Garden. In her book God Spoke to Me, she writes about the three commandments for the New Age. They are about Truth, Light and LOVE. To quote Eileen, the commandment for love says,

 “See Love, Speak Love, Be Love”

Now that you have a new lease on life, whether its man-made or God-given, choose to live a loving life. According to the Law of Attraction, “like attracts like.” That means, when you start to live a loving life, you will more naturally attract love into your life. Its a rather simple tenant.

I must admit that I am working on this myself. While I have a romantic partner, I could still be more loving. God said, “Love your neighbor as you love yourself,” but do I do this? Not that I’m going to get all scriptural, but wouldn’t the entire world be a better place if we shared love?

Why not start today? Think about love as you move through your day. If you are shopping and standing in line, let someone go before you with just a few items. At a 4-way stop while driving, let the people who should go first, actually go first. If somebody cuts you off while driving, forgive rather than curse at them.

As you see people during your day, greet a few and say hello. Share your smile. Be warm and friendly rather than keeping to yourself.

One of my clients, a single guy of 42, balked at this idea. He felt women wouldn’t be open to him saying hello. We agreed to an experiment. He would start saying hello to women in the grocery store just to see what happens. Would he get rebuked and rejected for his efforts or would he get a warm welcome? Interesting question isn’t it?

At first he felt very uncomfortable and it seemed some women looked at him like he was strange. However, he did get a few encouraging smiles. And as he continued this practice and it became more natural, his friendly response rate increased to over 90%. As he opened to be friendly, others responded in kind.

I’m going to leave you with this idea for now. On this special day, when you have a a fresh start, make a brave decision. Open to love.  See love, Speak love and Be love. Enjoy it, then watch what happens next.


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Do You Lose Ground If You Don’t Have a Date Every Saturday Night?

My friend and colleague Terry Hernon MacDonald is a big proponent of the Law of Attraction (LOA) to attract the love you want. She wrote a great article recently that really digs deep into the details of how to use LOA. I thought it was fabulous so I am sharing it with you.

I also applied the Law of Attraction to successfully find love.  I talk about LOA with dating coaching clients, making sure your inner and outer worlds are aligned to attract love.

Women who are dating after divorce or dating over 40 sometimes take all the steps to meet men, but it still doesn’t happen. Sometimes you are doing all the inner work, but not taking the outer steps to meet men. Both have to be working in sync to attract the right man for you.

Here is what Terry wrote recently about her method to make LOA  work:

Terry Hernon MacDonald

“During a recent coaching session, a woman told me that she felt as though she was “losing ground” if she didn’t have a date every Saturday night (she’s using one of the dating sites to meet men).

But her last few dates have been disappointing. She’s feeling burned out and thinks she could use a break from the dating merry-go-round — but she’s afraid to take it.

Here’s why she should:

Spending — and reveling in — time alone can be great for your self-esteem. (Note: The more solid your self-esteem, the more attractive you are. Guys love women who like themselves.) Use a free Saturday night to do something you want to do but might not ordinarily allow yourself to do.

For example:  Last night I went to see “Something Borrowed” with a friend. A woman in the row ahead of us was by herself. Nothing wrong with that; I still see movies by myself now and then! I enjoy it. If there’s a movie you want to see, why not see it tonight?

Or, you can use the time to use the LAW OF ATTRACTION to bring the RIGHT man into your airspace. If your last dates were duds, bring to mind what made them duds (a beautiful friend of mine recently had a first date with a guy who — wait for it — whipped out nasal spray at a restaurant table).

Write a list of the traits that turned you off (cheap? boring? bad taste?). Then write a list of those opposite traits (generous, fascinating, good taste) and follow it up with an affirmation:

“I am dating a generous, fascinating man with impeccable taste.”

Now imagine yourself at dinner with this man. Use all your senses: Touch, sight, hearing, smell, and taste.

  • What does it FEEL like to be out with this man?
  • How does he TREAT you?
  • Does he make you LAUGH?
  • When he opens the door for you, what do you SMELL? (Maybe the scent of laundry soap in his shirt)?
  • What NOISES are around you (music, tinkling of silverware)?
  • What is he WEARING?
  • What are you EATING?
  • Can you feel the WEIGHT of your drink glass in your hand?

Write a little scene describing this date. Make it as real as possible. Then, bring it to life in your imagination. Savor it.

This is a valuable use of your time. The subconscious mind cannot tell the difference between a real event and an imagined one. Keep bringing your scene to life in your mind twice or three times a day (or as often as possible!), and your subconscious mind will reward you by bringing it to pass.

Worked for me. Worked for my friend, Ronnie. Worked for countless others.

Enjoy your Saturday night. You’ve earned it.”

Learn more about how Terry uses the Law of Attraction by getting your own copy of her book, How to Attract and Marry the Man of Your Dreams. Click here to read more about it or get yours. I’ve read her book and thoroughly resonated with her suggestions and tips. They are sound, simple and very effective! As your dating coach, I highly recommend her book.

The Royal Wedding – Leverage the Global Love Bubble to Attract Your Own Love


Leverage Love Energy from the Royal Wedding


The Royal Wedding is today! At 6am edt, coverage begins of the British fairytale marriage of Prince William and Catherine Middleton. Will you be watching? Even a little bit of the pomp and ceremony? This might surprise you, but I recommend watching some fo the coverage. As your dating coach, I have very solid reasons for this suggestion.

Let’s talk about the Law of Attraction and how energy works.

As you’ve heard a million times by now, the Law of Attraction states that like attracts like. That means, you have to elevate your energy to be the same as the energy you want to attract. In other words, if you want a happy, successful, loving man, you have to be a happy, successful loving woman.

In addition, its been said time and again that the power of energy is multiplied when two or more people come together. For example, the power of two people praying is like that of four. Keep that in mind as you continue to read.

Here’s my suggestion:

I’m thinking if you’re reading this blog post, uou want to find love, but…

  • Maybe you don’t feel particularly connected to love right now
  • Maybe you aren’t sure true love exists
  • Maybe you think it’s too late  and love has pass you by
  • Maybe you think all the good men are taken
  • Maybe you doubt if you can find a good partner
  • Maybe you’re just down on love
  • Maybe you’re not over a painful breakup or divorce

As a dating coach for women dating over 40 or dating after divorce, I challenge each one of these belief systems and want to help you over throw them. This royal wedding can be launching pad to do just that and be of tremendous help to build the energy you need! And elevate your energy as well.

How? You can actually leverage the love from this weekend’s  royal wedding. Yup, it’s true! I have created a new visualization audio program just for this remarkable occasion and you can listen to it for FREE!

It’s been estimated that  2-1/2 BILLION people viewed the ceremony this AM. That’s a whole lot of people focused on love and marriage!  Remember, the romantic energy will be exponential with so many onlookers around the world, so 2-1/2 billion people is like the power of more than 6 billion! That’s quite a bubble of love.

Think how potent that energy current will be. Plus, its a global phenomenon. The energy of love will be encircling the world and you can tap into it! What an amazing opportunity!

You have all weekend to do this exercise so no excuses about being too busy or tired. Here are your instructions to leverage the wedding and elevate your energy regarding love.

You deserve love. Love can be yours. Elevate your energy and attract the love you long for. It is out there waiting for you to be ready to receive. Start that receiving process this weekend and leverage the love from the royal wedding.

Simply enter your name and email address and the 5 minute visualization is yours absolutely FREE!


 Here’s the 6 minute meditation

Earth Day 2011 – Celebrate the Goddess

Today is Earth Day. Did you do anything yet to commemorate the day?

This “green-focused” holiday celebrates the earth and is designed to raise consciousness about how we treat our “Mother.” I took part in a special ceremony to honor the Goddess, our Earth Mother. We honored her with offerings of cornmeal and water, took a few moments to connect with her spirit and send healing energy. To me, I doubt the earth really needs our healing thoughts. That seems a bit human ego-centric to me. But, what the heck – if it helps to counteract some of the rampant negativity, I’m in.

Earth Day 2011 - Celebrate the Goddess

In the USA, the day is far from over. You can still hold your own celebration. If you don’t resonate with what we did, make up your own way to honor the divinity that is planet earth.

  • Maybe you’ll choose to meditate for a few minutes
  • Maybe you’ll plant some  flowers (depending on where you live and what can still withstand the cold weather)
  • Maybe you’ll stand by the edge of the ocean or a river and feel the positive vibes the water has to offer
  • Maybe you’ll walk barefoot on the grass to let the Earth energy enter your body through your feet
  • Maybe you’ll watch the sunset and celebrate the stars above

It doesn’t really matter how you choose to make this day special. But I do recommend doing something. Why? Well, to connect with your feminine energy, it helps to connect with the Goddess. And Mother Earth is grounded, alive and a sensual being, all good qualities for women who are dating over 40. Taking time to honor the earth will help ground and center you. This  can help you feel more relaxed, optimistic and open to the abundant gifts Mother Earth readily provides.

Finish up any ceremony, big or small, with a moment of gratitude for all that you have and all that the Goddess provides. Any time spent being grateful is time well spent. An attitude of gratitude is very magnetic, pulling toward you all that you desire and all that you deserve. That’s the Law of Attraction in action once again.

Many Blessings

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Dating Over 40: Arielle Ford Adds Gratitude to Law of Attraction Work

I’m still thinking about some of the wonderful speakers I heard during the Soulmate Summit. One in particular stands out – Arielle Ford. She is the author of  The Soulmate Secret: Manifest the Love of Your Life with the Law of Attraction.

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For me, one of the most interesting things I learned was how many other women and dating coaches used the Law of Attraction (LOA), like I did, to when dating over 40 to find love.  But Arielle had a twist to the usual format that you hear.

Typically, with LOA, you get specific with what you want. I have my dating coaching clients think about the qualities they are looking for in a man such as intelligent, honest, affectionate, generous in spirit, athletic, healthy, etc. Then I ask women dating over 40 or dating after divorce about the quality of the relationship they desire. Is their relationship with the right man easy, fun, respectful, comfortable, spontaneous, loving, soulful, etc.?

Next, the process requires determining the end result which is how you want to FEEL. Because, it is the emotional end result that creates the vibration, working like a beacon to call in the one you want. You do this by matching the vibration of what you want so that “like attracts like”.  That is the very essence of how LOA works. Emotions are powerful energy generators and all energy has a pattern or in other words, a vibration!

So, to attract love, you must spend time FEELING what it will be like. But you have to FEEL it right now, today, as if its already happening. As if its REAL. This is exactly what I did and I can tell you that the process did work. 

Arielle added one more step. And this makes so much sense but I never did this part. Arielle has you imagine how grateful you are for finding the love you want. Express your gratitude to the Universe, God or powers that be in the moment you imagine being with the right man for you. You could say a simple “Thank you” or extend your statement to more fully express your gratefulness.

What is so smart about adding this step is that it further promotes your belief that what you are imagining IS TRUE. So true, that you are already grateful! How’s that for elevating your vibration? That will do it. It deepens the feeling and makes the emotions more real. Very savvy Arielle. And taken from many spiritual practices. The idea of expressing gratitude for all that you have is basic to most religions and spiritual practices.

When you choose to work with me as your dating coach and startpracticing the Law of Attraction to MANifest your mate, I highly recommend closing as Arielle does with a bit of gratitude. Whatever way you want to do this is fine. Let’s see if that speeds things up. But even if it doesn’t, you can never go wrong feeling grateful for all that you  have and all the good that is coming your way.

Dating Over 40: Sing Your Own Love Song this Valentine’s Day by Ronnie Ann Ryan

It’s day five of the Valentine’s Day blog-a-thon! Happy Valentine’s day to you. I hope you’ve been reading along with the Blog-a-thon daily since it started on Thursday, 2/10 featuring a different guest dating blogger every day. There are still two more days to come so stop by again Tuesday and Wednesday so you don’t miss a drop of this amazing dating advice for single women dating over 40 or dating after divorce.

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Today’s post is by me, Ronnie Ann Ryan – The Dating Coach, workshop leader, professional speaker and author of MANifesting Mr. Right: It’s Never Too Late to Find the Love You Want. Share your smile with others today and you’ll share the love energy of this special day.

Sing Your Own Love Song this Valentine’s Day

When you choose to work with me, you’ll become familiar with the Law of Attraction and the principle “Like Attracts Like’. It means, to attract love, you have to embody love and create the energetic vibration of being in love with the right man right, NOW.

How can you do this?

There are many methods I share with my dating coaching clients including creating affirmations. You can say them out loud, silently in your mind, or write them down repeatedly. Some people make a “vision board” to visually represent your affirmation.

For me, I like to sing.  Most of the world’s religions and spiritual practices incorporate singing or chanting to send your prayers to God. Music is known to lift your spirit and RAISE YOUR VIBRATION. Think about it – singing creates a vibration in your body as your vocal chords work like a musical instrument.

When I was single, I turned my affirmations into songs or chants. The first one set the foundation for what I hoped to create. It was these four simple lines explained below.

1. Please allow my love to flow
I knew that I had love energy within me that had grown stagnant. My intention was to get this energy moving again inside my body and within my energy field.

2. Open my heart and let it grow
My heart had shut down. During college, I was hurt deeply by my boyfriend. To move on, I needed to let go and open my heart to men again. 

3. I’m more attractive than I know
Over the years, I lost touch with my own allure and feminine charm. I didn’t feel I had much appeal. To change this I started eating better and exercised. I knew I also had to find a way to believe in my s-e-x appeal. 

4. There is a man who loves me so
Another important belief that needed to strengthen was that love was possible. The right man would find me – and I would find him.

Next, I created a little tune and began singing. In essence, I wrote my own love song.

How did I use this chant? I sang that little ditty all the time! When I awoke in the morning, on my daily walk, in the shower, in the car, doing the dishes, etc. Sometimes I sang in my mind. Other times I belted out the tune like I was on a Broadway stage.

Guess what I discovered? It made me happy! The chant wove its way into my subconscious, helping me believe and elevating my vibration to the level of love I desired. Over time, I wrote eight chants to help me attract the right man for me.

If you’re familiar with my work, you know the happy ending. I met my husband on a blind date – the 30th man I dated in 15 months. It still brings tears of gratefulness to my eyes.

There is no denying the powerful force of the Law of Attraction and for me, putting the affirmation to music. Use my song or write your own. Many of my dating coaching clients have reported not only finding love, but also new homes, new jobs, etc., singing their desires to the Universe.

Write your own love song and sing it loudly.  The music will be working its magic for you, dancing through the Universe, bringing your love to thee.

Read more about coaching with Ronnie and get started here.

If you missed any of the previous posts from the Valentine’s Day Blog-a-thon, click below:

Day #1  Love is in the Air and Its All about You  by Marla Martenson
Day #2 Fall in Love on Valentine’s Day with Yourself by Bobbi Palmer
Day #3 The Love You Take is Equal to the Love You Makeby Terry Hernon MacDonald
Day #4  Single? 5 Tips to Get You Noticed this Valentine’s Day by Paige Parker

Dating Over 40: Why He Turned Down a Threesome

Do you think all men are dogs? Terry MacDonald, blogger at www.DatingAdviceAlmostDaily.com explains why that’s not a great belief system. According to the Law of Attraction, what you think of as truth and choose to focus on is what you attract. Therefore , if you do believe all men are dogs – guess who you’ll likely meet? Dogs!

I read the whole article as seen on Salon and I must tell you it really surprised me. The writer, Joshua, admitted publicly, that although his wife wanted a threesome with a beautiful European woman, he did not. He felt foolish, wondering what was wrong with him since his wife was offering him something every red-blooded American man should want. But not Josh. Nope.

He explained the difference between the types of love. Eros, is love and sexual desire. Where as Venus is immediate sexual desire. Probably this is the hot chemistry and flying sparks some of my dating coaching clients say they just can’t do without. But you see, it’s not Eros, love and desire combined – its just lust.

So, if you think all men want just one thing, Josh has publicly admitted that YOU are WRONG. He is a loyal man and doesn’t want any part of cheating, straying or sharing. Thanks Josh for your shocking honesty – giving women dating over 40 the knowledge that good men, solid, honest guys, truly do still exist.

Visit Terry’s site for all kinds of great dating advice. She frequently inspires me.

Dating Over 40: Laurie Davis and Terry MacDonald Speaking Today at Dating for Keeps Expo

Are you leveraging online dating? Do you want to know the best way to maximize your results? What about applying the Law of Attraction to find the love of your life? Think it’s possible? That’s waht we’ll be talking about today at the Dating for Keeps Expo!

Laurie Davis, founder of the eFlirt Expert, will be speaking today at 5pm edt about online dating, offering savvy tips about flirting and meeting men online. www.eflirtexpert.com Lauire is frequently sought by the media to sahre her insgihts about web romance and s he will ahppily share her savvy ways with listeners today as part of the Dating for Keeps Expo.

Plus, Terry MacDonald, author of How to Attract and Marry the Man of Your Dreams and blogger at www.datingadvicealmostdaily.com will be sharing her techniques for attracting love using the Law of Attraction at 8pm edt. Terry herself applied the Law to attract her hunky, wonderful husband and looks forward to sharing her methods with listeners.

There are so many great speakers this week – 12 in all! You can listen for free by registering now. Click here. Eventhough the program started yesterday, there are still 9 more programs to listen to, so don’t hesitate another minute – Register Now.

Dating Over 40: Is Your Ambivalence about Love Holding You Back?

So you are over 40, divorced or single and say you want to find a good life partner? Great! What are you doing to make that desire come true?

As a dating coach for women dating over 40 or dating after divorce, I’ve seen and heard so much – I’m sure you can imagine. But the one thing that often surprises me most is when a woman tells me how much she wants to find love and yet, she does almost nothing to create this reality.

How can this be? There are many possible reasons. Maybe you want love but:

You are afraid to be vulnerable again, still healing from love gone wrong.
You don’t want to relinquish your freedom and prefer independence
You don’t want to go through “that” again, thinking every relationship will turn out exactly the same
You don’t have time to date, having filled every spare moment of your life
You don’t believe there are any good men left so wonder if you should even bother
You feel its all simply too difficult

I could fill pages with reasons like this – and you could too. It’s easy  and you can probably relate to many of these statements. Even though they aren’t true, they can FEEL true if you let them.

These are actually, excuses hiding your ambivalence. If you think that pursuing love and dating are useless, OF COURSE YOU DON’T WANT TO PUT YOUR TIME AND EFFORT INTO IT!

Often, your ambivalence is your own worst enemy. The human condition is to want to be right. Naturally we look for evidence that we are right. That means you will notice all the examples that prove your case and support your excuses.

On the other hand, when you believe finding love is a real possibility, you will see evidence to support this position. I can tell you from my own personal experience and the thousands of people I have coached, finding love is REAL. It happens every day.

When I was single and in my 30’s, did I believe this? Nope. Not for 18 years of my adult life. But when I turned 40 and freaked out to  still be single and never married, I knew something had to change.

The biggest shift I made was to DECIDE that it was time to believe in love. I focused fiercely on the truth that love existed and the right man was out there for me. I drowned my ambivalence and pushed it out of my life, replacing this with a firm insistence that I would find love and HE (the right man) would find me.

I can tell you – it worked.

And this has worked for countless women. Once you decide to work with me as your dating coach, I will tell you that to find love, you must believe. Chase the ambivalence away. Discover methods that you can use to hold your positive focus. Instill a sense of hope and deep knowing that all your efforts will bare fruit – MANifesting the love you want, long for and most definitely deserve.

If you need help to strengthen or even establish a belief in love, you could benefit from my audio: I Believe: Affirmations to Find Love Now. This audio program has three “meditations” of different lengths, all designed to strengthen and build your belief in love, belief in yourself, and belief that the right man for you is out there. The meditations use the Law of Attraction by applying affirmations to reach your subconscious mind – the place where all manifesting begins.

And it’s at a special price right now, but that will be changing at the end of this month. Get your audio program now when you click here.

Dating Over 40: Are You Irritated with Men?

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Magnetic Love = Hugs and Kisses

Beth, one of my over 40 dating coaching clients is feeling  down about her dating journey. Things aren’t happening the way she’d like and frankly, so many men who contact her on Match.com are simply irritating.

I asked what she meant. “Well’, they wink, but don’t write. Or email but clearly haven’t read my profile. Or worse, they disappear or are just plain creepy!”

I sympathize with Beth. We all know how this can be. Beth is frustrated because she really wants to move on and find the right relationship and the men who contact her  are “truly awful and disheartening!”

Don’t focus on What You Don’t Want
While Beth’s feelings are understandable and justifiable, they are impeding her progress. Thinking this way sends out the wrong signals to the Universe and is self-sabotaging. She never looked at  her thought process this way before.  By focusing on these facts alone, she is allowing the Law of Attraction to bring her more of what she doesn’t want. Like attracts like  – that’s how it works.

Focus on What You Want
Think about it…when Beth is irritated with men, she sends the “vibe of  irritation” out into the cosmos. Not very attractive when you look at it this way is it? Instead, to use the Law of Attraction more effectively, Beth needs to concentrate on what she does want.

A Powerful Shift in Perspective Builds Magnetism
What will help Beth is to shift her perspective on these interactions with men. When you choose to work with me as your dating coach, you’ll see clearly how this makes a tremendous difference. For example, I coached Beth to recognize that these men, while not right for her, are showing their appreciation of her. They find her attractive and that is a good thing! She can use this to build her confidence, seeing these interactions as proof of her attractiveness.  

I tell my clients to silently thank any man who finds you attractive and them move on. Delete their emails, walk away or whatever. You don’t have to talk to these men or like them. Just appreciate being appreciated. This is a far more MAGNETIC way to process these situations and apply the Law of Attraction.

The more you appreciate yourself and focus on what is working in the dating arena and life in general, the more magnetic you will become. It may not be easy to make this shift – it will take time and effort. But the rewards are outrageous and highly worthwhile – MANifesting what you want in life, namely: love with the right man for you.

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Dating Over 40: Do You Find Dating as Annoying as Mosquito Bites?

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Some of my dating coaching clients think dating is totally annoying.

They don”t like:
-the process
-the men they meet
-the Internet
-the dances
-to play games
-wasting time meeting people

Do you feel this way too? Can you related to this? If you said “Yes,” I’m not  surprised. I hear these feelings expressed all the time in my dating coaching practice.

Let me tell you why this is a problem of tremendous proportions.

If you find the entire dating process annoying, then it has no intrinsic value. So you won’t feel like doing it. You might think that it’s all a big waste of time and not important. If you could just meet the right man and get it all over with, that would be so much better!

Boiling it down to the essence: You have a negative attitude before you even meet anyone.  Starting off  negative is guaranteed to produce…  more negativity which is not very attractive based on the Law of Attraction. At least not attractive to anything positive. With a negative attitude about men and dating, feeling the whole thing is as annoying as mosquito bites, maybe 100 times more, who do you think you are going to attract?

Annoying men. That’s right! Because “like attract likes” with the Law of Attraction.

So what’s the solution? Let me tell you a story and once you hear the whole thing, you’ll get a better feeling for how you can shift this at least into neutral.

Over the weekend I went to an outdoor evening party. I wore long sleeves and long pants, so I was mostly covered, but I sprayed my part on the top of my head with a natural bug repellent. The mosquitoes were voracious, but I thought I had escaped.

No such luck. Monday morning when I put on my sneakers to exercise, the darn bites came to life all around my ankles where the sneakers rubbed. It felt like fire itching beyond belief. Did I take off my sneakers and not exercise? Of course not! I am committed to my exercise routine. 100%

I started walking down the street and the only thing I could think of was those bites. Itchy, itchy, itchy! Could I really walk for 30-minutes? No choice really, I’m not going to give up exercise because of a few bites. I hoped it would pass.

I began thinking about other things. Topics I actually preferred to ponder and give my energy too. Planning workshops and speaking gigs the upcoming fall season, writing on my blog, remembering how much fun the party was.

Guess what happened? When I stopped thinking about the bug bites, they stopped being front and center in my mind. And finally the horrible itching subsided. I became desensitized to the bites!

Now, let’s take the next step – or leap – and apply this to dating. When you think dating is annoying and focus on that, you experience dating as pretty darn annoying. Guaranteed as I mentioned above. Yet, if you are committed to the process because finding love is that important in your life, you accept that you will do the work any way because you are 100% committed.

You become more relaxed,  friendlier and even start enjoying meeting men and your dating activities. Sometimes, it might still feel annoying. But you see it’s just part of the process. Knowing that there is no other way to find love today then to date, you accept dating as your means to an end and become desensitized to every little nuance that you encounter.

With an accepting and committed attitude, you are more positive because you know you are doing this for a purpose – to find love! You are determined to keep on going until you find it. And find it you will!

Dating may be as annoying as mosquito bites, but only if you hold that as your focus. Choose to focus instead on what you want and how you’ll feel with the right man. Sexy, alive and cherished. Or however you imagine the essence of love will feel. Go for it! The annoyance will pass and you will meet a good man. I found love over 40 and that makes me totally sure you can do it too.

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Dating Over 40: Create an Affirmation to Leverage the Law of Attraction

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Have you created an affirmation about love yet? Working with me as your dating coach, That’s one of the first things we do. It’s easy really. Here’s how you can do it to start attracting the love you want today.

1. Think about the qualities you want in your romantic partner. Is he happy, successful, supportive, communicative, social, healthy, and a good listener? Maybe he’s got a generous heart, he’s spiritual or romantic? What ever qualities you want in a partner, make a list and include everything you can think of.

2. Can’t think of what you want but sure know what you don’t want? That works too! For example, if you dated a man who was cheap and don’t want that again, then ask for a man who is generous. If you dated a guy who was dishonest, you now want an honest man. If you dated a guy who was never around and wouldn’t talk about things, then you want a guy who is available and communicative. Turn what you don’t want around to be what you do want.

3. Now that your list is complete, take a moment to relax and center yourself. Read the list of all the great qualities you are looking for – this is your MANifesting list. Next, close your eyes and imagine it’s all true! Imagine that you have found each other. How does that feel? Suspend all judgment about whether or not this is possible. Simply believe it is for this moment and connect with the emotions around it. How would you feel?

Make sure the words you choose aren’t too simple like “good” or wonderful”. Think about emotive words such as “ecstatic, blessed, loved, cherished, blissful,  lucky, sexy”. Push yourself to choose words that are very descriptive because this customizes the affirmation specifically to you. How you feel about the right man is what matters most and makes this exercise powerful.

4. Finish this sentence: With the right man for me, I feel __________, _______, and _________. Just pick three or four, no more. You want to capture the essence of how great it feels.

That’s it! You’ve done it – the first step to MANifesting the right man for you. When you choose to work with me as your dating coach, I will help you refine your affirmation statements to get the best results. You’ll see how easy this process can be as you hear the affirmations and feel great when they sink into your subconscious mind and go out into the Universe.

That’s how the Law of attraction works – with like attracting like. So when you shift your beliefs and energy to feel how good you’ll feel with the right man, you are now vibrating at the level you desire. That means you can now attract the love you want!

 Check back tomorrow  for how to use this affirmation to apply the Law of Attraction to your love life.

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Dating After Divorce: Law of Attraction – Why You MUST Say Affirmations Out Loud?

This weekend I ran a workshop using the Law of Attraction to attract love. A lot of material was covered on how to create a powerful, customized affirmation for each class participant. After we completed the process, one woman asked me, “Do I have to say my affirmation out loud? What if I don’t’ feel comfortable doing that? I prefer to just visualize it while laying in bed.”

What a great question!

As a dating coach working with the Law of Attraction (LOA), I have discovered numerous ways to use affirmations. And,  trying a variety of methods is actually a smart way to go. However, here are some crucial elements of working with LOA to be successful. Here are five tips to help apply the LOA for the best results:

1. You need to be comfortable with your affirmation. Of  course it will be as stretch – you are reaching to manifest something you do not currently have. but it should feel good when you use your affirmation and leave you uplifted and with optimism.

2. Customize your affirmation. Make it specific to you.  For example, it’s great to repeat, “I am a man magnet” but what kind of man? Losers? Men who are emotionally unavailable or unfaithful?  Of course not! qualify those men in your statement:” I am a magnet for the right man, a good man who loves and respects me and fulfills my needs as I fulfill his.”

3. Give voice to your affirmation. I recommend to my dating coaching clients that they speak their affirmations. If you cannot say the statement out loud then you are not owning it, you are not embracing it, and hence you cannot not embody it. That means it won’t work.

In order for LOA to be effective, you have to vibrate at the level of what you want – that’s the way LOA works!  So if you can’t say the affirmation because it doesn’t FEEL comfortable, then you miss out on the vibration of your voice which allow the affirmation to permeate every cell in your body. Don’t not skip this step!

4. Sing your affirmations. In fact, I often recommend to my dating coaching clients that they put their affirmations to music. Even if you use the song “Twinkle, Twinkle Little Star” and change the words to your affirmation, it can multiply the impact dramatically. Why? Because singing creates vibration!

5. Try several methods. When you try several different methods of using your affirmation, you will find the ones that resonate best with you. This makes a lot of sense because when you choose methods that feel good, you will do the work more often and it will permeate your being and subconscious mind  that much deeper.

Naturally there are countless ways to work with affirmations that will increase their effectiveness:

– Write them every day
– Make a treasure map to visually represent them
– Decorate a pillow on your bed with your affirmation
– Visualize them in a meditation

When you start working with affirmations, fully embrace them and don’t do it sparingly. The more you work with them, the faster they will work.

You can read more on how to apply seven powerful MANifesting techniques from chapter 7 in  in my book, MANifesting Mr. Right. Get your copy as a downloadable ebook, audio book on CD  or paperback today.

6/12 The “Secret” to Finding Love Today – Newtown, CT

In this uplifting and info-packed workshop, you’ll learn how to apply the Law of Attraction to your love-life. Adopt dater’s mind for greater success, build confidence with your Inner Goddess, flirt because it’s fun and meet more men than ever. Develop your “Attraction and Action Plan” to find the love you want!

3 Saturdays June 12th, 19th and 24th, 9-10:30am
Sticks ansd Stones Farm in Newtown, CT
Fee: $78 including my newest ebook How to Transform the Thoughts that Keeps You from Love

To Register Call Annie  at 203-270-8820 or visit www.sticksandstonesfarm.com