Dating Over 40: Some Dating Advice for Men (and Women) – The Art of Small Talk

This weekend I met with a new male client who is 47, wants to find a woman, get married and have children. He’s an average looking guy, personable enough, has a good job, owns his own home. What’s the hitch?   Recently Joe tried speed dating and chose two women, but they didn’t choose him … Read more

Dating Over 40: I Want a Man Who is Just Like Me

I promised more from Thursday night’s workshop. so the saga continues! More and more, I find that women in their 30’s and 40’s want to date men who meet very specific criteria. Many women know exactly what they are looking for including energy level, activities and interests, and economic status or promise. What about you? … Read more

Dating After Divorce: Serving Up Rejection – The Best Way to End a Brief Relationship

Dear Ronnie, I have a question about how to break off with a man early in the process. Bill struck up a conversation online through Match.com. He had a nice profile, not bad looking, lots of the things I’m looking for and many things in common. OK, I was excited.  Bill said he’ll call Tuesday night. But he didn’t … Read more

Dating Over 40: Tobey McGuire Buys Rights to Lori Gottlieb’s Article “Marry Him – The Case for Settling”

Is this really movie material? The article from March’s Atlantic Monthly caused a tremendous brew haha. Bloggers ranted – i did too. She did the talk show circuit. And now – the rights have been purchasee to make this story into a film. Did Tobey buy a smash hit? maybe. It’s a chick flick waiting … Read more

Dating Over 40: The April “Get Out There” Challenge

Ive got a challenge for you. And it’s big. Not the Pepsi challenge. Oh no. It’s a big one and if you take it on, you will dramatically improve your chance for spring and summer romance 10 fold. No kidding. No April Fool’s joke. Outside it’s warming up. So that hibernation excuse has limited continued … Read more

Dating After Divorce: Kiss an Italian Day?

March 25th was Kiss an  Italian Day and I missed it! bummer! Why didn’t I know this earlier? I just learend about this new "holiday" on Facebook. Still a novice, I’m trying to get my feet wet. Right now they are quite soggy and I’m leaving drippy footprints wherever I go. Back to Kiss an Italian Day. … Read more

Dating Over 40: 7 Reasons Why Younger Men Date Older Women – the Rest of the Story

On Monday, I shared three reasons younger men date older women. Here’s an additional four reasons that all make sense regarding the appeal of the "cougar." For Status Older women are more accomplished. Today many women have power jobs and make a boatload of ka-ching. And so, just like younger women who date older men, younger … Read more

Dating Over 40: 7 Darn Good Reasons Why Younger Men Date Older Women

There are countless reasons why a younger man might date an older woman, but this week, I’ll give you a list of seven reasons that are the most probable from this dating coach’s perspective. Today, you’ll find three below. More will follow later this week so check back! 1) For Lust Maybe you’re just hot … Read more

Dating Over 40: 8 Minute Dating is Back in CT!

Good news! For a long time now, 8 Minute Dating has been lacking in hostesses and so there haven’t been many events. But in April, Hartford has three events up to age 49 and New Haven County has three as well. For some reason, two of the events are actually listed in New Haven, and … Read more

Dating After Divorce: How Come He Flirts via Email, But Doesn’t Ask Me Out?

Have you encountered one of these guys? The banter and flirting back and forth via the Internet is fantastic. He has such a great sense of humor and seems really fun and interested in you. After all, why would he waste so much time flirting with you if he didn’t like you? And if he … Read more

Dating Over 40: Millionaire Matchmaker Ends with Proposal-Please Don’t Try This at Home!

Did you catch the last episode of Patti Stanger’s Millionaire Matchmaker on Bravo? What a shocker! One of her clients, Paul met his first match, Cidney, and during the date while flying around in a helicopter, he asked her to marry him! I was stunned. Talk about love at first sight. Is that really possible? Maybe it was altitude sickness? … Read more

Dating Over 40: Diary of a Mid-Life Dater – News on the New Man

Spoke with Shellie again yesterday. Things with Mitch are percolating along.  It seems Mitch likes to bring her little presents. A small fruit bread he baked, some fruit he canned last summer.  Hmmm, not the traditional fare but sweet none the less. And the man cooks! Wa-hoo! Shellie repeated again how different Mitch is. Plus, the way … Read more

Dating Over 40: Diary of a mid-Life Dater – When the New Man Shows Up

How exciting! One of my clients has just connected with a new man with real potential. Honestly, we are both thrilled. And she has allowed me to share her story with you in this new series of posts- Diary of a Mid-Life Dater. Shellie has been divorced for 15 years. Her marriage ended when she … Read more

Dating Over 40: Is Dating Advice from Men Better?

In an article entitled Men Do it Better from Globe Life, David Coleman and David Wygant, both dating coaches, insist that men give much better dating advice then women do for women. They claim that the advice women give is too complicated – like judging a man by his shoes or his watch. Or manipulative … Read more

Dating Over 40: Cougars – The Newest Trend in Dating

Now that women have come into their own regarding business, career, money and power, we are starting to see evidence of how that power can turn a woman’s head. Or a younger man’s. Enter the Cougars, a term (whose origins are being argued over)  to describe a newly emerging group of s-e-x-y, 40+ women who seek the … Read more

Dating Over 40: When Do You Hire a Dating Coach?

I’ve heard a lot of people say that the idea of hiring a dating coach makes them feel like a loser. They feel they should be able to figure dating out on their own like most people do. Well its certainly possible. The process seems simple enough: meet men, date some, pick one and get into … Read more

Dating After Divorce: Flirting Can Get You Arrested in NYC and Arkansas

Today on MSN.com, there is an article with some fun flirting tips – including that it’s illegal in New York City and Arkansas – antiquated laws that are still on the books.  To ensure you don’t get fined, or worse, you may want to read this . I wouldn’t worry to much though – both … Read more

Dating Over 40: Client Thanks Me with Valentine’s Day Card

Well here’s a new one. One of my clients sent me a Valentine’s Day card as a thank you for dating coaching. Shelly and I worked together for a while, focusing on attitudes and beliefs that were keeping her from meeting the right men. She didn’t really think there were any good men out there. And she … Read more