Dating Over 40: Text, IM, eMail – Don’t Men Talk on the Phone Anymore?

Lately I’ve been hearing a lot about men connecting frequently – but not the old fashioned way of a phone call. Today men are more interested in IMing or text messages. What’s that about? Well, let’s consider what’s going on here… What do the email, IM and texting as communication methods have in common? 1. … Read more

Dating After Divorce: Should I Date More than One Man at a Time?

Now this is a FUN question! Dear Dating Coach, I’ve been dating Max for nearly a month and it’s been fun. He emails and texts quite a bit, and also calls, although not as often. We see each other 2-3 times a week and things are going pretty well. I’m not ready to get exclusive … Read more

Dating Over 40: Don’t Forget About Girlfriends!

Marilyn was complaining recently that she was tired of spending so much time alone. She just broke up with her boyfriend of three years and they had done EVERYTHING together. Now she was boyfriendless and companionship scarce. What about her girlfriends? Well Marilyn had focused her life on her man. Some of her friendships stayed … Read more

Dating After Divorce: Teen Dating – Parents’ Rules Relflect Their Own Love Lives

A recent article in the Wall Street Journal presented results from a new study on parents, teens and dating rules. The article entitled, "What the Dating Rules You Set For Your Kids Say About You"  had some interesting tidbits. Apparently happily married couples set more stringent guidelines, where as parents burned by love dealt with … Read more

Dating Over 40: Can You Mimic the Sensuality of Cat Woman?

Today on my morning walk, I noticed two young girls in costumes riding scooters. The older girl had on a super hero costume iI didn’t recognize. The other had on a black velvet leotard with black tights, two pointy ears on a headband and a plush black tail pinned to her bottom. The tail wagged … Read more

Do Your Actions Line Up with Your Intentions and Desires?

Elaine is 54, single, and an extremely busy executive with a job that is all consuming. Two weeks ago she went on a first date with Daniel, and she was complaining to me how he hadn’t called. She was surprised and confused to report that he had left a message just that day to set … Read more

Dating After Divorce: Do You Worry about the Future Before There is a Future?

Are you a natural born worrier? Answer these three questions and you’ll get an idea of your worry quotient and then learn what you can do about it! 1) Do you worry about the future potential a man might have before you finish the first date? 2) When you see a guy online who has kids, … Read more

Dating Over 40: The More People You Know, the Better Your Chances of Finding Dates

I found this great article today on MSN.com about expanding your social circle. Bascially the idea is, the more people you know, the more people they know. When you increase your social reach, you chances of meeting  "The One" get better and better. Dating is a numbers game. With that in mind, you can see what … Read more

Dating Over 40: A Flirty, Fun Summer – What’s That?

One of my newest clients asked me what a flirty fun summer is supposed to be like.  That’s what I’ve been talking about a lot lately. The idea involves enjoying yourself while flirting with men. But let’s take a step back further to really examine what flirty fun might mean. According to dictionary.com, the word … Read more

Dating After Divorce: Conversational Flirting – Tips to Connect with Dating Prospects

So you see a great looking man (or woman) and you wish you could think of something to say. But shyness overcomes you or you get tongue-tied. In that split second you have to connect with someone– the right words don’t seem to pop into your head. Well fear no longer. Below, you’ll find a few simple, yet highly … Read more

Dating Over 40: Lacking Motivation? Get a Dating Buddy!

  During the last group coaching session of the spring series, one of my clients, Isabel has been struggling with staying motivated. She finds so many reasons to not go to events or worse, signing up for things, but not following through to attend. This pattern has really been keeping her from sticking with her … Read more

Dating Over 40: Flirting – Watch this How-To Video and Learn

  Here’s something new for you – Love U, an educational video series on… DATING! How fun! I  just watched this quick video on flirting. They have the concepts down, but the demonstration seems a bit tongue and cheek. Not all that serious, really. But the lessons themselves are sound. Things like flipping your hair, … Read more

Dating Over 40: Why can’t a man just tell you when things are over?

  Dear Dating Coach, Why can’t a man just tell you when things are over?   I had a long distance relationship with this great guy for 15 months. He had been a client and while we worked together, we spoke daily. At one point he flew out for a meeting and we got to … Read more

Dating Over 40: Looking for Love? What’s wrong with now?

Saturday a potential new client called me to talk about coaching. She wanted to know how it works and could I help with her match.com profile. We talked for a while and I explained the coaching process. Vanessa had a lot of questions. Turns out she met me 6 years ago at one of my … Read more

8 Powerful Ways to Get His Attention Back

How do you get his attention back when he has pulled away or changed the way he treats you? If things were great but no longer are, read on. Your man seems distracted and you fear he may be losing interest. What’s a woman to do? You might be thinking – “What did I do wrong?” … Read more

Dating Over 40: Serial Monogamy – The Opposite of Dating

Have you heard of this term – Serial Monogamy? Until recently, I hadn’t. But I just interviewed a matchmaker from Massachusetts, Lanie Delphin of Massmatch.com. Lanie explained that serial monogamy is the result of people who don’t really want to date. They just want to be in a relationship. The pattern involves rushing from the first … Read more

Flirt School – Unleash Your Feminine Allure to Attract More Men

What makes a woman irresistible?  Some women just have the knack. But don’t despair. Now you too can effectively wield your feminine charms. You’ve got ’em, even if they’ve been buried deep within your heart and soul for years.   Here’s your chance to discover simple flirting techniques and sure-fire ways to rekindle your feminine … Read more

Dating Over 40: Are you ready to have the time of your life or waiting to get motivated?

My client Sharon called in for her monthly coaching appointment last night. We talked about how things were going on her dating journey. What had she done to find the love she wants? Surprisingly, Sharon had done very little. She did have a number of excellent excuses. For example: work was really busy, she’s remodeling … Read more

Dating Over 40: When I Use the Law of Attraction, Can I Visualize Colin Firth?

Dear Ronnie, There’s something that has always stumped me about trying to do visualization and work with the Law of Attraction. I’m supposed to visualize what I want and make lists of the characteristics: i.e. a guy who is happy, self-sufficient, fun to be with, smart, attractive (at least to me), healthy, etc.  But to … Read more

Dating Over 40: I Want a Man Who is Just Like Me

I promised more from Thursday night’s workshop. so the saga continues! More and more, I find that women in their 30’s and 40’s want to date men who meet very specific criteria. Many women know exactly what they are looking for including energy level, activities and interests, and economic status or promise. What about you? … Read more