Find Love: 8 Love Lessons for Hanukkah – Free ebook

If you are single this holiday season, this post is for you! I have a special gift to share with you so read on. Hanukkah starts tonight!  This Jewish holiday, also referred to as the Festival of Lights, features the menorah with nine candles. One candle for each day and a ninth to light the others. … Read more

Expressing Regrets of Singleness at 68 – A Poignant Story

Some women are quite content being single. They have consciously chosen their single status and have been very happy with that choice. I am all for happiness, in or out of relationship 🙂 However, what is really important is to be honest with yourself about your desires…Because if you choose to remain single and “be done with … Read more

Over 40 Dating: More on Why Didn’t He Call Back – What Rachel Learned from 1000 men

This is part two of Why Didn’t He Call Back. As a dating coach for women over 40, I was quite surprised to hear what Rachel discovered – “Women weren’t nice enough on the first date.” Yesterday, we went over the idea of why treating the waitstaff and other service people poorly might be transferred … Read more


FLIRT SCHOOL  Spice Up Your Feminine Charm to Meet More Men! Spring is in the air and the desire for love usually intensifies. According to a recent article in the New York Times, the dating business is up! Both online dating sites and matchmakers report a spike in activity and lots of new members since December. … Read more

Over 40 Dating: Leverage the Luck of the Irish to Become Lucky in Love!

Happy St. Patrick’s Day! Whether you are of Irish decent or not, many American’s celebrate St. Patrick’s Day. If you are feeling Irish today, maybe you should start thinking about how you can leverage the luck  to turn your romantic life around. Let’s base this potentially powerful  shift on the shamrock’s three heart-shaped leaves: 1) Begin thinking … Read more

Dating After Divorce: I’m Not Your Ex! – Insightful Dating Advice from a Single Midlife Man

Last week I interviewed a single guy, 46, who had some very interesting advice to share with single women.  Jerry has done his fair share of online dating on Match and special interest sites too.  Here’s what Jerry has to offer women who are in the process of searching for love and dating: 1. Don’t Judge … Read more

Dating Over 40: First Date Scheduling Difficulties

Dear Ronnie, I have been communicating with this one guy on Match that in the virtual world seems like a good fit for me. We’ve been trying to meet however because of our schedules it hasn’t happened yet. I finally said lets talk on the phone – he said he would call me on Monday or Tuesday night…..he … Read more

Dating After Divorce: What to Do When You’re Spiraling into Negativity and Discouraged

  Dating is not always easy. Maybe you’ve hit a bad streak and nothing is clicking. Maybe you’ve had some disasters or disappointments. This is all part of the "looking for love" process and is to expected. but that doesn’t mean it’s easy or fun and sometimes it’s down right depressing. I know, I’ve been there … Read more

Dating OVer 40: Are you Dating MIA – Missing in Action?

  This has been the craziest week i can remember. I went from meeting to meeting and barely even got a chance to look at my email, never mind blog. I was MIA from a good portion of my normal routine and life. As a result, quite a bit just didn’t’ get done this week. … Read more

Dating Over 40: Trick or Treat? Dating Advice that Dispels Creepy Notions about Finding Love

  For many, Halloween conjures thoughts of scary movies, haunted houses, witches and goblins. But you’d be surprised how many people find the idea of dating in mid-life just as frightening, if not more! As a professional dating coach, I’d like to dispel a few of the chilling misconceptions that keep people from taking steps … Read more

Dating OVer 40: Conversation Starters – How to Break the Ice with Men

  In my 100 Day Challenge Group, one of the participants wanted to know how to strike up a conversation with a man she is interested in. I think the easiest thing is to pick up on something from what’s going on around you. But there are several other ways to "skin the cat" as the saying goes…(that is … Read more

Dating After Divorce: Wiggle Room

When you first start dating someone, you might not want to spill the beans about your whole life story for a number of reasons. 1. First off, you don’t want to scare anyone away! 2. You want to keep things positive and upbeat, not tell war stories 3. You want to make a good impression … Read more

Dating After Divorce: Sensitive Man Shell-Shocked by Criticism

  This week I reconnected with an old boss. Mark is such a nice guy – always has been, always will be. We were talking marketing and copywriting, had a few laughs and then I made a comment on how he is such an easy going guy to which he replied, "Tell that to my … Read more

Dating OVer 40: e-Harmony – My Pet Peeve

One of my readers asked about e-Harmony again this week. Do they have a free coupon, what’s the best deal etc.My response has nothing to do with their promotional efforts. I haven’t a clue about that. But here’s what I do know from talking with hundreds of women over 40. There are very few men … Read more

Dating Over 40: Do You Hate Weddings? Turn Things Around with the Law of Attraction

Do you hate weddings? Are you sick of attending the nuptials of your friends and family? Do you dread the inevitable questions about when you’re going to settle down or marry again? You are not alone. For so many single women, going solo to yet another knot-tying event is nothing short of stomach-turning. I myself … Read more

Dating After Divorce: Six Ways to Get Past Your Resistance to Getting Started on the Dating Journey

You’ve been divorced for a while now, maybe a year, maybe a lot longer. Friends have asked you what you are doing to meet men, but you calmly reply, "Not much." And that’s OK, for a while. Not that everyone must have a new relationship. I understand how it’s not for everyone. But if you … Read more

Dating Over 40: Your Opening Line Doesn’t Have to Be Rocket Science to Start a Conversation

  Did you ever see a man in the grocery line who you wanted to talk to? Maybe he was in the line at the bank or even at a friend’s party. You struggle to come up with something to say. It feels like you can hear the clock ticking while you pray that your … Read more

Dating After Divorce: Are you in the “No Zone” in your Thinking about Men?

  Have you been out of circulation for a while? Yet you are reading dating blogs, articles in magazines and talking to your friends about finding a man.   Do you find yourself bemoaning the lack of men as a big topic of conversation with your girlfriends? Maybe you’re just out of practice and have … Read more

Dating Over 40: Does Your Love Life Need a Bail Out Too?

Wouldn’t it be great if there was some higher source (not a political one though) who could swoop down and do something to straighten out your love life? Just like some Americans are hoping the government will bail out our financial system. Well the good new is – there is! You can rely on your … Read more

Dating Over 40: I Wish I Could See Him More Often

Melanie has been seeing John for 5 months now. Overall things are pretty good. They enjoy each others’ company and she hasn’t noticed any big red flags. Whew! Yet Melanie thought things would be farther along by now. They spend their weekends together, but she wishes they could have dinner on a few week night … Read more