Dating After Divorce: Stop Worrying and Anticipate Good Things!


Yesterday was a tough day for me. I had a strange interaction with a woman I do business with. She has a tendency to "read into" my emails, thinking that I’m being snotty or flippant, when that was not my intention. I simply said call me if you want to brainstorm and she heard the voice in her head saying – yeah go ahead and call me, like I want to hear from you! No kidding that is what she thought.

Honestly, this freaked me out. Why? Because I bend over backwards to please this woman, yet she thinks of me this way. Hmmmm. What’s wrong with this picture?

I admit I woke up at 4 am worrying about this situation. We do a lot of work together. But I have no control over what she thinks, how she views me or when this relationship will self-destruct. Yikes. I kept trying to think of how I could fix this potentially devastating  situation.

So, I did something I haven’t done in quite a while. I decided to write to myself, my higher self that is or angels maybe, or my intuition perhaps, to ask for help. The response was nothing short of amazing!

Here’s what I wrote:

"Stop worrying about what you cannot change. Accept that your work relationship will end. And when it does, it will be a reflection of you moving up the energetic and work ladder to better things. And it will be a relief. Stop wasting time over what might happen and feeling bad about it in advance. Instead, start expecting something better and anticipate good things!"

Remarkable! Words cannot express the tremendous burden that dropped from my shoulders as I re-read those words on the page. Did I write that? Could that wisdom actually be hiding, bottled up inside me? How lucky am I that I took the time to ask and got such a wonderful, helpful answer?

Let me ask you a question. What are you worried about? How might this apply to your every day life or your love life? The fact that we cannot change people holds true for everyone. People will think what they want and do what they want. We can ask the people we love to try things our way. Some might give it a shot and others won’t. Either way, keep in mind this old adage that is deeply true:

When one door closes, another door opens.

I often forget the second part about the new door opening! My focus is on the loss, which is understandable, but something new is also available. And frequently, it’s something better suited to me. I’m pretty sure that’s true for you as well. Once again, this is a great tip for manifesting your desires. Focus on what you want rather than what you don’t want. Just as "The Secret" and the Law of Attraction plainly state.

I hope you find my morning’s inspiration helpful in case you are worrying abut something.


Single for too long, Ronnie wanted to find love. So, she made a few tweaks and then dated 30 men in 15 months to meet her adorable husband Paul. Discovering the keys to midlife dating, she founded It’s Never Too Late for Love to help other smart, successful women find love too! Her mission is to share her proven dating advice  and keen insights about men with women everywhere who are serious about finding love with the right man. Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC is a Certified Coach who has helped 1,000’s of midlife women with her Love & Dating Coach services. She’s been featured on BBC’s 5 Live Radio, NBC, ABC, and Fox News, NPR, eHarmony,,, Connecticut Magazine among others around the world. An established author, you can find her 6 books on Amazon.

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