Dating Over 40: Stop Looking at Me!

Yesterday, one of my clients complained about men who look at her.  These are men she isn’t thrilled with.  She wanted to know how to get them to stop looking at her "like that."

I explained that if she really thinks about it – she wants them to look.  The last thing you want is for no men to look at you, right?  When men look at women, they acknowledge your attractiveness, your allure, your beauty.  Otherwise they wouldn’t be looking.

Now I realize you might not like all the guys who look at you, or the way they look at you.  So what?  Honestly ,what can you do about that?  Be angry and tell the guy to "buzz off?" I’m not sure that’s productive.

Instead – why not appreciate the fact that these men are appreciating you?  It’s the truth.  You don’t have to talk to them, date them or marry them.  But you can be thankful for the evidence of your attractiveness they have shared with you.

OK, this may sound silly. But one thing I can tell you for sure, is that when you are thankful (internally not verbally) you send out a message of thanks to the Universe.  And that is very attractive and highly magnetic.  Think of Sarah Bernbach’s book, Simple Abundance – she’s all about being grateful.

Well guess, what – the grateful attitude works here too. And I have many clients who agree.

So the next time a man looks you up and down and you get angry or skeevy, think again.  Remember this is evidence of your allure. Say thank you in your mind and walk away feeling really good about yourself.  After all, some guy would be darn lucky to be dating you.


Single for too long, Ronnie wanted to find love. She put her skills from personal development and her spiritual path to work, dating 30 men in 15 months to meet her adorable husband Paul. Discovering the keys to manifesting and midlife dating, she founded It’s Never Too Late to help smart, successful women find love or live an empowered and magical life. Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC, is a Certified Coach who has helped 1,000s of midlife women with her Love & Magical Life Coach services. She’s the host of the Breathe Love & Magic podcast and has been featured on NBC, ABC, & Fox News, NPR, BBC, eHarmony,, and Connecticut Magazine among others. Also, Ronnie is the author of 6 books which are available on Amazon.

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