Just when I thought I’d seen everything – I saw something new!
Do you feel like your life is ho hum – hum drum? Every day is pretty much the same. Once in a while there are variations. Sometimes I feel this way…sort of bored.
Late afternoon yesterday, I drove to the beach. I love it this time of day when most people have gone home for dinner. It’s quiet and peaceful. The sound of the small waves rolling up on the sand and the seagulls squawking.
Sitting there with my book, relaxing into the fabulous beachy energy, I was suddenly surprised to see three guys flying through the sky with a fan attached to each parachute. Huh? I’VE NEVER SEEN ANYTHING LIKE IT!
And yet, I went to flickr.com and found photos to share with you! Where have I been?
This question made me realize that there is so much to this world and if I let my tiny slice feel boring – who’s responsible for that? ME! I need to try more new things to stimulate my mind and keep me fresh. Honestly I wish I could ride one of those things – it looked like way too much fun!
Bringing this back to over 40 dating…are you a person who has let life become limited and ho hum? Could you use a good dose of trying something new? Do you think you’ve done and lived it all regarding dating? When you go to a singles event – do all the men seem the same? And none of them appear to be able to satisfy your vision of the right man for you?
If you think this way – you will find that your thoughts are completely true. But the real truth is that there is always someone interesting in the crowd, even if he or she isn’t the right one. Try to keep an open mind and get to know people. Experience the amazing adventure it can be.
This summer I went to a picnic I didn’t want to attend. And I met the man who saved the real people during the Perfect Storm, that the movie was made about. He was THE GUY! He was there in the storm and they interviewed him to write the book. How cool is that?
The world can be your oyster, rich with sensual flavor. Or the world can be the cold hard place depicted in the news. It can also be a cozy, little comfort zone that keeps you safe from risk, but separate from connections and possibilities. It can be tough to reach out, especially after divorce, but that is what will likely re-energize you in the long run.
You get to decide. As an over 40 dating coach (and sometimes under 40 too), I’m here to encourage you to reach out, take a bold step and try something new!
Try a new dating venue. Try talking to one new man a day. Try making one connection at the next event – even if it’s just a good conversation that doesn’t go any where. Look at your life like it’s all about the next story – but first, you have to live it before you can tell the tale.
photo credit: dockdrumming