My online dating tips for women today are about the best dating sites and dating apps. Which ones should you use to find the love you want?
I often recommend very few of these sites since experience tells me that the biggest sites are the best. And online dating tips for women over 40 are different than for younger gals in their 20s. My favorites are most likely what you’d expect.
Zoosk (especially out west)
Online Dating Advice
If you are serious about finding love, online dating is the best tool to starting dating quickly, especially over 40. You want to find the biggest pools of single people and the top four sites are the most populated by far.
You have probably noticed that I left a couple of the big players out from the list above. I didn’t include the free sites like OKCupid or Plenty of Fish. If you are serious about finding love, the paid sites are a better opportunity.
Also, I’m not a fan of eHarmony for two reasons:
- The site asks too many questions and most men over 40 can’t be bothered with this many details which means they have fewer men than other sites. I know this is true from so many of my clients who get long-distance matches because the site has no local matches for them.
- Their complicated communication process with too many predetermined questions rather than just getting to know each other. (It might be possible to bypass this process now.)
Sometimes in large cities this site can still be a good option. New York apparently has a good number of men using eHarmony. If you live in a more progressive area where the men are a bit more introspective, it’s possible that it’s worth giving the site a try. I’ve also heard the site is great for 30 and under.
Some women insist on using this site, which is fine as long as you don’t get frustrated and assume all online dating doesn’t work for you. If you have a bad experience, try another site!
Online Dating Sites and Dating Apps Review
I found this great review of online dating sites and they went through several dating sites and dating apps. They list eHarmony first – not one of my favorites, then Match.com, OKCupid, Bumble, Hinge, Tinder, Elite Singles, Facebook and more. There are also some great safety tips at the end of the reviews – scroll down to see them.
And here’s a post on how to start a conversation on Bumble.
They based their review on 200+ hours of research, they used 20 sources, vetted 11 companies, and reviewed five features on the site that was most likely to help you find a compatible match. They looked at some of these factors to review the sites:
- Profile Customization
- Interfacing Features
- Privacy and Security
Other criteria that would have been helpful but, perhaps they didn’t have access to the data would be:
- Geographic skew – some sites like Zoosk are better out west than on the east coast.
- Number of people on the sites – for example, eHarmony as mentioned is low on men 40+ on the east coast
- Accuracy of algorithms
- Quality of messages received by users
It’s a pretty good review of how each site works and worth the read. You’ll pick up some online dating tips for women to help you choose the best site for you.
It’s been said that Match.com and eHarmony do produce the most marriages vs. the hookup culture of a site like OKCupid. (This site has a bunch of questions about sexual preferences but, you do not have to answer them and most people don’t!)
Online Dating Tips for Women
When it comes to eHarmony’s claims about their amazing matching algorithm, I’m not so sure. Maybe it depends on your age and location. Several of my love and dating coaching clients have been told by the site they are not “matchable” but it likely was based on not having enough male inventory in their areas.
So, if you are thinking about online dating or are already participating and considering changing sites, this review of the sites will be extremely helpful!
Remember, write a profile that sets you apart from other women. Stay upbeat and friendly in your text. Be positive and try to capture your personality.
In addition, your photos are the most important element since men are so visual. So, check out this post with my 15 tips for fabulous photos.
Wish you had a dating profile that got the right kind of attention? Check out my Digital Dating Makeover!