Online Dating Profile Tips to Find Love Over 40

Online Dating Profile Tips

There’s a lot more to a winning online profile then you think. The written material needs to be conversational, upbeat and fun to read. Talk about what you do want in a partner and not what you don’t want. Keep it on the shorter side around 250-300 words. Be sure to include a vivid description of yourself and how you spend your time.

Don’t talk about all the things every woman says like walking on the beach, going to the movies, dining out, working out, or snuggling in front of a fire. That’s so common everyone says that! Think about what you’d do on a rainy Sunday afternoon or what things in life make you smile. Don’t be afraid to be an individual!

You don’t have much time to catch a man’s eye so put anything you think a man would find interesting first. Activities like professional sports, hiking, music, an interest in history, etc. will catch his attention.

Then take time to describe your partner. Think about who is he as a person. What does he like to do? How much energy does he have? Does he prefer indoor or outdoor activities, socializing and a healthy lifestyle? Is he kind, does he have a sense of humor, and will he be a supportive partner?

Give your profile some thought because it helps a man identify with you and want to connect or see that you’re not a match and opt out. These online dating profile tips make a big difference to help you enjoy more activity.

The Best Online Dating Photos

A picture is worth 1,000 words – that hasn’t changed. Below you’ll find an infographic with 15 of my best online dating photo tips spelled out, plus one more underneath the art. If you follow this advice for your pictures, you’ll get plenty of attention and dates!

Online dating profile tips - photos


I have one more tip for great online dating photos – don’t forget about your body language! Avoid folding your arms in front of you or elevating your chin, etc. And be sure to show off your best smile!

If your profile isn’t getting the attention you want from the right kind of men, call me for a Digital Dating Makeover! 1+ 203-877-3777 in the US. Outside the US, if you don’t have an international calling plan, send me an email


Thanks to Portia at Truly Asian Dating for this amazing infographic!


Single for too long, Ronnie wanted to find love. So, she made a few tweaks and then dated 30 men in 15 months to meet her adorable husband Paul. Discovering the keys to midlife dating, she founded It’s Never Too Late for Love to help other smart, successful women find love too! Her mission is to share her proven dating advice  and keen insights about men with women everywhere who are serious about finding love with the right man. Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC is a Certified Coach who has helped 1,000’s of midlife women with her Love & Dating Coach services. She’s been featured on BBC’s 5 Live Radio, NBC, ABC, and Fox News, NPR, eHarmony,,, Connecticut Magazine among others around the world. An established author, you can find her 6 books on Amazon.

2 thoughts on “Online Dating Profile Tips to Find Love Over 40”

  1. At 40 year’s of age or more, you can no longer be as picky as you once were at 23. For example, at 44 I realized that I could no longer set my profile to exclude all men who are 5-10 or shorter anymore. You can’t request a defined income bracket anymore. You can’t see the first red flag and say “done.” If you feel that there is even a remote chance that something may pan out, you have to try it out. You just don’t have as many choices as in your youth. There is nothing too crazy about meeting separately for a cup of coffee downtown for 30 minutes or so. More important, my experience with online dating is that you will never, ever, ever really get to know the man unless you meet him in person. There are so many people who lie in their profiles, and even those who are more authentic may write great email messages but aren’t good in conversation.

    • All good points Jeanette. However, in case anyone reading this thinks we are talking about settling for less of a man, that’s not what we are saying. The point is to give men a chance. Saying no, no, no to every man is easy and will keep you single. Giving more men a chance with at least a coffee date is the way to find the right man for you.

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