Dating Over 40: One Smile Does Not Make You a Flirt

I must divulge that technology and I are not the best of friends – glitches kept me from posting the minute the blog went live.  Hmmm, that gives me pause to think. How do I react when I hit an immediate road block?  this time I decided to focus on other things because there was absolutely nothing I could do until Monday. 

How do you handle road blocks?  Do you give up immediately?  Do you get more determined and try again? Do you blame someone else? 

Think about this in terms of your dating life.  If you smile at a guy and he ignores you – will that be the last man you ever smile at?  Will you quit flirting altogether?  Do you turn to find another man to smile at?  Do you think – well, there are plenty of other fish in the sea? 

In my group coaching call last night a couple of women said they had tried flirting without success.  I pressed for more info.  How many times had they tried?  One admitted to a single attempt and the other had three experiences.  Is that enough to decide their flirting muscles were permanently atrophied?  Yet this is what they both accepted as truth and gave up.

I ask you to please hold off on feeling discouraged.  You can always go there later. Instead imagine how active your love life could be if you moved on quickly from disappointment to find new exciting opportunities?

Smile at the next cute fellow.  Chat with the guy at the cleaners.  Tease the man in the produce aisle.  Life may be short, but your flirting options are uncountable when you allow it to be just what it is. Not a guaranteed response from a man, but an opportunity to spread cheer, be friendly and potentially make someone’s day. 

Flirting is a gift for the one receiving your attention and also a gift to yourself. Because you feel happy when you make someone else happy.  Spontaneous connections are fun!  When you relax and get into the spirit of flirting – you can’t avoid the fun!

Single for too long, Ronnie wanted to find love. So, she made a few tweaks and then dated 30 men in 15 months to meet her adorable husband Paul. Discovering the keys to midlife dating, she founded It’s Never Too Late for Love to help other smart, successful women find love too! Her mission is to share her proven dating advice  and keen insights about men with women everywhere who are serious about finding love with the right man. Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC is a Certified Coach who has helped 1,000’s of midlife women with her Love & Dating Coach services. She’s been featured on BBC’s 5 Live Radio, NBC, ABC, and Fox News, NPR, eHarmony,,, Connecticut Magazine among others around the world. An established author, you can find her 6 books on Amazon.

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