On this Valentine’s Day, Are You Reliving the Past or Facing the Future?

Happy Valentine’s Day!

What a day! Valentine’s Day brings out so many emotions!

Radio and TV talk show hosts bash the day as nothing more than another Hallmark Holiday. But that is not true. Valentine’s Day is not just consumerism at its best. This day is anchored in ancient history.

Way back in ancient Rome, girls and boys were paired up for a period of time to honor the Goddess Juno. At the end of the this period, some couples stayed together and married. Then, as the Roman Empire adopted Christianity, this practice became punishable and St. Valentine himself paid the price. He secretly married couples against the regime’s directive and was put to death for his actions.

Expressing love is a truly timeless practice. And it is an important one. Naturally romantic love comes to mind first. But love has a much wider scope than strictly romance. Parents love their children. Owners love their pets. Friends have love for one another. I encourage my clients to spend this day in appreciation of the greater love.

If you are one of those people who simply hates this day, could that be an indication you are reliving the past?

  • Did you have a bad Valentine’s Day in your past?
  • Are you still angry about your ex?
  • Are you down on love in general?

As a dating coach for women who are dating over 40, dating over 50 or dating after divorce, I have a bold suggestion. What if you could see Valentine’s Day as a gateway to a new romantic future? It’s certainly possible. Why not make today about releasing the past trauma of relationships, disappointment from Valentine’s Days  gone by, and broken hearts from love gone wrong. Let Cupid help you make the transition to a whole new world with new romantic opportunities and the love you dream about.

Today is your chance to make this powerful shift. Take it! Make the most of the loving energy that surrounds this ancient holiday. Decide right now to ride the wave of love that weaves its way in and out of lives, connecting so many in celebration and appreciation.

Face your future filled with hope, knowing that you have chosen a new path. A journey with exciting opportunities, new people, and a fresh start on love. Here’s to you:

  • To the love that is yours
  • To the love you attract
  • To the love you have yet to create.

Now that you have taken this step forward, surely it is in the works. Believe and celebrate like it has already come to pass. Share your love with all those you come in contact with today so they might be blessed by your presence.


Single for too long, Ronnie wanted to find love. She put her skills from personal development and her spiritual path to work, dating 30 men in 15 months to meet her adorable husband Paul. Discovering the keys to manifesting and midlife dating, she founded It’s Never Too Late to help smart, successful women find love or live an empowered and magical life. Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC, is a Certified Coach who has helped 1,000s of midlife women with her Love & Magical Life Coach services. She’s the host of the Breathe Love & Magic podcast and has been featured on NBC, ABC, & Fox News, NPR, BBC, eHarmony, MSN.com, and Connecticut Magazine among others. Also, Ronnie is the author of 6 books which are available on Amazon.

5 thoughts on “On this Valentine’s Day, Are You Reliving the Past or Facing the Future?”

  1. Ronnie:

    I agree that attitude changes everything. I also learned many years ago that one can take only so much failure before cutting one’s losses and getting out of the game.

  2. We have little control in life Mickey – the only thing we are in charge of is our attitude and we all know attitude changes everything. Give it a shot – try for a new beginning rather than an ending

  3. Does my radar need to be turned up on the positive? Yeah, probably. However, when one gets thoroughly beaten down by the current male bashing, man-hating mentality that is so pervasive out there, one also becomes too demoralized to believe that there is such a thing as a happy romantic ending.

  4. Hi Mickey, I do agree that the holiday has been commercialized, but it’s an ancient Roman holiday, not Hallmark – sorry.

    And, I’ve seen plenty of articles on what to get your man. Your radar needs to be turned up on the positive so please give it a shot.

  5. Hi Ronnie.

    I admit that I’ve long since given up on the idea that there’s a special person out there. That said, this is my take on the Hallmark inspired commercial fraud that is Valentine’s Day:

    If you’re unattached, it’s like looking down a double barrel shotgun.

    First, the unattached has romaticism shoved in his face all day and is treated as a second class citizen if he is unattached. It’s enough to drive you to drink!!!

    Secondly, popular culture has pushed the idea ad infinitum that Valentine’s Day is really for the wife/girlfriend, and the husband/boyfriend is merely incidental. If that’s not bad enough, this dynamic also has the not-so-subtle suggestion that if the the husband/boyfried does not deliver the goods, there will be hell to pay (just look at any sitcom with a married couple). Evidently, there’s absolutely no pressure on the wife/girlfriend to do anything.

    I admit, with absolutely no shame, that I go out of my way to dress in black whenever that dread day comes around.

    Is it any wonder why many of us could not care less about the farce called Valentine’s Day?


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