Dating Over 40: New Rules to Date By

Finally someone has written an article that sums up the new dating rules that will promote greater dating success.  Nina Malkin, whose article "The New Rules of Attraction" appears on the site, compares old and new rules and how crucial it is to make this switch to find love today.

I’ll highlight here, but make sure you read the original because it’s very well done.

Old Rule 1: You can tell if you’re truly attracted to someone in three seconds
New Rule 1: You can’t tell if you’re truly attracted to someone until you’ve had three dates 
“ ‘Love at first sight’ is a familiar romantic notion, and in our increasingly fast-paced world, it’s darn convenient But experts recommend cultivating a bit more patience, sticking to a three-date minimum to know for sure whether you’re a match (or not)."

New Rule 2: A “must list” looks great on paper, but paper won’t keep you warm at night 
Old Rule 2: Your mate must meet all the criteria on your “must list” 
"Unless you’re building your lover in a lab, you’re missing out" I say this as well – perfection won’t keep you warm at night. And by the way, you’re not perfect either so loosen up and be more realistic and accepting. You’ll probably connect best with a human and Angelina Jolie already has Brad Pitt’s attention.

Old Rule 3: Your first kiss should be a toe-curling experience
New Rule 3: Your first kiss is inconsequential Old rule: 
"Rather than write someone off following a less-than-mind-blowing kiss, smile and move in slowly for smooch number two, either at that moment or on a subsequent date. Trust us, you owe it to yourselves."

Old Rule 4: When it’s true love, you think about this person constantly
New Rule 4: When it’s true love, thinking about this person makes you feel good
“Constantly thinking about another person isn’t love, it’s infatuation, and infatuation has no correlation with being a good match,” says Fleming. Ultimately, it’s a better gauge to assess the quality of your thoughts rather than the quantity.

This is a great one to comment ladies so tell me what you think


Single for too long, Ronnie wanted to find love. So, she made a few tweaks and then dated 30 men in 15 months to meet her adorable husband Paul. Discovering the keys to midlife dating, she founded It’s Never Too Late for Love to help other smart, successful women find love too! Her mission is to share her proven dating advice  and keen insights about men with women everywhere who are serious about finding love with the right man. Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC is a Certified Coach who has helped 1,000’s of midlife women with her Love & Dating Coach services. She’s been featured on BBC’s 5 Live Radio, NBC, ABC, and Fox News, NPR, eHarmony,,, Connecticut Magazine among others around the world. An established author, you can find her 6 books on Amazon.

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