Millionaire Matchmaker: Did Patti Step Over the Line?

Millionaire Matchmaker Patti Stanger

So, given the female millionaires from NY that Patti has been working with this season, maybe I’m starting to feel good about not having a million bucks of my own. These women seem a little bit crazy. Don’t you think?

So last night we had Sky, an Australian DJ to the stars who globe trots to play music at fancy schmancy glitterati parties. Out of all the men Patti had selected for her, and I must say it was a bevvy of fabulous men, none appealed to her. Sky didn’t find any attraction. Patti’s solution was to offer a blind date with Kevin who had to leave early.

Well the other client, Stacey, decided after her two mini-dates that neither one worked. She preferred Kevin as well. Hmmm, that’s interesting. But Patti decided to let Kevin date both women. Fast forward.

Sky had Kevin meet her at a job n Miami (something Patti told her not to do).  They played tennis and seemed to have a good time. (Turns out she decided not to see him again.) Then Kevin left to fly to Barbados with his other date Stacey.

Let’s talk about Stacey shall we?  Certifiable. She has those crazy eyes where you start to fear what’s going on behind them. She smiles a lot and not in a good way. She’s not very grounded or maybe just not glued together well. She was married for 17 years, has four kids and has been divorced and single for three years now.

When Stacey talks about the one thing she’s into – a list unfolds! “I’m into baking whole wheat, low sugar pies that don’t taste very good, I’m a model, an actress and most importantly a host (of what pray tell?) and a lifestyle coach.” (Oh no- giving us coaches a bad name!)  Plus, I’m totally into yoga, skiing, surfing, etc…. Yikes, what happened to one thing?

Patti tried to help her and offer some dating coaching, feeling Stacey is going through a midlife crisis. She took her to a new age spa and had her chakras balanced (sounds good to me). But Stacey resisted – she didn’t feel she had negative thoughts or needed to be aligned. Shes’ perfectly happy with her fragmented life. In all honestly, I’m not so sure that’s really a bad thing. Perhaps I even relate to Stacey a bit, with all the different pots I’ve got boiling on the stove. We could call it “eclectic.”

Stacey was a bit odd on her date with Kevin. Sometimes she disappearedinto some other space/time continuum. But here’s where I question Patti’s method.

Instead of doing the recap and dating coaching with each of the three people individually, she had Sky, Kevin and Stacey sit together to discuss their dates. This is just wrong. Good for Bravo TV and the drama of it all. Bad for her clients and a  total lack of professionalism in this dating coach’s opinion.

Questioning Stacey about her date, which by the way she enjoyed even if Kevin didn’t, Patti started jumping down her throat about how she didn’t relate well to her date. The discussion picked up steam and before you know it, Patti threw Stacey out of the Club.

 What did Stacey do that was so wrong? Its not like she ran away from her date like that nut job Shana who only wanted to date guys in their 20’s. It’s not like she brought her “gay husband” on the date like last week’s millionairess did. Stacey is a little “off” but she did nothing to deserve Patti’s wrath – that we could see during the episode. I was very disappointed in Patti’s behavior and treatment of her client.

I know this is reality TV which has little to do with reality, but Patti is a brand. She trademarks herself as having a very high success rate, and that with an eye for chemistry and a lot of patience, she’ll make the match. I must say, she’d be better off not mentioning patience. Not one of her strong points. Respect really isn’t either. Obviously, her paying clientele gets a different sort of treatment or she’d never have created the successful business she has today.

I understand that some clients can be annoying. maybe they don’t listen or follow instructions. Maybe they are difficult to deal with. But it’s Patti’s job to serve and deliver, not belittle and berate.

Of course, I can’t wait until next week’s episode!

Single for too long, Ronnie wanted to find love. She put her skills from personal development and her spiritual path to work, dating 30 men in 15 months to meet her adorable husband Paul. Discovering the keys to manifesting and midlife dating, she founded It’s Never Too Late to help smart, successful women find love or live an empowered and magical life. Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC, is a Certified Coach who has helped 1,000s of midlife women with her Love & Magical Life Coach services. She’s the host of the Breathe Love & Magic podcast and has been featured on NBC, ABC, & Fox News, NPR, BBC, eHarmony,, and Connecticut Magazine among others. Also, Ronnie is the author of 6 books which are available on Amazon.

12 thoughts on “Millionaire Matchmaker: Did Patti Step Over the Line?”

  1. I know this is probably not the right place anymore (is there another page maybe?), but I really want to share my thoughts.

    The show today is with (again) Ayinde and Mitch. Oh, what a cute guy is Mitch! He’s the perfect man, maybe not always using the right words when talking with a woman, but ok… he’s trying. He can learn. 😉

    Sometimes I hope Patti will show up in Holland and will match me with the perfect guy… perfect for me. 🙂

  2. Hello,

    I’m back again. I now watch the show with ‘prince’ Max Schaumburg-Lippe. And I thougt: he looks familiar, is this episode a rerun?

    But now I know: Max was also in a kind of dating show here in Holland! Last year (summer of 2010) he was staying in Holland with two other princes, to look for a wife. And here also everybody took a look on Google and saw that he wasn’t extually a prince.

    Now I don’t know wich show was earlier: Patty her show, or our show? However, I don’t think he is easy to match (I ment with a woman: he’s got little signs of a gay man). 😉


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