Dating Over 40: Look for a Man to Love You and Light Your Fire

Hi Ronnie,

I could really use some advice. I’ve been seeing this very attractive younger guy for 3 months now. It’s pretty steamy. We meet once a week and have fantastic sex in a hotel. Tim tells me he doesn’t want a relationship. (And through mutual friends I discovered he thinks I’m too old for him.) Even though this has been really fun, I get the feeling it’s not going any where and I should end it. Tim is 32 and I’m 45.  What do you think?
Hoping for More
Dear Hoping,
One thing you left out of the story is your own dating agenda. If you are OK with having fun commitment-free sex, then what the heck? But, if you are looking for a long-term, loving relationship, Tim is NOT your man. He’s even told you so AND you’ve heard it from a friend. Trust your instincts and move on.
I think this is why there are so many 30 something men dating older women. Just an opinion I know and definitely not always true. But some guys may figure the baby bio-clock has stopped ticking, so no pressure or commitment will be required or requested.
You deserve more than sex in a relationship and you CAN FIND IT! Walk away from Tim, make yourself available again and raise your standards! There are good men out there who will light your fire and love you too.  Why settle for half of your desire? Go for what you want and stop settling for hotel sex.
Wishing you love,
Single for too long, Ronnie wanted to find love. So, she made a few tweaks and then dated 30 men in 15 months to meet her adorable husband Paul. Discovering the keys to midlife dating, she founded It’s Never Too Late for Love to help other smart, successful women find love too! Her mission is to share her proven dating advice  and keen insights about men with women everywhere who are serious about finding love with the right man. Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC is a Certified Coach who has helped 1,000’s of midlife women with her Love & Dating Coach services. She’s been featured on BBC’s 5 Live Radio, NBC, ABC, and Fox News, NPR, eHarmony,,, Connecticut Magazine among others around the world. An established author, you can find her 6 books on Amazon.

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