Ready to use the Law of Attraction to bring love into your life now? If you’re having trouble meeting quality men this is a really touchy question to ask yourself but very worthwhile.
How Do You Feel about Men?
If you can say you know men you admire – good for you! That’s an excellent sign that you heart is open to men and you probably meet men who appeal to you. When you admire men, you appreciate who they are and see the good in them.
On the other hand, when you have contempt for men, you see their flaws and sometimes can only find fault. A man’s imperfections overshadow any potential good which makes it hard to open your heart to him. When you look down at men and think they are beneath you, those are the men you will attract.
I know this sounds a little black and white and maybe even harsh, but there a lot of truth in this bold statement. That’s how the Law of Attraction works. What you think about causes emotions which creates attraction.
How the Law of Attraction Backfires
Now I know you’ve probably had a few bad experiences with men. OK, maybe even more than your fair share. So, it’s understandable how you got into this problematic mindset. If you’ve been hurt and disappointed time after time, coming to expect poor behavior and treatment makes sense. I get it.
Trouble is, when you expect poor treatment and substandard men, those are the kind of men you are most likely to continue attracting. This is a result of the Law of Attract, part of the Universal Law of Vibration and one of the 7 Universal Principles.
The Law of Vibration states, everything is made of moving energy or vibration. And the Law of Attraction states, “Like Attract Like”. Unraveling that for you – it means when you vibrate at the level of believing that all men are scum and will treat you poorly, you’re sole focus is on these types of unwanted men.
Unfortunately, that sets up a beacon for attraction – to bring in more of that same vibration! Yikes! That’s not what you want at all!
Self-Defeating Prophecy
Unfortunately, when you have a lot of repetition of the same negative thought, It becomes a sad, self-defeating prophecy about ALL men. The reason? Because that is what you expect. This becomes a viscous cycle that feeds upon itself and grows. When women are bitter about men, this is likely what is behind the feelings.
How Can I Change My Contempt for Men?
If you want to change the way you think about men and start to find quality men, you have to BELIEVE they exist. What will help is gathering positive evidence that good men are still available. How can you convince yourself of this when you never meet decent men and don’t really know any?
Let’s take baby steps which is the best way to overcome a long-term belief that has gotten in your way. Try one exercise at time until you start to have success with it before moving on to the next. This will help you rebuild the focus on good men and a positive reaction to men overall, once again harnessing the Law of Attraction for what you DO want.
1. Men You Know
Think of your friends or family members who might be in relationship or married to a decent guy. Now write the men’s names down and under each one think of one good thing about the guy. If you have more great! Write down all the good things but know it’s fine to start with only one. Feel free to add good qualities as you think of them for these men.
2. Smile at 1- 3 Men Daily
Make it a practice to start smiling at men or saying, “Good morning”. This moves you into a mindset where you’re willing to be friendly and connect. Don’t worry about leading men on or owing them anything just because you smiled at them. This exercise calls for very brief encounters. Just a smile or a hello is all you need to do.
Do this for seven days straight with no exceptions. Go for 21 days if you can commit to that for maximum impact. This exercise shifts the energy you put out into the Universe about men. I guarantee you will notice a difference at the end of seven days and 21 days of this new behavior will change your life permanently.
3. Notice What Is Good about Men
The next step is to imagine what is good about the men you smile at. Ask yourself why his wife or girlfriend loves him. What qualities could he have that you would admire as well? The exercise puts you in the mindset of looking for something good and expecting to find it.
This is how you get the Law of Attraction to work on the positive end of the spectrum about men. When you start to look for the good in men you will start to attract good men. It’s really quite amazing how this works.
Shift Your View of Men
You can absolutely go from having disdain and contempt for men, to seeing the good in them! And then, meeting quality men worth dating. If you want to find lasting love and are willing to do these exercises – you will find the right man.
Women fall in love every day. You deserve the love of a quality man. And when you can finally see that good men do exist – you are on the right path to get there! Turn around how the Law of attraction is working for you and then use it to connect with the love you’ve wanted all along.
Single for too long, Ronnie wanted to find love. She put her skills from personal development and her spiritual path to work, dating 30 men in 15 months to meet her adorable husband Paul. Discovering the keys to manifesting and midlife dating, she founded It’s Never Too Late to help smart, successful women find love or live an empowered and magical life. Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC, is a Certified Coach who has helped 1,000s of midlife women with her Love & Magical Life Coach services. She’s the host of the Breathe Love & Magic podcast and has been featured on NBC, ABC, & Fox News, NPR, BBC, eHarmony, MSN.com, and Connecticut Magazine among others. Also, Ronnie is the author of 6 books which are available on Amazon.
