Dating After Divorce: Is Procrastination is Keeping You from Meeting Your Mate?

make-hayDo you procrastinate? I’ll admit that I do for somethings.  I certainly procrastinated about looking for a man in my 30’s. In fact I didn’t just procrastinate, I did almost nothing. I went to the occasional singles dance and usually went home depressed. That’s about it.

I was very social during my 30’s with lots of girlfriends. But we never did anything together to meet men. We went to dinner, took vacations, attended workshops and the theatre. But rare was the focus  on man hunting.

The results? Nothing to speak of. I didn’t do much so how much could I expect as results? I just kept thinking it would happen, you know, naturally. Looking back I can see what an error in thinking that was.

Yesterday my friend Carol sent me this quote by Victor Kiam

                             “Procrastination is the assassin of opportunity.”

Thanks Victor. You make a good point.

The question is – is your love life a victim of procrastination? Summer is the best time of year to mingle and meet men. With outdoor patio bars teaming, BBQ and picnics rampant, and everyone getting outside – you have a plethora of opportunities to find prospects! Are you leveraging the social possibilities or procrastinating?

for me, I didn’t start meeting men until I made a conscious effort to do so. I had to get out there and take part in activities where I knew single men would be. I met lots of men and I made some new single women friends too! Everything event I attended brought me one step closer to finding my husband.

The same is true for you. Every event you attend, every picnic, singles dance, speed dating event, blind date, Internet coffee date – they all work in your favor to find love.

“Make hay while the sun shines.” That’s another oldie but goodie saying. In CT it may not be so sunny. But the events are happening any way.  Which leaves you only two choices:

1. Get out there to mingle and meet prospects
2. Hang back, procrastinate, and do nothing to create a love life this summer

Of course this momentous choice is all yours. And as a dating coach and former single gal who found love, my hope for you is that you’ll choose door #1.

This might be your most fun flirty summer ever!

And if you need a kick in the panties, I’m running a workshop via conference call beginning Sunday night July 12th from 8-9pm east coast time. Four calls to get you excited and motivated, create a plan for prospecting, learn new flirting tips, and get the support and encouragement you need to do something to change your single status. Read more here

Call me to sign up at 203-877-3777.  Just $99 for all four sessions and a copy of my book MANifesting Mr. Right. I’m here to help!

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Single for too long, Ronnie wanted to find love. She put her skills from personal development and her spiritual path to work, dating 30 men in 15 months to meet her adorable husband Paul. Discovering the keys to manifesting and midlife dating, she founded It’s Never Too Late to help smart, successful women find love or live an empowered and magical life. Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC, is a Certified Coach who has helped 1,000s of midlife women with her Love & Magical Life Coach services. She’s the host of the Breathe Love & Magic podcast and has been featured on NBC, ABC, & Fox News, NPR, BBC, eHarmony,, and Connecticut Magazine among others. Also, Ronnie is the author of 6 books which are available on Amazon.

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