Is it a Bad Sign When You Flirt with a Man in Seminary Training?

True story. One of my clients, Katie, sent me an email about meeting a great guy – who turns out to be studying to be a priest! OK, When I read the email I laughed out loud.. But it does make you pause and think about things doesn’t it?

She was worried this was a sign that she is running out of options. I say no, not at all.
But most certainly barking up the wrong tree!

What could this be about from a cosmic perspective? Well, it’s so hard to say. it could really mean absolutely nothing and was simply an opportunity for a good belly laugh. That in itself can be quite healing.

But what if this is a sign of some kind? Here’s one thought going back to barking up the wrong tree – is Katie having a problem attracting men who are unavailable?

Unavailable men aren’t just married. They could also be in a relationship, just divorced or separated, gay, uninterested in dating, emotionally unavailable or …a man of the cloth.

Hmmmmm – I hope this is making you think for a bit. Do you have a habit of attracting unavailable men? Think back to your dates or crushes and consider them from  this new perspective. Do any patterns appear?

If you find this is true for yourself, as it may be for Katie ( we don’t know for sure of course) there is something you can do about it.
Ask yourself these questions:

  • Are you truly available to date?
  • Are you open emotionally?
  • Do you make yourself available to meet men?
  • Do you have time in your calendar?
  • Do you have room in your life – literally look around your
    home to see if anyone could join you there

And how about your belief system: 

  • Do you like men or do you think they are all bad apples?
  • Do you believe love is possible for you?
  • Do you feel worthy of love?

This self-examination can be very revealing and incredibly powerful for turning your dating luck around. Be honest with yourself. Identify your actions or beliefs that may be getting in your way. Then do something different!

If you need to change your belief system – affirmations are an excellent method that works wonders.
If you need to make yourself more available, make room in your heart, calendar and home for a new man.

In my book MANifesting Mr. Right, Chapter 4 talks about clearing your mind, heart, calendar and your clutter and provides a number of exercises to help you accomplish these goals.

Plus, in Chapter 6, you will learn about four sure-fire methods to open your heart to love. 

If the signs say that you are unavailable, commit to turning that around so you can find the love you want and deserve. it’s completely "doable" and possible. Not only have I done it, but so have many of my clients. You can do it too! Why not start today?


Single for too long, Ronnie wanted to find love. She put her skills from personal development and her spiritual path to work, dating 30 men in 15 months to meet her adorable husband Paul. Discovering the keys to manifesting and midlife dating, she founded It’s Never Too Late to help smart, successful women find love or live an empowered and magical life. Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC, is a Certified Coach who has helped 1,000s of midlife women with her Love & Magical Life Coach services. She’s the host of the Breathe Love & Magic podcast and has been featured on NBC, ABC, & Fox News, NPR, BBC, eHarmony,, and Connecticut Magazine among others. Also, Ronnie is the author of 6 books which are available on Amazon.

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