Dating Over 40: I Celebrated My Anniversary with Take Out

Last week my husband and I celebrated our 9th wedding anniversary. Where does the time go?

This year Paul got an “A” for effort. He hasn’t always gotten such high marks. (The joke between us is that he may be my Mr. Right, but he sure isn’t Mr. Perfect. But I’m not Mrs. Perfect either.) People demonstrate love in different ways. I once read something about the many languages of love.

For Paul – he demonstrates his love for me daily. But he’s not so good for the big events. For me the big events have meaning. So we are still working out the kinks. The every day love ranks pretty high which keeps us going nicely.

Here’s how he got the good grade. He left a reallycute message on the answering machine about taking me to my favorite restaurant. He took me to a great jewelery store to let me pick out new earrings and he came home with a bunch 0f gorgeous pink roses.

Unfortunately, here in CT, we had the 11th straight day of rain (something like that) , and by the time he got home, I just didn’t feel like getting dressed up for an expensive dinner. What’s the point if I’m not going to be happy about it?

All I could think about was getting take out, putting on my PJ’s and eating dinner while watching movies in bed. I decided to ask him how he felt about this lunacy. His response – can we get baked ziti? Yes!!!

I just have to love this man who can go with the flow and handle my fluctuating moods.

So, we had a pajama party. He brought back baked ziti and we sat in bed, watched two chick flicks and totally relaxed. My mood bounced back and we had fun doing basically nothing more than any other lame evening. Yet is was perfection as far as I was concerned.

Sometimes making a big deal of the milestones feels all important. Other times it can be nice to have a simple picnic or a pajama party for that matter. Either way – it’s so nice to have found a man who can go with the flow.

I never look back at all the dating I did with regret. Some of it was fun, some of it was devastating, some of it was tolerable. And just once – I hit the jackpot.

When you find the right man, I guarantee you will not look back and think about all the time you wasted. You will be grateful that you stuck with dating until you found the one. I did it and I know deep in my heart that you can do it too.

Single for too long, Ronnie wanted to find love. So, she made a few tweaks and then dated 30 men in 15 months to meet her adorable husband Paul. Discovering the keys to midlife dating, she founded It’s Never Too Late for Love to help other smart, successful women find love too! Her mission is to share her proven dating advice  and keen insights about men with women everywhere who are serious about finding love with the right man. Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC is a Certified Coach who has helped 1,000’s of midlife women with her Love & Dating Coach services. She’s been featured on BBC’s 5 Live Radio, NBC, ABC, and Fox News, NPR, eHarmony,,, Connecticut Magazine among others around the world. An established author, you can find her 6 books on Amazon.

2 thoughts on “Dating Over 40: I Celebrated My Anniversary with Take Out”

  1. Great post! One of my best married friends always says that she is so glad that she didn’t settle (which she almost did several times because she was getting old and wasn’t married yet). There was a time when I was desperate and following that there was a time when I was exhausted. Now I am fine because I know that the right man will compliment my life and not destroy it.

    It would be so tiring to pretend to be excited about going to a fancy dinner when all you really want to do is stay in. And it so invigorating and refreshing to hear of a couple being honest with each other. I love this story!

    • Thank you for your appreciation! It is wonderful to have someone to be honest with and who is flexible to go with the flow. These are qualities I relish in my husband in addition to him being such a cutie.

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