How To Make Him Chase You Like No Man Has Before

Even though you’re not a game player.

If you’re wondering how to make him chase you, first you need to understand why men need to do this. Men need the chase because they like to WIN.

It’s Biological

The chase is actually coded into a man’s DNA. Going back to cavemen, the male hunted prey to provide for his family. Being a good hunter/provider created status in the community (and still does right?).

This basic instinct has NOT been lost and is why men play sports or watch their teams on TV. They still love to compete and win. You cannot argue with this concept. It just is.

So, if you want a man to chase you, let him work hard to win you over. This way, he’ll find you FAR MORE attractive. This is how he gets INVESTED in you. If you do the work and make things too easy by initiating calls, texts or date, (just in the very beginning), he’ll feel no challenge and lose interest.

To set up the chase successfully, you need to have a healthy sense of self-esteem and be brimming with confidence. You must recognize you are worth winning!

When you understand that love is your destiny, then you live life knowing there’s a good man out there for you and he will work to win you over. You don’t worry about a few bad dates or a man who doesn’t call you back. He’s just another on the way to finding THE ONE.

What Changes For You?

Right now, think about believing that love is your destiny and a man should win you over. What would that change in your present love life? How would that kind of positive mindset impact your interactions with men?

Oh yeah, a LOT would change! Like pretty much everything you feel about yourself, dating, men and your chances to find love. You’d feel…

  • Confident and more in charge of the dating process
  • Happy to meet men online or anywhere you go
  • Unconcerned about rejection because you’d know your man is out there
  • Flirting with men is easy and fun!
  • Alluring, desirable, sought after and in demand
  • Positive, optimistic and relaxed
  • And much more!

Now that you understand men WANT to chase and love is your destiny, let’s talk about how to make him chase you!

How to Make Him Chase You – 12 Tips!

Now, I’ll get into the good stuff on how to make him chase you and why you have the power of allure and feminine mystique when it comes to men and dating.

1. Enjoy Your Life


First and foremost, find a way to enjoy your life now.  Don’t wait for a man to make life what you want it to be. When you live a rich and interesting life, you are very attractive. Your happiness shines through and is practically contagious.

If you want a man to travel with, try singles travel until you find him. Exploring the world will certainly be fun, enrich your life experience and make you more interesting. You might choose to learn to salsa dance, take a class on photography, learn to rock climb or take a cooking class.

The world is your oyster and it’s up to you!

2. Maintain Some Mystery

One of my favorite sales saying is “Don’t spill all your candy in the lobby” and this applies to dating too.  In other words, don’t over share and be a totally open book. Mystery my friend, is like an aphrodisiac.

Keep something interesting for the next time. And the time after that. Let him have something to think about  and wonder what makes you tick.

3. Put On Your Poker Face


You know  when a guy tries too hard or is too nice, and you end up feeling sort of turned off? But the hard to get guy who is a little secretive always captures your attention – BINGO Girlfriends! That goes for you too.

Maybe you think you met your dream man. Don’t put him up on a pedestal from the word go. Remember, he loves the chase, so don’t start worshiping him before he does anything amazing to win you over.

Same thing is true for gazing longingly into his eyes. Hold off until you know he’s worthy of that kind of attention.  Until you have hard evidence he could be the one, keep that poker face on, so he doesn’t know how much you like him.

(And don’t tell him either!)

4. Make Him Wait

Things have changed and some men don’t hold that old fashioned double standard if you sleep with them quickly. Hold off anyway! When you make him wait, that gives you time to get to know him better, while maintaining your common sense and objectivity.

Once you roll in the hay, it’s hard not fall for him because the oxytocin hormone kicks in and bonding begins. Waiting helps you make good decisions and not get all tangled up before he’s proved himself worthy.

If he’s really into you, he’ll wait. It will make him wonder even more and work a little harder. That’s how to make him chase you.

how to make him chase you5. Go Drama-Free

Quality men do NOT like drama. In fact, most men avoid a drama-filled woman. Hey ,drama happens to the best of us, but keep it to yourself please! You don’t want him to think your life is out of control. That’s not how to make him chase you.

Handle what needs to be done and put your poker face on with a new man in your life. There’s plenty of time for him to become supportive and help you, once he realizes you are SO worth it. (And of course, you are girlfriend, you are.)

6. Slow Your Roll

While texting day or night can be so much fun, you’d be more intriguing if you didn’t always respond immediately. Leave him hanging sometimes because you’re a busy woman with a full life and cannot be at his beck and call every minute.

He can handle it.

Trust me this will make your value rise in his eyes. When you keep a man just a little off kilter, it’s magnetic. Don’t be consistent – slow your roll every so often and get back to him a few hours later.

7. Date Other Men

When I was dating to find the adorable man I married, nothing helped more than dating more than one guy at a time. I’m serious – it was a life saver. This can help with tips 1-6 and prevent you from getting prematurely attached as well.

If I started thinking too much about a man who wasn’t completely vetted, it was so awesome to date another guy. What a great way to avoid getting attached and be sure you are finding the right match.

A lot of women looking for love have three dates with a guy and settle in. No way – you can’t do that! Three dates are not enough to properly qualify a man. That takes time.

Date several men at once and you’ll definitely learn a lot about how to make him chase you. This kept me from ruining everything with the man who is now my husband!

8. Run on Turtle Time

Want to know how to make him chase you? Don’t rush into a relationship! Chill out and learn to take your time getting to know a man. See what he’s really like, not only the good stuff he chooses to show you.

Just like the fable about the tortoise and the hare, slow and steady wins the race. That works for dating too. You can’t rush love, but you can let it grow and blossom. And it tends to last longer when you take your time.

Be the turtle and go slow.

how to make him chase you9. Take the High Road

This isn’t what you think. If you want a man to chase you, he’s got to know where your boundaries are. That means you keep your standards high and don’t put up with anything.

A lot of women try to be understanding and nice, so they give a man the benefit of the doubt. More than once. Let’s say he cancels three times, all with good excuses. Cancelling once could happen to anyone,  but three times means you are putting up with his life drama or lies.

Don’t put up with anything!

When you love yourself and know you’re a great catch, you have high standards for how people treat you. Some men want to see what they can get away with. Tell him in a matter of fact, non-emotional way that doesn’t work for you.

If a man is genuinely into you, he’ll do better because wants to win you over! And if he doesn’t, well then, “Bye Bye”. Guess he was the wrong guy.

10. Rely on Feminine Charm

Every woman has feminine charm and this is an essential part of how to make him chase you! A quality man responds to your femininity because it brings out his masculine nature.

In other words, when you are your feminine, flirty self, he feels MORE like a man.

Here’s an example. Let’s say he wants to fool around and asks if he can come up to your place. But you aren’t ready for that.

Rather than saying, “I’m not ready” which is true but lame, you could say, “Sounds like fun. Maybe another time.” That will keep his motor running because even though you didn’t say yes, you didn’t say no either.

Your feminine charm is about being warm, friendly, hospitable and making him feel good about being with you. This is a practice and a way of life and if you think it’s just for dating, you are so wrong.

11. Forget What He Says

That’s right! What matters more is what a man does, not what he says. Talk is cheap and easy. Instead ask yourself…Does he treat me right? Does he make an effort to please me and see me?

If he says the sweetest things, but doesn’t have time to see you, his words are MEANINGLESS. Men say all sorts of things to string you along and keep you on the hook with nothing to back it. This is self-serving, rude and a waste of your time.

You don’t need some man blowing smoke up your dress. You want a man who says he’s going to take you out Tuesday and does it!

That’s why it doesn’t matter what a man says if he doesn’t back it up with his actions. Follow through means EVERYTHING if you want to know you’re seeing a man with REAL, long-term potential.

12. Walk Away


You have to be willing to walk away when things don’t work out. Once you know he’s the wrong man, if you stick around, you are surely settling. You’ll be opting for a man and relationship that will never make you happy.

Keep those walking shoes handy and be ready to move if that’s what it comes down to. Better to walk away after 3 weeks or 3 months with grace and your head held high, then stay and be miserable.

You don’t need him! You want the right man – one who treasures you and your love. A man who treats you like gold and knows he’s darn lucky to have you in his life.

If things go south, do not hesitate to walk. There are plenty more men where he came from and now you know how to make him chase you. You are pretty irresistible, so let that man go and find a better one.

Looking for more tips on how to get a great guy? Listen to my Free audio program 5 Surefire Ways to Attract a Quality Guy

Single for too long, Ronnie wanted to find love. She put her skills from personal development and her spiritual path to work, dating 30 men in 15 months to meet her adorable husband Paul. Discovering the keys to manifesting and midlife dating, she founded It’s Never Too Late to help smart, successful women find love or live an empowered and magical life. Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC, is a Certified Coach who has helped 1,000s of midlife women with her Love & Magical Life Coach services. She’s the host of the Breathe Love & Magic podcast and has been featured on NBC, ABC, & Fox News, NPR, BBC, eHarmony,, and Connecticut Magazine among others. Also, Ronnie is the author of 6 books which are available on Amazon.

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