How To Exude Feminine Energy When You’re Single & Looking For Love

Do you know how to exude feminine energy? This is something you must do to attract quality men who are drawn to feminine women. Here’s how it’s done.

What Is Feminine Energy?

how to exude feminine energyFirst, let’s make sure you know what this is all about. Your feminine energy is a natural part of who you are. In fact, it’s coded into your DNA. OK, what does this really mean?

Feminine energy is warm, kind, fun, playful and flirtatious. That’s why women are referred to as the softer sex. Other characteristics include nurturing, caring, creative and having a high emotional IQ.

Most men are drawn to a feminine woman. When you’re in touch with your feminine side, you naturally spark a man’s masculinity. It makes a man feel good about himself which is always a good thing.

Men tend to choose women who exude feminine energy and make them feel good, so now you can connect the dots for why this works so well!

Masculine and Feminine Energy

The truth is both genders have access to to masculine and feminine energy. Your masculine side is most likely what you rely on for success in your career.

How to get things done, motivate and direct others are often more masculine qualities. Taking on the leadership role is another example.

On the other hand, feminine energy is all about collaboration and allowing things to unfold. Again, this is the softer way to engage with others and it’s far more supportive and empathetic.

When you think about the sexes from a strictly energetic perspective, masculine energy is often compared to the sun. Bold, bright, active and making things happen.

However, feminine energy is usually compared to the womb which in ancient times was highly revered as the creative force of the Universe. Women are the ones who create new life and that was considered amazing.

That’s why feminine energy is considered to be mysterious, soft and creative.

How to Exude Feminine Energy – 7 Ways

how to exude feminine energyThere are so many ways to lead with your feminine nature. In this list below you are sure to find something that appeals to you and hopefully willing to try.  Combine them and you can really attract masculine men and the kind of quality guy you are looking for.

1.Show Off Your Legs

Wear a skirt or dress and you will instantly exude feminine energy. Men look at legs as one of the main features for attraction, so get out of those pants for a change.

2. Highlight Your Curves

Choose clothing that is close fitting so you can see your womanly curves, hips and butt. Wear a nice belt to accent a great waistline. An off-the-shoulder top features your collar bones and neckline which are appealing and feminine.

3. Let Your Hair Grow

Men are known for appreciating long locks, so hair that touches your shoulders or longer will definitely catch a man’s eye.

4. Color Matters

Research shows men are naturally drawn to red, fuchsia, pink and coral – all colors in the red family. If you look good in these shades, be sure to wear them when you go out to meet men.

5. Signal With Body Language

how to exude feminine energyMost of flirting is about your body language. When you smile,  play with your hair, look up through your eye lashes and smile, you exude feminine energy and sends a signal of being open to men who might approach you.

Additional signals includes smoothing your clothes along your hips or down your arms with your palm, showing your open palm (think of the wave), or crossing and uncrossing your legs (demurely of course).

Body language telegraphs your openness without saying a word. And men KNOW the signs instinctively without thinking about it.

6. Flirt Verbally

When you flirt with a man verbally, you might give him a compliment about his shirt or tie bringing out the color of his eyes. Or tell him what a great watch he has and ask him about it.

Asking a man for help (like getting the bartender’s attention) brings out his masculine side as he’s willing to help a damsel in distress.

7. Makeup and Perfume

Today, some people frown upon makeup so it’s a personal choice. However, over 40 there are three basic makeup musts if you want to exude feminine energy: mascara, blush and lip color. As you age, the natural vibrancy of your skin coloring needs a little help.

You don’t have to go all out with foundation, eye shadow or more. But these basic three items will heighten your looks and provide you with a naturally warmer glow.

In addition, perfume is a smart option. Men may be highly visual, but their sense of smell is also a dominant force. Men often mention how good a woman smells when describing why they like her.

This is certainly a proven way to exude feminine energy, just keep it light. Even though some of these moves may seem out of date, they appeal to ancient sexual signals that perk a man up and catch his eye.

Femininity Doesn’t Make You Weak


Just because you rely on your feminine charm when you’re single to get a guy’s attention, does make you a door mat or weak. No way!

Everyone knows while women may not be able to match a man’s in physical strength pound for pound, females have incredible internal strength that cannot be denied.

So, this isn’t about encouraging you to be accept poor treatment or dumb yourself down. That’s not how to exude feminine energy.

Competition Kills Romance

The point is to simply find ways to amp up your feminine side for one HUGE reason. You do not under any circumstances want to appear COMPETITIVE with a man if you are hoping to date him and fall in love.

Men already have plenty of people to compete with.  At work, they compete with colleagues who are male and female.

At the start of dating, if you try to take charge or tell him you can do anything he can do (but better), he’ll shift away from any romantic thoughts instantly.

Mystery Draws a Quality Man to You

feminine energyYour softer side, combined with a little mystery will draw him in and make him curious to know more. That’s when he’ll seek you out – so he can learn more about you.

Forget telling him about your advanced degrees, your work and career achievements, or how hard you work out at the gym. Be proud, but tell him that stuff later on.

In sales, they talk about “not spilling all your candy in the lobby”. This is a massive sales mistake indicating you have given away too much information before you know if there’s any interest in what you’re selling.

You can learn from this sales analogy by holding off on telling a man every detail about yourself. Men complain about this habit women have all the time. Don’t do it!

How To Exude Feminine Energy

Now you know how to rely on feminine energy and use it to your advantage. You also have a deeper understanding about why this strategy works so well with men.

However, knowledge is only power when you apply what you know. Make a serious effort to exude feminine energy when you interact with men and then watch what happens.

You are sure to have far better luck with men asking you out and taking the next step to get to know you.


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Single for too long, Ronnie wanted to find love. She put her skills from personal development and her spiritual path to work, dating 30 men in 15 months to meet her adorable husband Paul. Discovering the keys to manifesting and midlife dating, she founded It’s Never Too Late to help smart, successful women find love or live an empowered and magical life. Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC, is a Certified Coach who has helped 1,000s of midlife women with her Love & Magical Life Coach services. She’s the host of the Breathe Love & Magic podcast and has been featured on NBC, ABC, & Fox News, NPR, BBC, eHarmony,, and Connecticut Magazine among others. Also, Ronnie is the author of 6 books which are available on Amazon.

2 thoughts on “How To Exude Feminine Energy When You’re Single & Looking For Love”

  1. This is always the tricky one for me. I’m a strong, independent woman. I run two businesses and have many men under my lead. So when I have to turn the tables towards dating, it’s a delicate balance between maintaining that “me” that I am and hoping someone accepts that strong personality, and allowing myself to be vulnerable to a man, especially on a first date with someone new I don’t know very well. Eek. It’s like how we’re always so tough all day – “I got this!” until we don’t feel well and want someone to come and take care of us and make us soup and pet our hair. ha – What’s the balance? I end up becoming “friend zoned” so easily and I wonder if this is why – Do I intimidate men? Do they REALLY need to be so dang manly? I’m just not delicate and girly girl. Oyee.

    • Hi Jeni, I’m not sure you intimidate men or if you turn off their romantic interest. To attract a masculine man, you have to allow him to BE the MAN. Otherwise you could be creating a power struggle which men will side step by putting you in the “Friend zone and thinking of you as one of the guys.

      To change this, drop your masculine business energy in your dating life. That doesn’t mean you are powerless! Far from it! As a woman you also have FEMININE power which is allure, creation, and collaboration. If you want him to make you soup, you have to be feminine enough to let go of your desire to always be in charge. This post explains how to exude this type of feminine energy an charm.

      Another choice is to date a “beta” man who will be happy you are a take charge woman. Just don’t expect him to initiate, take the lead, or share the leadership role. This can definitely work for some women, so it is something to consider.

      However, if you want a decisive, confident, masculine, you have to find a way to allow him to be The MAN in your relationship. To be honest, I work on this often myself in my relationship. Making room for a man in your life doesn’t mean you give up your power or become a door mat. It means you find softer ways to still get things done, converse and interact and know that these strategies can actually be more effective for a lasting, loving relationship.

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