Now you’re shut in and self-isolating, how can you date during the coronavirus quarantine? People are so creative and are doing it! Learn what you can do!
Have You Stopped Dating?
You may feel like there’s no way you can date. But is that true? Well, you can’t meet anyone at a bar or event. You can’t have a coffee date. And you can’t go to a restaurant. So, how can you meet anyone new?
There are definitely still ways to “meet” and continue your dating journey. But first I want to go over something that’s foundational to finding love that lasts.
There’s More to Finding Lasting Love
If you are looking for a romantic partner to share the rest of your life with, there’s a lot more to do than go on dates. When I work with my private clients, we spend a lot of time working on their “Inner Game” first, before meeting anyone.
Inner game? What’s that?
Your inner game is your mindset about dating, love, men, and your own chances of finding the right man. This impacts your ability to find love far more than you might imagine!
Indulge in Positive Self-Reflection
If you’re home with time on your hands and going a little stir crazy, why not indulge in some positive self-reflection? Get to know yourself better regarding your relationship dreams, habits and what you’ve learned from the past.
Review Your Past
You have already learned a lot about love. Take time to think about what you liked about your past loves individually. Go ahead and make a list about what was good in your previous relationships.
This review will clarify so many things for you when you look at everything with this kind of focused concentration. You might realize you need a man with a sense of humor, but he doesn’t have to drive a brand new car.
Your past experiences are worth reviewing if for no other reason, so you avoid making the same mistakes! This is an invaluable step before you date during the coronavirus quarantine.
I’m sure you are an amazing woman and a great catch. But do YOU know that? Really down in your gut and deep in your heart. Do you feel worthy of a high caliber man?
The start of dating is like a job interview and you have got to know your qualifications girlfriend! So here’s what I want you to do. Take out a piece of paper and make a list of why you are fabulous and totally lovable.
Forget the humble pie – go for it and write it all down. Every last wonderful reason why some man would be lucky to be with you.
Now here’s a powerful secret – this is your solution for handling rejection that is always part of dating. Any time some guy doesn’t work out – read your lovable list and remember why you are a great catch. Then realize how his lack of interest in you is HIS LOSS!
Create Your Vision
Now that you looked at your past and you took inventory about yourself, you are ready for the next big step before you date during the coronavirus quarantine. Create your vision of your dream man and the amazing relationship you know is possible. Pull out all the stops and really go to town.
So many women tell me they don’t need to do this or they have already done this exercise. That’s OK – do it again. Things change over time and you want to keep your vision fresh and up to date.
Here are a few things to think about:
- List personality characteristics
- Name his values (and yours)
- What makes him the right man for YOU?
- How much energy does he have?
- What kind of lifestyle do you want him to have? (healthy active, etc.)
- What are his political views?
- What does he do during his free time?
- Is he romantic?
- Does he communicate well?
How to Use Your Vision
Now that you know who you are looking for, make a simple, one sentence affirmation out of it and then say it all the TIME. Repeating it out loud when possible is the best. For example, you might say, “With the right man I feel lucky, loved and cherished.”
But also, and this is REALLY IMPORTANT, spend time visualizing and FEELING what your love will be like. That’s what makes this manifesting magic work! Imagine how magnetic you could be if you do this before you start to date during the coronavirus quarantine.
Feel the Love
When you FEEL the love as if it is real right now, that’s how you make yourself a match vibrationally to what you want. And that is exactly how the Law of Attraction works.
When things get back to normal you might think you don’t have time for this BUT YOU DO. This is something you can do while in the shower, washing dishes, while taking your walk or exercising, driving, on the train, in the elevator and more.
In fact, the more time you FEEL that love, the more real it becomes. Your energy will shift and elevate to the level of your desire! That’s what you want! So you’ll feel more positive, optimistic and motivated to get out and meet men.
Dating from Home
OK back to dating. If you can’t go on a real date during the coronavirus quarantine, what can you do? As you may have already heard since it’s all over the news as one of the only fun stories to report on right now, singles are having their first date by video chat.
You can use Facebook chat, Facetime on your iphone, whatsapp, Zoom, Google hangouts, Skype and a host of other visual options!
Now I just heard a clip from NPR in which a 30-something woman admitted she just wore her sweats and didn’t wash her hair for her first video date. Okay good for her, she let it all hang out and felt really comfortable. A lot of 30-something millennial men don’t care about makeup etc.
Pump Up Your Confidence
However, if you are going to date during the coronavirus quarantine, then know this is a “real” date, even if you can’t touch or kiss. Wear something casual sure, but something that makes you feel pretty and good about yourself.
Your beauty is not skin deep – it goes to the core of how you feel about yourself.
Please and LOOK YOUR BEST to build your confidence. Okay, no ballgowns, but a really nice top and jeans would be great. A little makeup and do your hair. You only get 17 seconds to make a first impression and there are no do overs!
What Should You Talk About?
My #1 rule about first dates is not to interrogate your date. While you have detective work to do and things you want to know about him, remember he’s sizing you up too.
If you make this your private detective Q&A, he’s not going to think you are fun or want to see you again! No way!
Instead, try these fun questions and be sure to have your own answers for when he turns the table on you and wants to know how you’d respond.
- What are you most proud of?
- What’s a favorite childhood memory and why do you like that?
- Tell me a college story that you haven’t thought about in years
- Where in the world would you like your next trip to be?
- Tell me one thing on your bucket list and why you want to do that?
Have Fun and Keep It Light!
Most of all, try to enjoy yourself. This could be a very entertaining way to spend the next few weeks. Meeting new men and having funny stories to share with your girlfriends.
You never know who you might meet and you might make a great friend too.
Remember every man you meet brings you one man closer to the right man for you. Even if you have a bad date, you didn’t have to leave your house, drive anywhere or pay for parking.
Just end the chat if it’s not working for you. No harm, no fowl!
Although, I do hope you give a guy a chance to get over any possible nervousness. Hang in there for 15 minutes, if you can, if you video date during the coronavirus quarantine.
No Risk Dating
Now, you can’t throw caution to the wind or get caught up in the moment and sleep with him because you can’t leave your house. So, he can’t break your heart by ghosting after getting you into bed and not calling again.
Keep in mind that with all dating, someone might be wonderful to talk to, but when it comes time to meet, they might disappear anyway. My dating advice is NOT TO FALL IN LOVE.
Keep yourself balanced by getting to know a few men. This was my saving grace when I was dating my husband. And it will also work great while you date during the coronavirus quarantine.
My love was a “slow dater” or a “once a week” guy. He always called once a week and we went out one date a week. That was it for 4 weeks!
If I weren’t dating other men I would have lost my patience and kicked him to the curb! But instead, I didn’t rush things and let him come around to pick up the pace. It worked – we’ve been happily married for 20 years. 🙂
No Excuses Now!
Now it’s your turn. Quit sitting around, feeling lonely and putting off your dating life until this craziness is over. There’s absolutely no need to wait – go ahead and date during the coronavirus quarantine.
Do your inner work and get serious about it. This is very rewarding and worthwhile. Right now is the perfect time for self-reflection.
I can’t say enough good things about how your inner work will turn things around and shift your dating luck for good.
Then, start swiping and messaging and find a way to enjoy the possibility of video chatting.
What if it was fun? What if it worked and you met “The One”? Please take advantage of this once in a lifetime, no risk, dating opportunity and give yourself a chance to find your dream man.
If you want to learn about more raising your love vibe, listen to this free audio program.