How “Adopting Dater’s Mind” Helps You Find Love Faster

Find Love Faster with a Mind that’s a “Clean Slate”

Adopt Dater's Mind to Find Love Faster

Do you know anything about Zen meditation? I studied Zen for a while in the early 90’s. They talk about “adopting beginner’s mind” which means to be open, to keep a clean slate, to look at everything with new eyes. That’s why in my book MANifesting Mr. Right, I borrowed this concept for the first section which I titled “Adopting Dater’s Mind”.

What is Dater’s Mind?
When you have dater’s mind, first and foremost, you are someone who actually dates. I have found sadly that the majority of my clients want to date, but don’t actually go out often. When you are a woman who dates, you are in a different mindset than when you are someone hoping to date. That’s true because…

  • You are working to hone your flirting skills and use them regularly
  • You aren’t afraid to strike up a conversation with a man
  • You enjoy men
  • You feel like a desirable woman because you interact with men regularly
  • You have a dating wardrobe

Are You Part of the Dating World?
Without dater’s mind, women have a hard time crossing the bridge to being part of the dating world. You might be:

  • Intimidated by the process
  • Too afraid of rejection to get started
  • Stuck thinking, “I don’t know where to start or I’m afraid of the Internet”
  • Without anything remotely sexy or date appropriate in your closet
  • Always complaining about men with your girlfriends

Dave Wygant Hit the Nail on the Head
I just read a post by Dave Wygant that was excellent. While I don’t always see eye-to-eye with Dave, this post hit the bull’s eye for me. This is my favorite part:

“…If you go out with an open mind instead of searching for “the one” and wondering where he’s going to be…flirting with men, talking to men, having fun, and actually enjoying … being single, guess what happens? The Law of Attraction happens. You start meeting great guys…[who]… are interested in you. You start creating chemistry. Not only that, you actually start having fun…”

I have given this exact same advice so many times to so many women. And here it is from Dave Wygant. Thanks Dave. Trust me when I tell you – this is the truth. This is what happened for me and for many of my clients who have found love. And this way of thinking – adopting dater’s mind – absolutely works. It elevates your energy to the level of your desire – that is the definition of the Law of Attraction – like attracts like. So you want to be like what you want to attract. It can work for you!

Take the Pressure Off!
Here’s what I tell my dating coaching clients: Take the pressure off! Just enjoy meeting new people. Get comfortable and build your skills. Find a way to learn something new from each person you meet – you never know even if he’s not the one, or you meet a group of women, every individual might know someone for you. That’s how I found my husband – I met his sister!

As your dating coach I want you to cross the bridge and find love faster. I want you to start having fun, meeting men, enjoying being single. Begin to adopt dater’s mind and see how things change for the better and your romantic future starts to look really hopeful.


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Single for too long, Ronnie wanted to find love. She put her skills from personal development and her spiritual path to work, dating 30 men in 15 months to meet her adorable husband Paul. Discovering the keys to manifesting and midlife dating, she founded It’s Never Too Late to help smart, successful women find love or live an empowered and magical life. Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC, is a Certified Coach who has helped 1,000s of midlife women with her Love & Magical Life Coach services. She’s the host of the Breathe Love & Magic podcast and has been featured on NBC, ABC, & Fox News, NPR, BBC, eHarmony,, and Connecticut Magazine among others. Also, Ronnie is the author of 6 books which are available on Amazon.

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