Dating Over 40: How a “What the Heck?”Attitude Helps You Find Love

When looking for love,, it’s not always easy to maintain a positive attitude. Yet, a good outlook is crucial to your dating success. How can you stay upbeat and open to trying new ways to meet people?

You might need to loosen up or get out of your comfort zone to find the love you want. If you are in dating mode and don’t give yourself many options for meeting new people, ask yourself this question, “What the heck?” When you give yourself permission to try new things and go to new places, your chances of meeting someone sky-rocket!
Here are a few examples of how this can work for you. When I have asked clients what finally made the difference in their dating efforts, so many respond, “I finally decided, ‘What the heck?’ and posted my profile, went to the dance, or said yes to the blind date. Saying “No” to these methods hadn’t been producing the results they wanted. Some how these people managed to push past the fear and realize there was very little to lose except their single status. 
They asked themselves, “What’s the worst thing that could happen?” This is a great way to free yourself up from unfounded fears. The likelihood of meeting an ax murder is statistically slim. 
Of course you’ll use common sense and be safe about your dating choices. You’ll meet prospects in busy, public places (like Starbucks) with well-lit parking lots. You may tell a friend where you’re going and what time to expect you back. If extra nervous, some women have brought a friend along to watch from another part of the café.
Naturally trying anything new can cause trepidation. But, without a willingness to explore various dating avenues, these happy clients who found love wouldn’t be with their partner today. Adopting a “What the heck?” attitude will help you put aside fears in favor of action, to move toward the goal of meeting Mr./Ms. Right.
Dottie can attest to the power of “What the heck?” thinking. Last fall, Dottie posted her ad on She met all kinds. Some were too pushy. A few were unattractive. Several were nice but didn’t do it for her. But there were two lucky men who met her qualifications and after dating both for a while, she settled on one. Today Dottie happily spends every weekend enjoying John’s company, sharing her life with a wonderful guy.
Ed had been noticing a woman at the gym for months. He just couldn’t seem to muster up the confidence to go for it and say hello. Finally, one day he thought to himself – what’s the big deal? What the heck, I’m going to try talking to her. They’ve been dating now for a few months and Ed discovered recently that Judy had been noticing him too and hoping he’d approach her!
Beth placed her personal ad in a local weekly paper. She screened lots of responses and finally decided to meet one man who had piqued her curiosity. They had a lot in common – in fact more than she realized because as it turns out, he lived right around the corner from her. Without placing that ad, Beth probably never would have met her “neighbor” who was an active, kind-hearted man with a great sense of humor.
What the heck? Say hello, smile at someone, ask her out, say yes to a date with him. Life is short! Start saying "What the Heck?" and get active to find the love you want.
Single for too long, Ronnie wanted to find love. She put her skills from personal development and her spiritual path to work, dating 30 men in 15 months to meet her adorable husband Paul. Discovering the keys to manifesting and midlife dating, she founded It’s Never Too Late to help smart, successful women find love or live an empowered and magical life. Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC, is a Certified Coach who has helped 1,000s of midlife women with her Love & Magical Life Coach services. She’s the host of the Breathe Love & Magic podcast and has been featured on NBC, ABC, & Fox News, NPR, BBC, eHarmony,, and Connecticut Magazine among others. Also, Ronnie is the author of 6 books which are available on Amazon.

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