If you’re a single gal dating over 40, try these 7 simple flirting tips that really work.
Been out of the dating loop for a while? Maybe you’ve been dating for some time but not getting the attention you want. Either way, these simple flirting tips will help you connect more easily with men.
What Is Flirting?
Flirting is an art that makes a woman more approachable. It’s a playful, friendly way to interact with people and nothing more.There is no promise for anything just because you flirt with a man and you are not leading him on if you follow the advice in this post.
Men do not like to be rejected any more than women do. So when you flirt, which can be as simple as a smile, you let a man know you are open and friendly. The majority of women today are not approachable, never mind friendly. Many women have great disdain for men and look down at most of them. So flirting, which softens your energy and is welcoming to men, encourages them to take the risk and say hello.
The Lost Art of Flirting
The art of flirting has been subdued over the last 40 years as gender equality has become more firmly established. Women have focused competing with men to equal or surpass business results. In addition, using feminine energy to win was been frowned upon. So women have relied more on what were considered traditionally masculine methods of interacting.
Looking back at the 1950s to see traditional gender roles, that’s where the last vestiges of flirting existed. Of course the 1960s sexual revolution created the great upheaval between the genders which is the foundation for the greater equality we enjoy today. And in every decade since flirting has been pushed into the dark more and more. Today women are more likely to be aggressive and ask men out versus use their feminine charm to attract them.
How to Use Flirting to Your Advantage
These flirting tips are so easy, you can start using them as soon as you finish reading this post! The more you use them, the more natural it will seem until this is just part of who you are. You are a fabulous, attractive, open, flirtatious woman who men notice and want to get to know!
1. Connect with Your Eyes – When you catch a man’s eye, be sure to look at him briefly, like 2 – 3 seconds before gently turning away. This eye contact communicates that you see him and know he’s been admiring you. This is a simple acknowledgment and nothing more serious.
2. Flash Him a Smile – Combine that look with a bright smile. This is the like one-two punch of flirting. It’s a dynamic duo that let’s a man know you are friendly, warm and open to men. In addition, this is part of basic social graces which most women have stopped. Why? Stories in the media about safety. A greater sense of isolation in the age of technology. There are plenty of reasons.
3. Say Hello – Being friendly goes a long way these days since so many women are not friendly at all. There is no harm in a little friendliness while you are walking by a guy on the sidewalk, waiting in line at the grocery store or walking your dog at the park. Saying “Hello” to people is a natural exchange and nothing to fear. When an attractive woman says hello, that will make a man’s day – and then yours too.
4. Look Up – Yes, get out of your own little world and out into the real world. Look up, be friendly, smile at people and see what is happening all around you. Engage in the world you live in and be a part of it. There are countless opportunities to meet new people if you are open to engage with them. It also helps to have your “antennae” up to notice the men around you.
5. Play with Your Hair or Jewelry – Silly as this suggestion sounds, when you fiddle with your jewelry or toss your hair, that is a body language signal that you are open to men. If you ask a man about this, he might not consciously know it. But as human beings we read body language all the time as an innate skill. So even though you might not realize what you are going, you too read body language. So use this tip and leverage it around men.
6. Look Over Your Shoulder – Like the photo for the post, looking over your shoulder is considered to be very flirtatious. Not in a bad way, in an alluring way. Remember there is no promise in flirting. It’s just a fun way to interact with men.
7. Touch Your Neck – Your neck is an erogenous zone, so when you touch your neck or gently brush against it, you are sending out flirty vibes. Don’t worry, there is nothing wrong or over the top about doing this. It’s a subtle clue that you are open to men so do not worry. Of course you can’t be constantly touching your neck – but every once in a while, just touch it to make sure it’s still there. You get the idea.
Try these Flirting Tips Today!
I’ve had clients who took these simple tips and had great success the very first time they tried them. You might not get the attention of one specific guy, but you will meet a lot more men and have many more opportunities come your way. You will be more attractive and alluring. And you are far more likely to get asked out on dates which is what you need to find the love you have been dreaming of.
If you’d like even more flirting suggestions, check out Flirt School, a downloadable course with two hours of audio lessons, additional audios and handouts. You’ll be thrilled with how these simple flirting tips can work immediately.