Flirt! 5 Lessons in Flirtation for Women Dating Over 40

As a single woman dating over 40, understanding how to flirt is not only smart, but also your best strategy for meeting the most men.

Flirt! 5 Lessons in Flirtation for Women Dating Over 40
Flirt! 5 Lessons in Flirtation for Women Dating Over 40

I’ve created an acronym that explains what it means to flirt and you can read all about it below. Once you start using this innate feminine skill, your dating karma will be transformed. I’m not sure why women resist when you were born with this ability, but my goal is to help as many women as possible turn on this man magnet so you can get the results you want – to find love with the right man for you!

“F”  stands for Femininity.
This is your God-given ability to appeal to men. It was coded into your DNA to ensure survival of the species and the ability to attract a mate. Nothing can remove this from your being because it is part of you at the deepest level.

Unfortunately for some women, this has been buried deeply and suppressed. It has been replaced by staunch independence to survive without a partner. Self-reliance has caused many women to build their more masculine side and build a successful career with financial independence.

Hey, as women today, we don’t NEED men any more. We can literally do everything without having a partner including having children. But, and this is big, if you want a man in your life, you need to be in touch with your feminine charm. Because men don’t want to compete in relationship – instead they seek their biological counterpart –  A FEMININE WOMAN.

“F” could also stand for fun because flirting is such a blast. It’s a playful, creative way to interact with men and get them to come to you by using your allure.

“L”  stands for Lovability.
Ultimately, that’s what you want right? To be loved. So first, you want to be lovable. You want to embody love and be the love you want so men see you as lovable. But, when you are angry at all men, spend good amounts of time man bashing with your gal pals, and have lost the ability to see that not all men are the same, you do not portray a “lovable” energy.

To be lovable, you need to exude warmth, a welcoming attitude and approach life and people with an open heart. That’s the only way to make a heart connection. I’m not talking about wearing your heart on your sleeve, letting your emotions run you or sharing your feelings prematurely.

When you are lovable, you are easy to be with, kind, sassy, pleasant, open, fun, warm, intelligent – many of the qualities you already are! Then you couple that with an optimistic outlook on men and love and there you are – more lovable than you can imagine.

Of course “L” could also stand for liberating your ladylike side rather than leading with your business skills and masculine energy.

“I” stands for being simply Irresistible.
A woman who knows how to flirt and relies on her feminine charm surely is irresistible to men. When you see a woman at an event or party who is surrounded by men, she is demonstrating this ability and you can see how men respond positively.

When I worked in the corporate world, I must admit I despised women who traded on their femininity for success. But decades later I see the power and potential and have a new found respect for the women who know how to succeed in business and still maintain their womanhood. Today, I not only applaud this, but encourage women to do this for success in love as well.
The “I” might also stand for an intelligent woman who indulges in a little flirtation because she knows she can and understands the power this aspect of her personality offers.

“R” stands for a woman who is Radiant.  
She takes good care of herself and understands the importance of self care for building self-esteem. When you take time for yourself, you feel renewed and then have more to give back to others. So everyone wins when you take care of #1 first and baby, that is YOU! 

Plus, it’s no surprise that men prefer a woman who looks like she takes care of herself. Your hair has style, your makeup is fresh, your clothes look great on you. Image is everything in business and in love, so be sure to portray the image you want. When you are too tired to do this or skip it for other priorities, it shows.

“R” could also stand for being resilient when the men you meet don’t follow through. This type of disappointment is part of dating and rejection cannot be avoided if you want to find love. So, to become resilient, you know that there are more good men where that one guy came from and that helps you not take each encounter so seriously.

“T”  stands for Tried and True dating strategy.
Flirting is a “tried and true” method for capturing a man’s attention. It works from afar with your body language telegraphing your availability and it works up close with conversation, tone of voice and touch that breaks the personal space barrier in a very specific way. Nothing else works quite like flirting when you are looking for love.

Of course “T” could also stand for “tantalize” since your goal is to capture a man’s attention. This is not a sleazy way of acting, but a artful way to generate the chemistry sought by both genders.

So that’s it – a new acronym for the word FLIRT! Femininity, lovability, irresistible, radiant and a tried and true method to meet men.

The good news about flirting is that it doesn’t require a certain body type, age or extreme beauty. It’s much more about allowing your INNER BEAUTY to shine through. Permit your feminine side to radiate your womanly allure so men will be drawn to you naturally. Come on, who doesn’t want that?

Want to learn more? Join me for Flirt School – a new teleclass starting Monday night, September 23.
Single for too long, Ronnie wanted to find love. She put her skills from personal development and her spiritual path to work, dating 30 men in 15 months to meet her adorable husband Paul. Discovering the keys to manifesting and midlife dating, she founded It’s Never Too Late to help smart, successful women find love or live an empowered and magical life. Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC, is a Certified Coach who has helped 1,000s of midlife women with her Love & Magical Life Coach services. She’s the host of the Breathe Love & Magic podcast and has been featured on NBC, ABC, & Fox News, NPR, BBC, eHarmony,, and Connecticut Magazine among others. Also, Ronnie is the author of 6 books which are available on Amazon.

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