I have been communicating with this one guy on Match that in the virtual world seems like a good fit for me. We’ve been trying to meet however because of our schedules it hasn’t happened yet. I finally said lets talk on the phone – he said he would call me on Monday or Tuesday night…..he never did.
I received an email from him Thursday with the following:
“Sorry I have not called yet but it has been a very busy week. My available quality phone time is usually after 9pm, and I don’t want to call that late on the first call. My nephew is in a basketball playoff tonight at 6pm and if I do get home early enough I will give you a call. “
I am a little turned off that he didn’t do what he said he was going to do….words and actions matching is very important to me. Am I being too stubborn and black/white?
Scheduling Challenged in CA
Dear Ms. Scheduling,
It’s always best to pay attention to a man’s actions rather than listen to his words – advice many grandmothers would give because it’s true in any era. This guy has already shown that his word is not good. If talking on the phone and meeting you are not his priority now, when will It be? Things don’t get better than the beginning.
First impressions count. He’s not impressing me or you either. Listen to your gut.
I know sometimes women want to give a guy a chance which normally I would advise. But I’m not convinced this guy is worthy of your time. If you really want to meet him – what the heck? Just keep your guard up and be aware that his follow through is likely a big issue. His priorities are not focused on finding love. And, his actions don’t bode well, so don’t fall for any additional empty promises. If he doesn’t follow through again – go fishing for a better man!
Remember, you can’t date a man in the virtual world no matter how good he looks there. He needs to be in the real world, pursuing and pleasing you to make him a viable candidate for romantic partner. Real men who want a relationship do exist! Don’t settle for anything less. I don’t care how busy the guy is, if he wants you or is serious about love, he will make time.
Wishing you love,