Find Love Faster: Does Your Desire for Love Match Your Actions?

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Find Love Faster: Do Your Actions Align with Your Desire for Love?

Wish you could find love faster? Get these 5 tips to make it happen!

This week had a theme with my dating coaching clients. For many women, even though they want a man in their life, they are not taking the steps needed to find love. That’s a big problem. A lack of action will surely keep you single.

If you want a loving relationship, you can’t sit home on the couch or tell me you are too busy with life. You have to make finding love a priority. But it takes more than going out to meet men.

Aligning your actions with your desires applies to many facets of your life.

1. Do you dress the part of a woman seeking love? 
I’m not talking about when you go on a date or when you go to meet new guys. I’m talking about day in and day out. Presentation is EVERYTHING! And you just never know where you might meet a man. But one thing I know for sure, if you don’t look good, you’d rather hide than be friendly and that will not support your objective to find love will it? Nope, not a chance.

You don’t need to be dressed to the nines as they say 24/7. But it’s important to look good and feel good about how you look. Pay attention to your makeup, hair, and a decent outfit. Even if you just have on a T-shirt and jeans, why not nice jeans and a great colored -T with snazzy accessories?

2. Do you look up to see who is around?
How many times do you go out to do errands and are so focused you don’t notice who is around you? I know it happens every day. But if you want to meet more men, you  have to look up once in a while and smile at them. Men often ask me why they can’t get a woman’s attention in the grocery store. Usually it’s because she is totally task focused and looks like crap, and just wants to get in, get the stuff, and get out.

3. Do you smile at men, talk to them and act friendly?
Remember, the more men you meet and talk to, the better your chances to find love. Since men are everywhere you go, you have to engage with them. Please smile, be friendly and talk to men. Try

flirting!  This can be very entertaining and fun. You’ll be pleasantly surprised at the positive exchanges you have when you get started. Being friendly makes you so much more approachable and the easier it is for men to talk to you, the more dates you’ll get.

4. Do you speak positively about yourself and your life?
This goes back to presentation is everything. Not only for how you look, but also for how you speak. When you are positive about yourself and your life, you are automatically more attractive. I’m not saying you can’t speak the truth, just moderate how much and to whom. You only get one chance to make a first impression so make it good!

5. Do you give men a chance?
When men do approach you, do you shut them down right away, worried that you don’t want to get started? Is one of your fears that you won’t be able to get rid of a guy once you start talking to him? Many women feel this way, but when you shut men down, you limit your opportunities. Not only with that specific man, but with the other potential guys who are also watching you, but are turned off because you weren’t friendly.

To meet more men and find love, you must give men a chance. Men can surprise in a good way you if you let them. A lot of single women today think if the guy isn’t a 9 on a scale of 1-10, they don’t want to bother.  This attitude will keep you single for sure. men are people too and while some are definite “No’s”, some of the 6’s, 7’s and 8’s are fabulous guys who just need you to give them a chance. They are loyal, smart and want to please you.

On the other hand, men who are 9’s and 10’s usually know it and as a result are not the best suitors. They know there are women on every corner who want them, so they don’t try harder – sort of like the old Hertz -Avis TV commercials – Avis said “We try harder” and that was because they were #2.

If you follow this dating advice, you will find love faster. Make sure your actions are aligned with your desire to meet men and see how your love life explodes!


Single for too long, Ronnie wanted to find love. She put her skills from personal development and her spiritual path to work, dating 30 men in 15 months to meet her adorable husband Paul. Discovering the keys to manifesting and midlife dating, she founded It’s Never Too Late to help smart, successful women find love or live an empowered and magical life. Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC, is a Certified Coach who has helped 1,000s of midlife women with her Love & Magical Life Coach services. She’s the host of the Breathe Love & Magic podcast and has been featured on NBC, ABC, & Fox News, NPR, BBC, eHarmony,, and Connecticut Magazine among others. Also, Ronnie is the author of 6 books which are available on Amazon.

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