Dating Over 40: Even a Man with a Bad Photo Can Turn Out to Be Gold

The Dating Goddess is currently besotted with a new man she’s seeing. What’s particularly interesting is that she had initially rejected him because his photo was terrible. I can’t remember the whole story, but when she did end up meeting him, she was so surprised because he was far better looking than that photo portrayed. A good lesson for those of you looking at each guy’s photo and saying, "no, no, no."

Apparently things are going very nicely. Plenty of phone calls, texting, etc with sweet little nothings and wonderful dates.  I believe this is her 86th or maybe 87th guy. (They say 87’s the charm – oh come on just kidding) The Dating Goddess is waiting to see if this romance continues  or dwindles down. Well we all know nothing can stay at the initial intensity, but that doesn’t mean it can’t coast at a nice level.

So I shared something from my marriage on her blog about how the butterflies are still there for me. Yes, we fight and disagree sometimes, but at the end of the day, snuggled in together, I am always glad he’s there. He is worth every bad date, cry fest, bitter disappointment and painful rejection I experienced along the road to meet and marry my husband.

Any way – read the Dating Goddess’s post and my comment and remind yourself why you are getting out there to meet new people and maintain the hope that you will in fact find "The One."

Single for too long, Ronnie wanted to find love. So, she made a few tweaks and then dated 30 men in 15 months to meet her adorable husband Paul. Discovering the keys to midlife dating, she founded It’s Never Too Late for Love to help other smart, successful women find love too! Her mission is to share her proven dating advice  and keen insights about men with women everywhere who are serious about finding love with the right man. Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC is a Certified Coach who has helped 1,000’s of midlife women with her Love & Dating Coach services. She’s been featured on BBC’s 5 Live Radio, NBC, ABC, and Fox News, NPR, eHarmony,,, Connecticut Magazine among others around the world. An established author, you can find her 6 books on Amazon.

2 thoughts on “Dating Over 40: Even a Man with a Bad Photo Can Turn Out to Be Gold”

  1. Hi Dating Goddess,
    Thanks for stopping by to clarify! 88 does sound very auspicious. I will be keeping my fingers crossed. From numerology, eight is a very happy, socal, fun number. You’ve got that doubled!

    Yeah, good looking men can add an interesting dimemsion to life. At my wedding, one of my mother’s friends couldn’t stop talking about how cute my husband is. Come on lady, that was my day!

    Any way, I’ll check in for further delicious installments and I hope other readers do too!

  2. Hi Ronnie:

    Thanks for your mention in your blog. Yes, I am besotted. And yes, he’s #88 in 3.5 years. The Chinese believe 8 is a lucky number, so I guess I got lucky twice over!

    In addition to all the characteristics I’ve mentioned that I adore about him, he’s the first one that I would be drawn to meet if I saw him across the room at a party, especially if he were smiling and laughing. He is a hunk in addition to being one of the smartest men I’ve dated, humble, romantic, thoughtful, articulate, kind, generous … the list goes on.

    I’ve always said that I would not have been drawn to any of the men I went out with if I saw them across the room. So imagine my elation that this man has all these characteristics I love PLUS he looks like an underware model. But luckily, he’s one of those who doesn’t really get what a hunk he is. I’ve always been a bit afraid of going out with really good looking men as my preconceived notion is they are players or will dump me as soon as they get what they want. So far this man has shown any indication of this behavior. He’s dated very little in the 6 years since his divorce.

    So if you are interested in the soap opera of my dating life — and the lessons learned from it — join us at Adventures in Delicious Dating After 40,


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