One of my readers asked about e-Harmony again this week. Do they have a free coupon, what’s the best deal etc.My response has nothing to do with their promotional efforts. I haven’t a clue about that.
But here’s what I do know from talking with hundreds of women over 40. There are very few men on e-Harmony over the age of 40 on a percentage basis. I know women who were told they couldn’t find matches for them. Women who got matches from very long distances even though they requested closer proximity. Women who are angry, frustrated and highly disappointed.
How come you may ask? Shouldn’t it help to fill out this long questionnaire, and then get matched by a computer based on 29 areas of compatibility?
NO, not really.
Here are some of the problems.
1) Most men over 40 don’t want to fill out any personality questionnaire with over 400 questions. They just don’t want to do it and they don’t care about personality tests.
2) The commercials are totally targeted at women. Next time you see one, really pay attention. They show a few men alone, but hey don’t show the women alone except those who have already been matched. They have been created to appeal to women. No wonder there are fewer men on the site. And the commercials don’t’ show people over 40 either.
3) Just because they will show you matches for free doesn’t mean those men will be interested in you or respond. That’s why the match.com system of browsing is so much better. At least you can participate and look around.
4) Who says those 29 points of compatibility really work? How can we tell if they have any greater success rate than match.com or yahoo personals? Mostly hype if you ask me. Without the statistics, I’m not convinced.
If you really believe in e-Harmony and want to give it a chance – well go ahead. But I recommend also posting on a second large site to make sure you actually meet some men. If you put all your eggs in the e-harmony basket, you might come up empty handed. I’d hate to see that happen.
Don’t fall for the story. There’s very little harmony for most women over 40 who sign up. Do yourself a favor and pick another site where your chances of meeting a man go up exponentially.
Single for too long, Ronnie wanted to find love. She put her skills from personal development and her spiritual path to work, dating 30 men in 15 months to meet her adorable husband Paul. Discovering the keys to manifesting and midlife dating, she founded It’s Never Too Late to help smart, successful women find love or live an empowered and magical life. Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC, is a Certified Coach who has helped 1,000s of midlife women with her Love & Magical Life Coach services. She’s the host of the Breathe Love & Magic podcast and has been featured on NBC, ABC, & Fox News, NPR, BBC, eHarmony, MSN.com, and Connecticut Magazine among others. Also, Ronnie is the author of 6 books which are available on Amazon.