One of my readers asked about e-Harmony again this week. Do they have a free coupon, what’s the best deal etc.My response has nothing to do with their promotional efforts. I haven’t a clue about that.
But here’s what I do know from talking with hundreds of women over 40. There are very few men on e-Harmony over the age of 40 on a percentage basis. I know women who were told they couldn’t find matches for them. Women who got matches from very long distances even though they requested closer proximity. Women who are angry, frustrated and highly disappointed.
How come you may ask? Shouldn’t it help to fill out this long questionnaire, and then get matched by a computer based on 29 areas of compatibility?
NO, not really.
Here are some of the problems.
1) Most men over 40 don’t want to fill out any personality questionnaire with over 400 questions. They just don’t want to do it and they don’t care about personality tests.
2) The commercials are totally targeted at women. Next time you see one, really pay attention. They show a few men alone, but hey don’t show the women alone except those who have already been matched. They have been created to appeal to women. No wonder there are fewer men on the site. And the commercials don’t’ show people over 40 either.
3) Just because they will show you matches for free doesn’t mean those men will be interested in you or respond. That’s why the match.com system of browsing is so much better. At least you can participate and look around.
4) Who says those 29 points of compatibility really work? How can we tell if they have any greater success rate than match.com or yahoo personals? Mostly hype if you ask me. Without the statistics, I’m not convinced.
If you really believe in e-Harmony and want to give it a chance – well go ahead. But I recommend also posting on a second large site to make sure you actually meet some men. If you put all your eggs in the e-harmony basket, you might come up empty handed. I’d hate to see that happen.
Don’t fall for the story. There’s very little harmony for most women over 40 who sign up. Do yourself a favor and pick another site where your chances of meeting a man go up exponentially.
Single for too long, Ronnie wanted to find love. So, she made a few tweaks and then dated 30 men in 15 months to meet her adorable husband Paul. Discovering the keys to midlife dating, she founded It’s Never Too Late for Love to help other smart, successful women find love too! Her mission is to share her proven dating advice and keen insights about men with women everywhere who are serious about finding love with the right man. Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC is a Certified Coach who has helped 1,000’s of midlife women with her Love & Dating Coach services. She’s been featured on BBC’s 5 Live Radio, NBC, ABC, and Fox News, NPR, eHarmony, MSN.com, MORE.com, Connecticut Magazine among others around the world. An established author, you can find her 6 books on Amazon.