Dating Over 40: Don’t Forget About Girlfriends!

Marilyn was complaining recently that she was tired of spending so much time alone. She just broke up with her boyfriend of three years and they had done EVERYTHING together. Now she was boyfriendless and companionship scarce.

What about her girlfriends? Well Marilyn had focused her life on her man. Some of her friendships stayed intact,, but many were either married or fell by the wayside. Now that she is single again, her entire solution to time on her hands is to look for a man who will fill that void.

This is not the best strategy for several reasons.

Ever hear the phrase – "Men come and go, but girlfriends get you through."? It’s true isn’t it? Most of us need our girlfriends for support, a good cry or laugh and maybe some occasional commiserating. Men are great – don’t get me wrong, but we all know – they aren’t women and no one can replace your women friends or sisters. We understand each other because we think in similar ways.

If you are suddenly single and looking for ways to fill your time, think about making some new girlfriends! Today more than ever, there are single women of all ages to befriend. And, today -many are vibrant, active and want to do things!

The fastest growing segment of the travel industry is girl getaways! Why? Because women love to travel and they are no longer waiting to find men to go with! You have freedom today like never before to get out and enjoy the world. So make a few new girlfriends if you’re short on buddies. Then, get busy having fun.

Do you know how attractive a woman is who lives a rich, full life?

Highly attractive!

And how happy is a woman who is active and plans fun activities for herself? Very!

  • Open the paper and look in the calendar section to see what events are interesting to you.
  • Check out the Red Hat Society if you are over 50
  • Find a book club or take a pilates class
  • Try continuing education – most school systems have a catalog of programs!
  • Visit to discovers a huge variety of special interest groups locally, from volleyball, to gourmet dinners, a Course in Miracles study group, knitting, biking and kayaking – it’s all out there.

As humans,  we are social animals. Don’t put all your hopes, dreams and energy into only finding a man to fulfill all your needs. Live your life and while doing that – keep your eyes open and look for a great guy who will expand your world even further .


Single for too long, Ronnie wanted to find love. So, she made a few tweaks and then dated 30 men in 15 months to meet her adorable husband Paul. Discovering the keys to midlife dating, she founded It’s Never Too Late for Love to help other smart, successful women find love too! Her mission is to share her proven dating advice  and keen insights about men with women everywhere who are serious about finding love with the right man. Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC is a Certified Coach who has helped 1,000’s of midlife women with her Love & Dating Coach services. She’s been featured on BBC’s 5 Live Radio, NBC, ABC, and Fox News, NPR, eHarmony,,, Connecticut Magazine among others around the world. An established author, you can find her 6 books on Amazon.

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