Dating Over 40: Does Your Love Life Need a Bail Out Too?

Wouldn’t it be great if there was some higher source (not a political one though) who could swoop down and do something to straighten out your love life? Just like some Americans are hoping the government will bail out our financial system. Well the good new is – there is! You can rely on your higher self and depending upon your beliefs, your angels, your higher power, The Universe and even God himself/herself.

I am not being flippant at all. Instead, I am reminding you of how we can pray for assistance regarding any topic, including LOVE. The greater powers of the Universe want you to be happy. The good book even says, "Ask and you shall receive."  So what’s the hold up you may ask?

Well, the Law of Attraction states like attracts like. That means every time you say something bad about yourself, men, women, love, dating, and the state of relationships today, you will likely be working to attract more  of the same. More of what you don’t want! Huh?

The way the Law of Attraction works, you need to think positive thoughts about yourself and love. Positive thoughts about men and the state of relationships today. Positive thoughts about the world at large. Not such an easy task you — might be complaining already.

But what if you just do your best to monitor your thoughts and words? Start to notice how much time you spend complaining about love and berating the opposite s-e-x. Even if you spend just one day noticing the quantity of thoughts and words that are not supportive of your dreams or preferences, you’ll be very surprised.

Why is this? Well mostly because you are human. And in our modern society, we are not  taught how to shift our thinking. We aren’t taught about how crucial it is to protect our consciousness from outer negativity, as well as our own inner negativity. But awareness is the first step in any recovery process.

For the Law of Attraction to really work you need to BELEIVE that what you want is possible, and even probable. You need to have more thoughts supportive of this outlook than negative towards it.

So, is it your love life that needs bailing out, or your thought patterns? Most likely, with a bit of attention, concentration and commitment  to follow through, you will be able to turn both your thoughts and your love life around. I myself have done this on a number of different topics and I know so many otherswho have had success too.

It can be done and YOU CAN DO IT. Some things take more time than others but that doesn’t mean it won’t come too fruition. And who deserves to have what they want more than you?

During this time of turmoil and trouble, you could fall into worry and negativity. Given the news reports – its never been easier. But I am working on holding my focus more on what I want to happen, versus what I don’t want to happen. Worry never makes me feel better. But thinking about things that make me happy always feels good.

Do what you have to do of course. Be smart and take the steps you need. I’m not proposing throwing caution to he wind or not taking care of your daily needs. I am suggesting that when you notice negative thoughts rattling around in your brain, or catch yourself spewing a stream of negativity about politics, Wall Street, or the opposite s-e-x, take a moment and ask yourself the most powerful coaching question I know…

What would i rather be thinking?

Then follow up with – Is this line of thinking making me feel stronger and happier? If you answer NO, then start thinking about something else that will bring you the good feelings you want and keep the hope and belief alive that love is possible for you. Then take some steps to meet someone new.


Single for too long, Ronnie wanted to find love. So, she made a few tweaks and then dated 30 men in 15 months to meet her adorable husband Paul. Discovering the keys to midlife dating, she founded It’s Never Too Late for Love to help other smart, successful women find love too! Her mission is to share her proven dating advice  and keen insights about men with women everywhere who are serious about finding love with the right man. Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC is a Certified Coach who has helped 1,000’s of midlife women with her Love & Dating Coach services. She’s been featured on BBC’s 5 Live Radio, NBC, ABC, and Fox News, NPR, eHarmony,,, Connecticut Magazine among others around the world. An established author, you can find her 6 books on Amazon.

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