Does He Like Me? He Calls, But Doesn’t Make Dates

Wondering, “Does he like me?” That’s your first clue he’s probably not serious about you. Here’s my dating advice to this reader having this very problem.

he calls but doesn't ask me outHow Do I Know If He Likes Me?

“Dear Dating Coach Ronnie,

I’m confused about a fella I’m in touch with the past few months. He told me he liked me over a year ago and wanted to be with me even though I was going out with a friend of his. Just before Christmas my relationship broke up, not because of the friend, but we just weren’t getting on.

When we broke up, his friend asked me out for a drink. I didn’t because it was way too quick after breaking up – three weeks. Later I agreed to meet him, we went out and had a great night. We met another night again and things were great. Over the last month we talked nearly every day. But when it comes near the weekend, he asks have I any plans and neither of us have.

Two weeks in a row I asked him if he wanted to do something on the Sunday and he said he would if he wasn’t busy. Sunday evening came and got a call or text saying he wouldn’t be able to make it. He was busy at home and it would be late when he’d finish up his work.

What do you suggest I do? I really like him and I’m wondering does he like me? I think he has interest or he wouldn’t be ringing 5 -7 times a week or texting.

Please help!
Lost in London”

Could He Be Stringing You Along?


Dear Lost,

You ask, “Does he like me?” but the real question is would a man who likes you act this way? This man is stringing you along. If he wanted a long-term relationship, he’d want to see you on the weekends.

In fact, his behavior makes me wonder if he has another woman or why wouldn’t he spend time with you over the weekend.

He is clearly non-committal because he won’t even agree to see you when you ask him out. He says he’ll see if he’s busy. Never put up with that kind of evasive response. Either he wants to see you or not.

Then he responds Sunday night when the weekend is over saying he’s busy. Don’t believe it! He is busy – with another woman or avoiding you. Either way, that’s not how a man in love behaves.

Read more on why there are no weekend dates.

Here’s What He Really Wants

what should I do about my boyfriendWhen a man calls several times a week to talk, he’s looking for emotional support. Women often feel this has meaning and assume he must be interested. Why else would he spend so much time ringing? Well, he could be…

  • Cheating emotionally without cheating physically
  • Boosting his ego
  • Enjoying the fantasy
  • Needing emotional support from a kind woman who will listen and indulge him

A woman falls for a man’s attention via telephone (text or email) because she’s hoping he’ll eventually love her. That never happens. Either a man is available and wants a relationship or he isn’t.

Men don’t change their ways and suddenly become available or the man of your dreams. A guy who is truly interested, won’t leave you hanging or wondering, “Does he like me?”

This kind of “relationship” is a waste of your precious time.

17 Signs He Doesn’t Want a Relationship

How to Handle a Man Who Doesn’t Ask You Out

if he doesn't ask you out move on1. Dump Him

If you are smart and strong, you’ll dump him immediately because you know you deserve better. You know he’s not the one and there are better men out there. As a woman who values herself, you won’t accept any relationship crumbs from a man hoping things will improve with time. Never look back because you know there is nothing there.

2. Stop Talking Nightly

If that’s too scary, then stop talking to him nightly. Just don’t answer the phone and other times pick up and say you are too busy to talk. Mix up your excuses for about a week.

If he doesn’t disappear or wants to know what is going on, say something like, “If you want to talk, let’s do it in person. Are you free Saturday night?” If he still can’t see you on the weekend, move on.

Does He Like Me or Not?

does he like me or notSo, in answer to the question of, “Does he like me?” my 20 years of experience say NO. He is using you for emotional support or to boost his ego. My bet is you want to spend time with a good man face-to-face. That makes this guy the WRONG guy.

If you are ready for the real thing, spending quality time doing fun things, sharing life, and kisses, it’s time to move on. You can’t do any of that over the phone.

Wishing you love,

does he like me



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Single for too long, Ronnie wanted to find love. She put her skills from personal development and her spiritual path to work, dating 30 men in 15 months to meet her adorable husband Paul. Discovering the keys to manifesting and midlife dating, she founded It’s Never Too Late to help smart, successful women find love or live an empowered and magical life. Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC, is a Certified Coach who has helped 1,000s of midlife women with her Love & Magical Life Coach services. She’s the host of the Breathe Love & Magic podcast and has been featured on NBC, ABC, & Fox News, NPR, BBC, eHarmony,, and Connecticut Magazine among others. Also, Ronnie is the author of 6 books which are available on Amazon.

8 thoughts on “Does He Like Me? He Calls, But Doesn’t Make Dates”

  1. I’ve been dating this guy for a year. We’ve only been on a date alone once and a couple times as a “group”. He puts more effort in group outings than me. He texts and calls every night but never makes dates. When I ask to go out, he has an excuse. We haven’t slept together. I asked if it was a religious thing and he said no, he doesn’t want to rush it. I’ve practically begged this man to make a date or just let us spend time together and he never does. Now I feel so resentful I’m not answering his calls. I don’t know if that is right but I feel used. I don’t know what else I can tell this man or if I should just give up the relationship.

    • Hey Celine, Sorry to hear this. The hard truth is you are not in a relatinship. It’s virtual if you don’t go on dates. He’s lonely and likes the connection and attention. Yet, he doesn’t want to spend time with you? Why desire or beg such a man? He’s has nothing to offer. Drop him and go meet new men who will see you at least once a week to start and more often after 3-4 weeks. If you meet men who won’t do this, move on quickly, so you don’t waste time on men who don’t want a relationship. There is nothing you can do in this situation, nor should you do anything to convince such a man. He’s clearly demonstrating that he’s not interested – let it go. A man who is genuinely interested wants to spend time with you sleep with you!

  2. Hi Ronnie,

    I met the guy I’m currently seeing five years ago. We casually dated back then and then started seeing each other about a month ago. We have gone on two dates, one being a social outing for my brother’s birthday. We talk on the phone every single night before we go to bed. These calls range from 5 min to 1+ hours. Due to our busy work schedules we can’t see each other during the week, so we usually always end up talking on the phone if we can…However, I’m becoming frustrated with the limited to no time we are spending together face to face. I love your blog and wanted to get your advice on this…

    Busy girl

  3. Thanks, this really helped in with my current situation. I will also follow the just divorced rule as well which also pertained to my situation.

    He’s always texting. We’ve been “talking” for over three months now and have only gone on one date. He cancelled our second date because his ex-mother in law was in town. I blew up at him and he stopped talking to me until Monday morning. Then it was back to just business as usual. I asked him why he just ignored my comment. He said he was surprised because he’d only asked me out three times and one time I had to decline. This was a real eye opener for me. I realized I was doing all the asking and getting nothing but rejection. I’ve finally stopped initiating any kind of contact with him. He still texts me occasionally but less and less now. Good riddance! I feel so much less anxiety now understanding he’s just a time waster!

    • Good for you Leah! Now you know not to waste your time holding to be asked out again in this way. After 10 days without a second date, move on.

  4. …Men who are truly interested, don’t leave you hanging or wondering, “Does he like me?”

    This kind of “relationship” is a waste of your precious time.

    I couldn’t agree more with you Ronnie! We sometime love to justify their lack of “not being able to show up” in hope they’ll turn around.. but such a behavior in an early stage of their dating life clearly tells that she should dump his @#4 🙂

    Love your site btw, found you via twitter !


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