Does He Have a Girlfriend? He Doesn’t Ask Me Out For the Weekend

Why doesn’t he ask me out on the weekend? Does he have a girlfriend? Discover telltale signs that you are not the only woman in his life.

I Dated This Hot Guy for Weeks

how do I know if he has a girlfriendDid you ever date a guy who you had a great time with and saw weekly, but for some reason, never on the weekends?

I met this hot guy at a bar. Broad shoulders, tight abs, and a great jawline. Very attractive and masculine.  He was sort of a bad boy still at 40 – you know the kind of guy.

We caught each other’s eyes as I walked towards the ladies’ room. On my way back to the dance floor, he stopped me to strike up a conversation.

He asked me to dance and was a great dancer! Wow, a man who seemed sure of himself was a nice change. We danced a few times, then walked over to a table and talked for a while which was fun.

He asked for my number, then leaned down to kiss me on the cheek before disappearing into the crowd. Who was that guy?

Observe a Man’s Actions

He called in a couple of days and asked me out to dinner. Yes! Friday night came and we went out, had a nice time. He was so romantic – I loved it. I was totally taken in by his European accent, good looks, and charm.

He called again and we went out several more times. Time together was always fun, enjoyable, and he kept me guessing. I never knew what was next which made the situation so exciting.

It never occurred to me to even wonder, “Does he have a girlfriend?”

When I was with him, I felt like the most incredibly alluring woman – more than I ever had in my entire life. it was like I  had finally come alive.

We had that steamy chemistry women always talk about and drool over.

Pay Attention to Confusing Behavior


Yet, I started to feel confused by his actions. After our first date, we never saw each other again on a weekend night. Monday, Tuesday, Thursday – sure. Maybe even a Sunday afternoon. But never another Friday or Saturday night.

What could this be about? I had no idea, but continued seeing him because I was having a great time.

I asked around about what it could mean to not have weekend dates. No one had an explanation for this strange behavior. They couldn’t come up with any valid reasons that made sense and hadn’t run into this problem before.

How is it possible no one knew the signs of being a side chick or asked, does he have a girlfriend?

The Truth Comes Out

One night I decided to just ask him. “Hey Romeo,” (how I referred to him with my girlfriends, but never to his face) how come we never get together on the weekend?”

To my surprise he actually answered me and was honest. He said, “I have to see my girlfriend sometime.”


Time stood still and I felt my world crumbling down. I said, “What? What did you say?”

Romeo responded nonchalantly, “I have a girlfriend for two years now. I see other women in addition to her, but not on the weekends. That time is just for her.”

If I hadn’t heard this directly from his mouth, would I have believed it?

Does He Have a Girlfriend? Yes!

signs he has a girlfriendMy stomach tightened like I’d been punched and the air went out of my lungs. That certainly answered the question of does he have a girlfriend. Yes, he does!

That was the end of Romeo. I didn’t make a big scene, but I said I was no longer interested and sent him out the door for good. I doubt he cared. In fact, he had quite a smirk on his face.

But this situation resulted in an eye-opening look into how some men think about dating and relationships.

Everything is not always as it seems and it’s not wise to assume anything.

Ask Him, Are You Seeing Someone?

If you’re dating a guy who doesn’t have time on the weekends for you, something is NOT right. Be brave and ask him about it to see what kind of answer he provides.

He may change the subject, skirt the issue, or make something up. Regardless of what comes out of his mouth, if he’s uncomfortable delivering the answer – you know something is wrong.

Watch his body language and especially his eye contact. Did he look you in the eye when he answered? Or did he turn away? That’s the sign of a liar – so pay attention to his body language more than his words.

Signs You Are a Side Chick

what if I'm a side chick and not the only oneHere are nine additional signs you might be a “side chick” and the man you’re dating does have a girlfriend or a wife.

1) He Won’t Tell You Who He’s Texting

Is your guy always texting with people but is mysterious about it? If you think he’s keeping secrets, then he likely is!

2) He Likes To Stay Home With You

Your man tells you he’s tired from work and just wants to snuggle on the couch. Or he’s a homebody and wants to keep you all to himself.

Both these reasons should set off alarm bells. If he doesn’t want to be seen out in public with you, there’s a reason – like he’s got a wife and can’t be caught with you.

3) You’ve Never Been to His House

Even though you may have asked, you’ve never seen where he lives. Maybe he claims your place is so much better or he’s embarrassed about how messy his is. Beware! He is hiding something and it could be you.

4) He Won’t Allow You to Take His Picture

He is really firm on this – no photos of him for social media or even for yourself. The reason why doesn’t matter, this is highly suspicious. If you’re still wondering, does he have a girlfriend, now you know he does.

5) He Has Rules about Social Media

While he may blame this on work, he’s against being on social media. You cannot add him as a friend or ever post about him. He just won’t have it.

6) He Never Stays Over

could he have a girlfriendEven if you spend a lot of time together, he never spends the night. No matter how much you ask or the creative ways you come up with to get him to do it, staying over is not an option.

Why? Most likely it’s not because he won’t sleep well, but instead he has to get home to his primary woman.

7) You’ve Never Met His Family or Friends

While you’ve introduced him to the people in your life, he has not done the same. You are his secret which might sound so sweet, but it’s a big fat red flag his peeps can’t know about you. That’s because he does have a girlfriend.

8) He Only Reaches Out When He Wants Sex

You don’t hear from him often in between dates. In fact, when you think about it, he only texts when he wants sex. That tells you right there everything you need to know. Don’t let him use you!

9) He’s Not Free to See You on Holidays

This is a classic red flag that answers the question, “Does he have a girlfriend?” If he can’t see you on the holidays, then he is sure spending them with someone else.

Red Flags That Indicate He Has a Girlfriend

observe a man's actions don't rely on his words aloneNow you have a total or 10 red flags that let you know something is not right and the guy you are seeing probably has another woman in his life. You can’t ignore that nagging question any longer – does he have a girlfriend?

Be BRAVE. He’s not the only man on the planet for you, even if it seems that way in the moment. Even if you love him more than any man ever in your life, don’t settle for a liar and a cheater.

If you are looking for lasting love and a commitment in traditional relationship, walk away when you discover he is seeing someone else.

The chances of his leaving the other woman, are super slim and almost non-existent regardless of what he tells you.

You become the other woman because he was with her first. Don’t let yourself fall into or stay in this trap.

Healing and getting over this man are possible when you put your mind to it. Then, when you feel up to it, go out to find a new man who is relationship ready. He does exist, so do not settle for anything less!


Learn more about men who are inconsistent and say one thing but doe another. Get my Free ebook His Mixed Signals Are So Confusing!

Single for too long, Ronnie wanted to find love. She put her skills from personal development and her spiritual path to work, dating 30 men in 15 months to meet her adorable husband Paul. Discovering the keys to manifesting and midlife dating, she founded It’s Never Too Late to help smart, successful women find love or live an empowered and magical life. Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC, is a Certified Coach who has helped 1,000s of midlife women with her Love & Magical Life Coach services. She’s the host of the Breathe Love & Magic podcast and has been featured on NBC, ABC, & Fox News, NPR, BBC, eHarmony,, and Connecticut Magazine among others. Also, Ronnie is the author of 6 books which are available on Amazon.

2 thoughts on “Does He Have a Girlfriend? He Doesn’t Ask Me Out For the Weekend”

  1. I dated a man for 2 months and he didn’t exactly have any of the typical red flags, I met all his friends, colleagues and even his parents. We spent all the time together, it was like we were living together. On the day back from visiting his parents, a woman called him on the phone multiple times, then the truth came up: He had a girlfriend in another country. How could I avoid such situation early on when the guy is so tight with his lies? He even told me he broke up with his ex gf a year ago and is really looking for someone to start a family with on date 1.

    • Hi Lisa, Sorry this happened to you. Sometimes there aren’t any signals, so I hope you aren’t blaming yourself. I am curious though how often he sees a woman from another country? Not that it’s acceptable to have more than one relationship a unless you are both polyamorous.

      He might be the kind of guy (did he show narcissist tendencies?) who needs a lot of attention which explains the instant relationship and practically living together so quickly. To me, THIS IS A RED FLAG.

      I advise my clients not to fold their lives in with a man immediately, but allow it to unfold over time – like 3 months. My suggestion for the future is, if you meet a man like this again, put the BRAKES on. See him twice a week or once during the week and the weekend. Don’t give yourself fully until time goes by and you see he is worthy of trust and your full-out love.

      Often in a situation like this where a guy comes on strong, the relationship burns out in a very short time. Sometimes weeks, sometimes a few months. Slow might not be as exciting, but it’s safer for your heart.

Leave a Comment