Dating Over 40: Do You Have the Sex-Kitten Curse?

Some women are just born sexy.  They can’t help it and often they don’t try – they just are.  It’s in their very nature.  But it’s not a guarantee for dating or relationship success.  In fact, it can actually be a curse!

I know you are probably thinking, “I should be so cursed.”  But the key here isn’t just attracting men – it’s attracting the “right” men.  One of my clients is a good looking woman, 37, medium build.  She’s not drop dead gorgeous or even model beautiful.  But she’s VERY HOT.

What is it that makes her so alluring?  Not her clothing which is  flattering, but not outrageous.  No Fredericks of Hollywood. The root of her allure is her body language more than anything else.  Her underlying inner knowing that she has serious sex appeal.  When you look at her picture, she oozes appeal.  It’s in her eyes – a certain look that cannot be denied. And men want her. 

Unfortunately, not the right men. She continues to meet plenty of guys, but there’s a catch. They seem to have a similar “agenda.”  And frankly, she’s tired of it.  So what’s a kitten to do to find her man?

Here’s what I suggested. BELIEVE you are worthy of love.  BELIEVE  there is a good man out there for you.  BELIEVE that you can attract a solid prospect based on who you are as a person, not just as a kitten. Let these beliefs soak into your subconscious mind because that is the place from which your messages to the Universe are formulated.

Think about it – the process is the same as for a woman who feels she’s not attractive enough.  The truth is the kitten curse is the exact flip side of thinking you are not at all appealing.  And neither thought is true.  For women who hold either self-image or perspective, the focus requires believing that LOVE IS POSSIBLE FOR YOU!

Whatever you look like, remember there really is someone for everyone who wants to make the effort to find a loving partner.  Attractive women can have just as difficult a time finding love as any woman does.  Looks aren’t always an advantage. 

If you have the kitten curse, spend time reminding yourself that you are desirable for other qualities beyond being sexy.  Each one of you is a unique woman with your own special gifts.  Once you know deep inside that this is true, that is the body language and message you will undoubtedly send out to the Universe. And, the Universe will answer with better quality men to date.

Single for too long, Ronnie wanted to find love. So, she made a few tweaks and then dated 30 men in 15 months to meet her adorable husband Paul. Discovering the keys to midlife dating, she founded It’s Never Too Late for Love to help other smart, successful women find love too! Her mission is to share her proven dating advice  and keen insights about men with women everywhere who are serious about finding love with the right man. Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC is a Certified Coach who has helped 1,000’s of midlife women with her Love & Dating Coach services. She’s been featured on BBC’s 5 Live Radio, NBC, ABC, and Fox News, NPR, eHarmony,,, Connecticut Magazine among others around the world. An established author, you can find her 6 books on Amazon.

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