Dating Over 40: Desire for Change – Will 2008 Be Your Year for Love?

Not sure what your email in-box looks like but mine is ful of cut price offers and end of the year specials.  That’s because smart business people know this is a time of year for resolutions when desire for change runs high.

Personally I’m not a big fan of resolutions because they have often gone by the wayside by January 15th. Forgotten in the dust of old habits that tend to die hard. So what’s a desirous dater who is looking for love suppoed to do?

First, create a PLAN.  Making a resolution is just the start. If you truly want success, you’ll need a PLAN. It’s great to know what you want – but how will you get there? A plan is like having a road map – it helps you reach your destination. Start thinking about the steps you can take to make finding love possible. Brainstorm your Dating Action Plan and if you want a free format to fill in, just leave me a post right here.

Second, the plan has to be REALISTIC. According to, realistic means "…based on what is real or practical." Excellent point. Get practical. What are you actually willing to do? What is possible? How much time can you spend. Spend time getting real about the steps you will take to find the love you want.

Third, you need to be willing to STRETCH a bit. If you want to stay in your little comfort zone, you’ll make little progress. You have to step outside the box and try a few new things to find the love you want. No need to go crazy or do anything outlandish – that’s why step two calls for realism. Stretch beyond your usual borders to improve your chances for finding love. If it hasn’t happened in your everyday life so far, it’s not going to happen that way tomorrow either.

Fourth, if possible, get a DATING BUDDY.  This may sound silly but it’s a powerful step to keep you motivated and moving forward. Slipping back into old habits that keep yo usingle is so easy. Staying on track requires the stretch and some stick-to-it-tiveness. That’s why a buddy is fabulous – because you can talk each other into taking one more step. going out when you want to stay in, being hopeful when you rather throw in the towel. And let’s face it, there’s nothing like a dating buddy to listen to your complaints – then make you laugh!

Achieving your goal of finding love is no different than going for any other goal. The process is exactly the same. And these steps will work for any accomplishment you desire. Start creating your Dating Action Plan so you can get on the road to finding the love you want in 2008. You are the only who can do it. Make it easier and more probable by following these four steps.

Why not leverage the energy of resolutions without making one? A plan is far better and much more effective than any resolution will ever be. Make your resolution super simple if yo umust – something like — this will be the year for change. Then PLAN to make that a reality. Here’s to your success!



Single for too long, Ronnie wanted to find love. So, she made a few tweaks and then dated 30 men in 15 months to meet her adorable husband Paul. Discovering the keys to midlife dating, she founded It’s Never Too Late for Love to help other smart, successful women find love too! Her mission is to share her proven dating advice  and keen insights about men with women everywhere who are serious about finding love with the right man. Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC is a Certified Coach who has helped 1,000’s of midlife women with her Love & Dating Coach services. She’s been featured on BBC’s 5 Live Radio, NBC, ABC, and Fox News, NPR, eHarmony,,, Connecticut Magazine among others around the world. An established author, you can find her 6 books on Amazon.

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