Dating Over 40: Worried You Won’t Find Love? A Butt-Kickin’ Message from the Dating Coach

Believe in Yourself and Love
Believe in Yourself and Love

Do you waffle in your belief that love is possible for you?

I just got an email from one of my clients who is struggling with her chances to find a good man. Please read on if you have this issue in your dating life because this could dramatically turn things around for you! It’s all written with loving support – I want to see you succeed!

What are you willing to do to make your dreams become a reality?
When you go to parties or attend dating events, and you don’t meet a great man, don’t allow that to become evidence that love is not for you. Attitude is everything!

Yes, it is possible, but it takes dedication, perseverance and the knowledge that some how, some way you are going to make this happen. You are of course the ONLY PERSON WHO CAN DO THIS

 I’ve seen it happen many times. My clients come to me negative and hopeless and then manage to turn things around. That’s what I myself did! I totally understand.

Now, don’t take offense, but what makes you think you are so different from me or others who have successfully found love? Do not separate yourself from others who have been successful. YOU ARE JUST LIKE US REGARDLESS OF YOUR STORY. If you feel different, that is a JUST a PERSPECTIVE you are choosing. Instead, choose to be like the women who have found love!

You have just as much chance and opportunity as anyone else who has been successful. In fact, one of my clients just met a woman, 55 who married for the first time. And she married a guy who had never been married before either!

It’s your job to keep your negative inner chatter in check so it doesn’t bring you down or keep you from achieving your goal. Find a way – create some self-talk that you will use consistently. something like, “Love is mine and is coming my way now.” Use affirmations like this to keep yourself moving, active and inspired!  Don’t let your inner gremlin (that nasty voice who says love isn’t possible) get in your way.  

 Maybe you are using affirmations, but just need some tweaking. Try different affirmations until you find the one that sits right with you. Don’t give up!

This is the dating drill sergeant saying  – SUCK IT UP GIRL! You can do this!  Stop wishy-washing all over town and start BELIEVING in yourself, in life, in the cosmic forces of the Universe that love for you is not only possible, it’s highly probable. You deserve love and you can have it.

Now what are you going to do to make love a reality in your life?

 photo credit: Amal’s zone

Single for too long, Ronnie wanted to find love. So, she made a few tweaks and then dated 30 men in 15 months to meet her adorable husband Paul. Discovering the keys to midlife dating, she founded It’s Never Too Late for Love to help other smart, successful women find love too! Her mission is to share her proven dating advice  and keen insights about men with women everywhere who are serious about finding love with the right man. Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC is a Certified Coach who has helped 1,000’s of midlife women with her Love & Dating Coach services. She’s been featured on BBC’s 5 Live Radio, NBC, ABC, and Fox News, NPR, eHarmony,,, Connecticut Magazine among others around the world. An established author, you can find her 6 books on Amazon.

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