Dating Over 40: Why the Flirts Have It!

Do you flirt? What do you think of women who flirt? Do you have an attitude about women who use their feminine charm to gain male attention? I hope you said “No”, because flirting is essential to meeting good men today. Oh yes, it’s true.

Flirting is a fun and playful way to interact with men. The truth is, flirting simply acknowledges other people. When you see notice a man looking at you and you smile back at him, you are non-verbally communicating that you see him. You acknowledge his presence. Today, acknowledgement is a very rare commodity. Do you get enough acknowledgement?

When you make eye contact and smile briefly, you are allowing yourself to feel a man’s admiration and appreciation of you. That’s it. There’s no commitment, no promise, no teasing him. If a man reads into your smile, that’s his problem, not yours.

Become aware of the power of your smile. If you do this two to three times with the same man, he will take this as a signal that you would be willing to talk with him, should he approach you. As a woman, you WANT men to approach you. How else will you meet the men you don’t already know?

Now, you have to keep in mind the best flirting has no agenda. If you think you can flirt your way into something or capture a specific man’s attention, it might fail you. Instead, flirt as a way of life to share your delightful nature and don’t worry about your agenda. My dating coaching clients learn this is particularly important when you are somewhere (singles events, dances, the gym, etc.) men can notice you. As you demonstrate your friendly, fun attitude, more men will be willing to risk talking to you.

Men don’t like to be rejected, so flirting makes you approachable! There’s absolutely no way to lose, but the gains can be amazing. If you are dating over 40 or dating after divorce, start honing your flirting skills. Its easy to learn. Start by smiling and making brief eye contact. Dare to say hello. Strike up a conversation in a crowded bar or networking event. And don’t save it up for just the right guy because you won’t be practiced enough or seem natural.

Flirt with almost anyone, any time and you won’t believe the shift in your dating life. You’ll smile more because you’ll be making others feel good. Acknowledging others will lift your spirits and make you feel good about yourself. When you choose me as your dating coach, you’ll discover how this is a win-win situation.

So get busy. Try flirting with someone today and make it your new habit. This is your ticket to attracting more men than you ever dreamed possible.

Single for too long, Ronnie wanted to find love. She put her skills from personal development and her spiritual path to work, dating 30 men in 15 months to meet her adorable husband Paul. Discovering the keys to manifesting and midlife dating, she founded It’s Never Too Late to help smart, successful women find love or live an empowered and magical life. Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC, is a Certified Coach who has helped 1,000s of midlife women with her Love & Magical Life Coach services. She’s the host of the Breathe Love & Magic podcast and has been featured on NBC, ABC, & Fox News, NPR, BBC, eHarmony,, and Connecticut Magazine among others. Also, Ronnie is the author of 6 books which are available on Amazon.

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