Dating Over 40: Oxford PhD Married NYC “Garbargolist”

Finding Love is Possible!
Finding Love is Possible!

Call me a mush, but this video from the New York Times site brought tears to my eyes. In case the link gets messed up – watch the video about Avery and Matt from the Style section. 

Avery is extremely accomplished with a degree from Stanford and a doctorate from Oxford and her man – hauls garbage in alphabet city on the lower east side of NYC.

They met on the F train at the end of the day on Friday  the 13th, apparently a very lucky day for the two of them. Avery sat down on top of Matt’s coat and they started chatting. The conversation was going well enough that when Avery’s stop came, Matt asked if she’d like to go for a drink off the train. Avery had an adventurous spirit and said the key word, “Yes”.

Don’t tell me that you are too intimidating to men. While Matt said he was intimidated, that didn’t stop him from pursuing Avery immediately. When a man sees a woman he likes, he goes for it.

Watch the whole thing so you can see his adorable marriage proposal. Fabulous!

As your over 40 dating coach, I hope you wake up after watching this video to realize that finding love is totally possible. And while you might not want to date a sanitation worker, that doesn’t mean there aren’t plenty of other decent men out there who would be wonderful partners.

Get off your “Men are intimated by me” high horse and smile, strike up a conversation and consider men who you might usually ignore. They might not have the bad boy charm of George Clooney, but could still make you very happy. It’s worth the effort – ask Avery!

photo credit: Christopher Hawkins

Single for too long, Ronnie wanted to find love. So, she made a few tweaks and then dated 30 men in 15 months to meet her adorable husband Paul. Discovering the keys to midlife dating, she founded It’s Never Too Late for Love to help other smart, successful women find love too! Her mission is to share her proven dating advice  and keen insights about men with women everywhere who are serious about finding love with the right man. Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC is a Certified Coach who has helped 1,000’s of midlife women with her Love & Dating Coach services. She’s been featured on BBC’s 5 Live Radio, NBC, ABC, and Fox News, NPR, eHarmony,,, Connecticut Magazine among others around the world. An established author, you can find her 6 books on Amazon.

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