Dating Over 40: How Single Women Can Make the Most of Valentine’s Day

Over 40 Dating
Over 40 Dating

Well, we made it – the final day of the Valentine’s Week Blog-a-thon. It’s been incredibly fun and very exciting connecting with all these fabulous dating experts across the country. I hope you have enjoyed it as much as we have AND, we hope this helps you have a fun and memorable Valentine’s Day.

The post below is mine – from Ronnie Ann Ryan – The Dating Coach. I’ve been a dating coach for 8 years now and since I found love and married for the first time over 40, I know you can do it too! Whether or not you’re marriage-minded, finding love is a real possibility. Hopefully, you have a firm grasp on the idea so it’s firmlyembedded into your psyche. I’ve worked with over 2,000 people to successfully jump start or accelerate their search for love. People fall in love every day – why not you?


Crazy as this may sound, one of the best Valentine’s Days I ever had was right after I broke up with a boyfriend. I was upset and unhappy. So, I spent some time thinking about what would make me happy and be fun. I came up with this list and let me tell you – it worked like a charm!

If you are single and dating over 40 or dating after divorce, try some of these ideas yourself this year on Valentine’s Day and see if the holiday passes with greater ease, and even some joy!

Buy Flowers for  Your Girlfriends!
That’s right – I bought my friends Jill and Michelle a big bunch of gorgeous flowers, and some for me too of course! They were totally thrilled and I was too when I saw the appreciative look on their faces.

Have Dinner with Friends
We went out to a nice restaurant and enjoyed the meal we’d like to have had with a partner. The meal was truly memorable with yummy seafood and decadent chocolate cake for dessert. We deserved the best regardless of our relationship status!

Toast Your Friends and Your Life
Yeah, we even went for the champagne.  We toasted the good things in our lives and each other. Then we made wishes for the following year and the next Valentine’s Day.

Buy Cards for Friends and Neighbors
Do you know someone who is sick, single, older and/or alone? Is there someone who often helps you at work? Brighten their day and yours by remembering them on Valentine’s Day. We gave Valentine’s to everyone in our classes in grade school – return to this practice and watch the smiles!

Buy Treats for Your Pets
Sometimes there’s nothing better than the unconditional love of a pet. Treat them well on Valentine’s Day to enjoy the love they share with you all year round.

Celebrate with Your Children
Your kids can make your Valentine’s Day very special. Make a big deal of the holiday for them. Cook a special meal, put chocolate hearts in their lunch boxes, or have a family game night. Whatever your family would like – do it up and share the love.

Smile All Day Long
There are plenty of singles who might feel down on Valentine’s Day. You can brighten their day and yours at the same time with something as simple as a smile. When you catch a man’s eye, smile back to acknowledge him. There’s no promise of anything more – but this can make someone’s day and yours too. Smile often enough and it may even become a habit! You can’t lose when you flash those pearly whites.

It’s Just One day
This is what I tell my over 40 dating coaching clients. -if none of these suggestions work for you, then keep this happy thought in mind. Valentine’s Day is just one day, once a year. It will pass quickly and then you can go back to life as usual. On the other hand, try something new from the list above. I’m sure you’ll be glad you did.


Want more Blog-a-thon? Great!
To read posts from all the other days this week, see links below and enjoy.

To read Day 1 by the Dating Goddess, midlife dating expert click here
To read Day 2 by Alyssa Johnson, relationship after divorce expert  click here
To read Day 3 by Laurie Davis, eFlirt Expert and co-host of LoveNation click here
To read Day 4 by SingleMomSeeking, top-rated single mom blogger click here
To read Day 5 by Terry Hernon MacDonald, happily married dating blogger click here
To read Day 6 by DeAnna Lorraine, Dating – Relationship Coach & NLP Practitioner click here

photo credit LuLu

Single for too long, Ronnie wanted to find love. She put her skills from personal development and her spiritual path to work, dating 30 men in 15 months to meet her adorable husband Paul. Discovering the keys to manifesting and midlife dating, she founded It’s Never Too Late to help smart, successful women find love or live an empowered and magical life. Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC, is a Certified Coach who has helped 1,000s of midlife women with her Love & Magical Life Coach services. She’s the host of the Breathe Love & Magic podcast and has been featured on NBC, ABC, & Fox News, NPR, BBC, eHarmony,, and Connecticut Magazine among others. Also, Ronnie is the author of 6 books which are available on Amazon.

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